Advice

Hello. This past year I've discovered that my interest in bating has grown to the extent that I would rather masturbate on cam rather than watching porn. I moved from my hometown to another country and it hasn't been easy adapting socially. I've had a couple of wanking meet-ups and still look for them, but none appear to be more than a one time thing.

I think I'm looking for someone to be friends with and to share the interest in wanking, plus any others. I find myself pretty often chatting online to try and find a fellow bater. Could this be more like an obsession? Maybe I should try finding non bating friends instead?


I grew up in a Southern Baptist household where sex was never mentioned. My parents never prepared me for what I would experience during puberty and adulthood. Their silence on the subject of sex and the human body, along with the daily humiliations of Junior High, required me to carry the weight of a lot of things I was too young to handle, and the traumas that were buried in me then are still alive today.

I love bating. But the problem is I feel like I love bating too much. Even when I am having sex with my people I still think about putting porns on and bating instead of enjoying the sex. Can you give me advice on this? I want to enjoy sex as much as I enjoy bating.

Any advice for smaller bators dealing with always being the smaller one when bating with buddies?

According to the most recent studies, the average length of a flaccid penis is 3.5-3.6 inches. And the average erect penis is about 5.1 inches long. So take a moment and mark those two measurements off on your ruler and remember that, like on a bell curve, most guys you meet and/or bate with are going to fall within that average. Of course there are outliers – some guys are smaller than average while others are larger.

I have a urologist who tells me it’s good to ejaculate on a frequent basis, and I’ve read articles that claim masturbation helps to stave off prostate cancer. Can a man go his whole life without ejaculating? Would that be healthy?

A friend and I got to talking about mutual masturbation and frottage, he loves to masturbate but doesn’t like to frot with guys he doesn’t know very well for fear of getting herpes (genital warts). How likely is someone to get herpes from mutual masturbation or frottage?

I'm a horny young guy (20), and recently I've gotten into a habit that I'm not sure is healthy, especially physically? So, when I jack off, I get hard, edge for a while, then blow my load. All normal, right? Except, sometimes, I'm still SOOOO horny even right after I cum. I keep tugging at my cock and it's still totally soft. Eventually, if I tug enough and just right, I can kind of "make" myself cum while totally soft. Basically, I'm not hard at all. Sometimes I'll get a little stiff as I'm cumming again, but not even then always. I have both an orgasm and an ejaculation- my cum is a little thicker and whiter, too. It feels amaaaazing. But is it healthy?