The Online Option AKA “Cybersex”

Most of the articles my wife and I have written so far for the Masturbation Has No Orientation column on The Bator Blog have dealt with real life J/O sessions with other guys. I’ve been fortunate that my wife and I have agreed to such activities as part of our married lives together. However, there are many men, married or not, for whom real life bate sessions are not an option at this time for various reasons. For those guys, this article focuses on the online option AKA “Cybersex” or “Cyber-masturbation” as a fulfilling alternative for sexual satisfaction and exploring.

An amazing counselor helped my wife and I open up our marriage a few years ago as we dealt with topics such as my bisexuality, and our mismatched libidos. (Read The Bator Blog’s exclusive interview with my wife). Although we love each other very much and have a deep emotional bond, I am wired to want and enjoy sexual release way more than she is. As the counselor went over all the options, one that we talked about was how I like to chat with guys online and watch models in cam rooms as well as porn videos. The counselor dubbed this my “sand box,” as this is how I enjoyed my masturbatory play time. If my wife had not agreed to open marriage, this was a fall back plan I had in mind. The truth is, even though I now bate with guys openly, and my wife and I still have sex, about 95% of my sexual needs are satisfied online.

There are many reasons online sex/masturbation may be preferable for guys. Some might identify as solosexual (there is a great article here, Solophilia by Bateworld Member Saboteur). Some might live in rural areas where it’s hard to meet with guys (my ex-bf lives in a rural town where he services many of the otherwise straight men there, but that’s another story, lol). Some might not be able to open up with their partner or spouse about their masturbation habits. For some guys who are more introverts (I can relate) online sex is just easier than all that goes into meeting guys in real life. For all these guys and more, cybersex is a great and fulfilling option.

My typical online bate session starts in my den where our PC is. Sometimes I get started on my phone sitting in the living room. I’m a home nudist so I just use a throw cover to pull over my erection if I get hard. I prefer bating when my wife is out of the house, or asleep. But there are times when I’m particularly horny that I just let her know I need some computer time in the “man cave.” That’s our code. I have a routine to open several tabs starting with Bateworld, as well as Bateworld Chaturbate, and also erotic stories and porn video sites. I interact as well with a couple friends who are local bate buds and we share and talk about porn links through email.

Bateworld

It’s not just because I’m writing this for Bateworld that I say it is the premier, worldwide J/O community for men. I’ve been using online porn since the internet started, and it truly is. Many guys use it to meet in person or for vidchat sessions or to phone. The features I like best include the polls and blog stories. I write true life erotic stories of my in-person bate sessions with guys. I also like the pics of hard penises and videos that members post of how they masturbate.

I’m a premium member. I like the informative articles, groups and messages. But most of all I enjoy real time chat with fellow masturbators who are doing the same thing I am. I really like sex chat that increases each other’s arousal.  I also love role play where we take turns acting out scenes involving our sexual fantasies.  I tend to have broad tastes in turn-ons and usually enter into the fantasy world of the guys I chat with to help each other reach orgasm. This also helps me learn about and explore new turn-ons and fetishes, including some I never knew I had. I also share porn links with guys as we chat about them and jerk off. Depending on the guy, these might involve gay, straight or bi scenes. I like them all since I’m bi.

I’m especially fond of making online friends with other bators. There are two guys now who really get off on the encouragement I give them through chat while we’re masturbating. One Bateworld member who lives in another state, who asked to be anonymous, and with whom I chat and masturbate frequently shares, “Chatting with the right guys while we both masturbate is fulfilling and really great for opening up and truly enjoying our male bodies and sexuality. It’s about being able to share in the enjoyment of our uniquely male parts, as well as sharing in the fact that we all masturbate. We are able to enjoy it together and receive encouragement to enjoy it which promotes male bonding and better ejaculations.”

Another Bateworld member said, “When I was younger, I hooked up with people and I was safe, but there was always the worry. With online sex, you can indulge your fantasies but there is no fear of catching anything, and no judgments. Online you can say you thought about your dad, but in real life that would be a no-no, in most cases. And I didn’t have sex with my dad, and didn’t give it any thought back then, but now, that dad/son dynamic is a turn-on, but it can safely be a fantasy that gets me off and no harm done. Fantasy is separate from reality and I think that’s cool–when people know the difference.”

Many guys come from a religious background, which often causes them conflicts with their faith and sexuality. I host a group called Christian Masturbators to promote a healthy integration between sex and spirituality. I met one guy there who was seeking just this type of internal unity and brotherhood. We masturbate often while chatting together, aware of and talking about our faith, how our penises feel, and we even pray together sometimes thanking God for the pleasure of our masturbation.

I love meeting the wide variety of guys from all over the world and sharing in our universal brotherhood of celebrating what’s between our legs.

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Bateworld Chaturbate

Cam rooms have revolutionized online human sexuality. Models are their own producers and directors, and they can work solo or with partners. Exhibitionists and other broadcasters find a large and willing audience who enjoy their bodies and performances while they are jerking themselves off. I enjoy both straight couples, as well as gay, and solo males, all displaying their aroused sex organs, copulation and masturbation while we chat.

I like the playful ones best who are clearly enjoy themselves and showing off. And I like to tip for requests and to activate various remote controlled anal toys. I’m a paying “fan” of a few solo male chat rooms and I especially like to encourage younger guys who are first starting out. Chaturbate has rather rigorous age verification procedures so it stays relatively safe worry free.

Porn

Needless to say, there is endless variety in online porn. To quote the authors of the book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts,” “If it can be imagined, there is probably porn made of it.” I look at porn not just for its arousal value, but the sheer beauty of watching other people having sex. I marvel at the male body especially, and how each part seems made just for having intercourse: Firm buttocks, strong legs, thrusting, hard penises and wet vaginas, or open rectums.

I greatly respect porn actors and actresses and the contribution they make to our sexual and interpersonal wellbeing. I live in Florida which is a recent porn capital and I hope not only that the industry thrives but that standards are raised to avoid any type of exploitation and so the actors can have the best experiences possible. No other human activity is done in private. Why shouldn’t we watch others have sex since it brings so much natural joy?

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I have a couple of toys I use on occasion, a Quickshot and a dildo for anal play. I usually masturbate dry and rarely use poppers. I’ve found recently that the combination of cannabis (legal here for medical) and tadalafil used for recreational purposes can produce some of the most mind bending, toe curling, slow, intense  orgasms I’ve ever had. Especially when lost in the ecstasy of porn. For those up for trying it, tasting one’s own leakage can add to the experience.

So, there’s a whole world of fun at our fingertips. I hope this has been a good, sex-positive overview from the perspective of one Bateworld member. Whether you are bisexual, bicurious, solosexual, gay, straight, or pornosexual, having sex online can, and should be, a great way to experience community, healthy sexual play and release. Also, you might have a spouse or partner who isn’t ready to agree for you to masturbate in-person with other guys yet. If you are able to be open with them about online masturbation it can help enhance your lives.

What is your experience meeting guys online? On Bateworld? Let us know in the comments below!