Ask The Batemaster: To Tell Or Not To Tell, That Is The Question
My sex life with my partner is very healthy. How do I bring up my masturbation addiction to them, especially considering that I’m a chronic edger/gooner?
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Ask The Batemaster: Ejaculation And Your Life Force
The idea that you lose life force after every ejaculation mostly comes from the ancient Taoist teachings from China, about cultivating erotic energy by experiencing intense, prolonged sexual stimulation, but then retaining your semen. This idea can also be found in the Tantra teachings of East India.
Ask The Batemaster: Socks & Other Fetishes
There is nothing wrong with what turns you on. This one probably qualifies as a sexual fetish. Such a fetish is usually a situation, a prop, a costume, an image, or any particular practice, even a role-playing fantasy, that heightens your arousal.
Ask The Batemaster: Sexual Fantasies
Distinguishing your fantasies vs. realities is important!
QUESTION: Is it wrong to fantasize about something that could be immoral, or even illegal while I masturbate? Some of those things just turn me on so intensely, man, like nothing else!
RESPONSE: Many people assume that fantasizing is what masturbation is all about. Of course, creative self-pleasure has many other major delicious facets. You can make a case for the fact that watching and listening to porn is a form of media-assisted fantasy, because you use the images that arouse you to stimulate your pleasure, and yet it remains vicarious. It is not what is actually happening here and now, though your sensations are real. But live-action porn did happen somewhere at some time and was recorded for an audience.
Ask The Batemaster: Foreskin
"I notice some guys look at me funny, or even scowl. Should I say something?"
QUESTION: I’m uncut here in the USA, because my mother is sort of a Deadhead hippie type. She’s told me it’s more natural. I absolutely love my foreskin, but being in the minority in the showers at school, I notice some guys look at me funny, or even scowl. Should I say something?
RESPONSE: This can be a really sensitive subject, but unless someone says something to you or really looks freaked out, maybe it’s best to just appreciate the extra you’ve got. Try not to let anyone else’s opinion about you bother you on this, or anything else. Still, if someone says something that makes you feel weird, just say, “This is how I’m made, and I love it!” Who knows? He might even want a demonstration, or at least a bit of education!
Ask The Batemaster: I Cum Too Fast! Can You Help Me?
Premature Ejaculation: There's nothing to be ashamed of!
QUESTION: I’m 27 years old in the military, and this is really embarrassing. I guess you call it premature ejaculation. I’m ashamed to admit it. Really cramps my style. My penis is so incredibly sensitive, I just cum way too fast. With anyone else, or alone, either way. I can’t even edge at all. HELP ME!
RESPONSE: There’s nothing to be ashamed of here. You’re brave to speak out honestly on this. It’s a far more common issue for men than you might imagine. Also, there is the opposite issue, of guys who get hard and enjoy stimulation but have a difficult time getting to the orgasm. Your extreme sensitivity, I totally understand, because I was something like that myself until my early 40s, when I discovered what I call Mindful Masturbation. I’m still extremely sensitive, but I’ve learned to make ejaculation a choice. I learned to enjoy intense pure penis pleasure for as long and I want to stay in that glorious place indefinitely.
What Does “Watching Porn” Even Mean?
It’s time we talk directly about masturbation as masturbation, the way images are incorporated into our masturbatory expression with a sense of playful exploration of what we find sexually appealing. People need to be called out to stop the euphemisms and speak directly about the subject before we can take the discussion seriously.
Ask Dr. Bate: Cheating and Sperm Count
"I'm a happily partnered Bator who is fortunate enough to get plenty of alone time weekly to hone my skill. But I would love to find a Bate Bro to share things with since my partner likes to keep things more traditional... 1. How do I find a bro that is just into bating together and nothing else; and 2. Would it be cheating if there is absolutely no mutual masturbation or deep emotions involved?!"
Milker Masturbation Technique: The Irish Pilgram
Masturbation is “milking your penis,” right? Ok, not really. This milking masturbation technique is called the Irish Pilgrim. The name is self-explanatory, and no you don’t have to be Irish or a cow to try this renowned masturbation technique. Well, maybe, but that's a story for another time.
Ask Dr. Bate: Blue Balls and Messy Lube
Recently, however, I feel like my nuts are so fucking sore after just a few hours of masturbation instead of the all-night/all-day bate sessions of my youth (I’m nearing 40). I don’t know if I need to relieve my blue balls sooner or if there’s some other remedy/trick you recommend. Or even if this could signal a serious health issue. What can I do? What do you recommend?
Popper Terminology
Popper bate scenarios (abbreviations) explained as written by BateWorld member Poppers2enjoy
Prostrate Stimulation: The Pleasures of Assturbation
I know that most readers here probably don’t care who the butt players are, who the “bottoms” are or why because they (we) realize it’s part of our nature as men and as masturbators to explore all areas of yourself regardless of your sexuality. This is mainly for anyone who has ever considered touching their butthole, pleasuring it, asking their partner to, but felt concerned that maybe it means something else “Maybe I’m gay…”