Hello and salutations, Bator Bros! Welcome back to the Bator Blog and the Fully Exposed corner of the bate universe. This week we’re talking about sexual diversity in bate spaces.
In this on-going series, I’ll explore everyday interpersonal bate-life interactions, touching on romantic partnerships, platonic parallels, racially driven sexualized narratives, and the dynamics of non-sexual intimacy between men. This week we’re talking about sexual diversity in bate spaces. By shedding light on these unique social experiences, I aim to open pathways for deeper connections beyond ejaculating together. Ultimately, this is about fostering a sense of brotherhood and safe camaraderie, emphasizing the value of male authenticity and connection.
This article looks at sexual diversity within bate spaces. Through identity, connection, and expression, men come together to explore their sexuality through mutual masturbation.
Sexual diversity in bate spaces like BateWorld
Over the years, gay, bi, straight, side, and solosexual bators have all found their place in male-centered platforms. These sexual identities are becoming more visible, and new, reformed definitions of sexuality are giving way to more open expressions of our inner sexual worlds. BateWorld has been a game-changer since 2010, offering a space for men to embrace their sexual nature and masculinity with the privacy and comfort of online interactions. Unlike some platforms at the time, like Skype groups, Craigslist, or Reddit, BateWorld provided a rare, almost exclusive opportunity for this type of connection.
From my perspective and shared conversations during the pandemic, BateWorld experienced a surge in activity and membership. Isolation gave many of us more time to explore our romantic relationships more deeply or adapt solo play time to new home dynamics. For others living alone, it might have been a period of self-discovery and building an online community in a totally new way. Still, no matter the dynamics of it all, it was a “bator awakening” for so many of us. One notable outcome was the rise of interest in gooning, which spread like wildfire, especially within the gay community and social media.
Sexual diversity expression and broader connections
As the community grew, so did the number of various players in the bator sandbox, and opinions differed naturally. Some loved the diversity of sexual expression and broader connections. In contrast, others felt the space may have become less niche. Some even questioned whether masturbation was still the primary focus of the site.
I believe it still is—but the nature of BateWorld, which exposes male sexuality – no matter one’s sexual orientation/preferences – through masturbation, has and will continue to evolve naturally. Fetishes and kinks have expanded and opened new doors to what shared masturbation can mean and what it can be in the moment for anyone looking to explore these activities. It’s a personal journey to understand what fuels your arousal, beyond just seeing a screen of men stroking.
Since joining in 2016, I’ve seen a growing openness among members. Profiles, videos, and groups now reflect a greater variety of interests and comfort levels. VidChat—what I call “Penis TV”—is a prime example of this evolution. Here’s some of what I’ve observed and witnessed on VidChat with a greasy dick over the years:
- A wife (off-screen but hands visible) milking her husband.
- Men using sex toys, pumps, dildos, or vibrators.
- Trans men coaching/sharing with other bators how they enjoy masturbation.
- Straight men discussing their love for vaginas & porn.
These interactions may challenge or excite some members’ expectations and beliefs of what it means to be “a bator.” Still, they reflect the sexual fluidity, sexual diversity, and depth of our community.
Are there limits to what qualifies as “bating”?
Or what is fuel for bating before it becomes something else?
In my view, there is no one-size-fits-all answer, it matters and doesn’t matter, and we will all navigate these new greasy waves of expression differently.
However, while a sexy bator dick can be captivating, many of us seek something more—a connection to the person attached to the penis. Adding that element can also be particularly challenging for bators dating non-bator enthusiasts (bringing up thoughts of whether this is cheating or some alternative) or an eye-opening addition for those in romantic partnerships and/or a beautiful and genuinely extraordinary freeing friendship.
There is excitement in witnessing someone’s pleasure and feeling their energy while masturbating. Still, it often raises more profound questions about what drives our desire to have penis sex together.
Triggering exciting new areas of connection
Where does your mind go in sexual play? It may be a place to let go of responsibility. A place to be naughty? A place to be softly aggressive, or a place of spiritual awakening or union?
For some men new to the bate community, it could very well be about crossing the line (if there is one) between homoerotic and homosocial activities, adding new value and meaning to sexual expression.
This is where the conversation begins with ourselves, partner(s), and trusted bate bros. Ultimately, I don’t have all the answers, but I’m curious to explore these dynamics further. Authenticity and self-acceptance are key to meaningful connections, and they can be hard to achieve when fear or anxiety takes over our thought processes. Still, when we manage to “see” each other honestly and openly, the experience of bating together – no matter who we are or how we identify – can feel like a celebration.
Let’s keep this conversation going down below
What are your thoughts on these matters, and what have your experiences been in this new era of fully exposed masturbation? Drop them in the comments below.
I would also love for your stories and experiences to help shape this series, making it a space where bators (like you!) can learn, grow, and connect more mindfully. Please don’t hesitate to swing by my profile and share what’s on your mind whenever you feel like it. I’m all ears for your thoughts on bator-vulnerability or anything you’re navigating right now in your connections. Rest assured, I’ll handle everything with confidentiality if I incorporate your experiences into the series.
My goal is to create a blog that reflects various situations we all face, not just my perspectives. Let’s make this an authentic voice of our community together!
Until next time, stay greasy and keep bating—it works!
MyB8Buddy
