Advice
What Does “Watching Porn” Even Mean?
It’s time we talk directly about masturbation as masturbation, the way images are incorporated into our masturbatory expression with a sense of playful exploration of what we find sexually appealing. People need to be called out to stop the euphemisms and speak directly about the subject before we can take the discussion seriously.
Ask The Batemaster: Is My Cock Shrinking?
“If you don’t use it, you'll lose it.”
QUESTION I am 43 and have been single for some time. I think my cock is getting smaller cause I only have a wank about once a week and cum quite quick when wanking, also I don’t get a proper hard on when wanking. Any advice on getting a bigger harder cock would be great. Many thanks.
RESPONSE: In fact, there is some truth to “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” With less use, meaning not masturbating often, or longer sessions, your penis can definitely seem smaller, and may actually lose size. I’ve encountered several men who went through prolonged periods with little or no sexual activity following a loss, an illness, or a traumatic breakup, who felt that when they resumed sexual activity, their penis was permanently smaller.
Ask The Batemaster: Leaking Semen Without Orgasming
Pearl-After-Pearl!
QUESTION: How can I give myself small ejaculations or semen releases without actually orgasming?
RESPONSE: Among the endless nuances of male masturbatory excellence are the refinements of what guys call “edging,” dry orgasms, or continuous orgasmic states. Edging generally means spending a lot of time highly aroused, close to orgasm, but not quite going over the edge into ejaculation—at least not until you’re ready to surrender and go over that irreversible Niagara Falls of oblivion.
Ask The Batemaster: Uncut VS. Cut – Are all penises equal?
A Cut Too Far?
QUESTION: Masturbating on vid chat, twice now there’s been a guy with a foreskin who told me I was missing something important, that I’m mutilated because I’m cut. What do you think? Is it a lot better to be uncut?
RESPONSE: All penises are wonderful, circumcised or not! Many men in the USA are still circumcised as infants, a custom that began with World War 2. Of course, Jewish and Islamic men usually are circumcised, mainly for religious reasons. As far as we know the ancient Egyptians invented circumcision. They had mythic and religious beliefs around it, but also in their hot climate, they apparently thought it was easier to keep an exposed penis head clean.
Intimacy — Isn’t There an App for That?
Sexperiential Lessons from Dr. Jallen Rix (hand2rod) What comes to mind when you hear the word “intimacy?” It can stir […]
Ask The Batemaster: Ejaculation & The Prostate
Ejaculation doesn't happen for me any more. Since I was treated for a prostate issue, I don’t really shoot. How do I deal with this when I bate with other guys?
Ask The Batemaster: The Diversity of Pleasure
Different Strokes
QUESTION: I love to try different ways to give myself an orgasm. Is it possible for me to make myself ejaculate if I rub my scrotum? Where is the best part of my scrotum to touch?
RESPONSE: That’s a wonderful question, which opens the doors to all kinds of delicious and delightful pleasures! Most definitely, the skin of your scrotum is very sensitive. There are all sorts of ways to stimulate that soft, textured sac that contains your balls, as bonus additions to penis pleasure.
Ask The Batemaster: The Male Visual Thing
A Multi-Sensory Experience!
Question: I’ve heard that men are primarily visually stimulated, which is why porn is such a thriving industry. But, in my times alone I often prefer to close my eyes and listen to the sounds that come from porn. Have you ever heard of anyone else like this? Would you call it a fetish?
Response: According to studies, there is some truth to the idea that men are more turned on by the visual aspect of observing explicit sexual content than many women are, and that women more often associate emotional warmth with sexual arousal. However, this is only part of the story:
Ask The Batemaster: A Gay Dilemma
Should I Ask?
QUESTION: I’m at university and I’ve got a really hot straight buddy I’d love to jack-off with, but I’m not sure how he’d react, so how do I go about it? He’s in my room a lot. He knows I’m gay and says he doesn’t mind that. Anything to do with sex turns me on totally. But yeah, it’s guys and cocks that get me the most turned on. Help!
RESPONSE: You’ve got to decide for yourself how much you want or need to masturbate with your friend because you’re not sure how he will react. Consider how important his friendship is, and how you will feel if he reacts badly. Still, there are ways to approach the subject can ease you both into the possibility of masturbating together without it becoming a problem.
Ask The Batemaster: Pulling Back From The Edge
In Search Of The Perfect Orgasm
QUESTION: Sometimes while edging, at some point I relax some pelvic muscles, my shaft surges, then jizz flows into my hand, but I stay hard and horny. My cream tastes a bit sweeter than with ordinary orgasms. DAMN, my dick is still raging hard and electrified! What’s happening, and how can I get there more consistently?
RESPONSE: You are experiencing an orgasmic state familiar to me, which is between a “dry orgasm” and a full-blown ejaculatory orgasm. Because you are edging, mentally you seek to pull back from the edge, but your body releases some semen, partly because you may be generating a lot of the components in your edging process. The different taste may be because it’s not all the components of full-blown ejaculatory semen.
Ask The Batemaster: Brain Climax
The Brains Role in Erotic Pleasure
QUESTION: Is it possible to climax with the brain alone?
RESPONSE: Sex education pros sometimes like to tell you that erotic pleasure actually happens in your brain. In a certain sense, this is true. Still, it’s not the entire truth. Pleasure and orgasm register in that mysterious, powerful region between your ears, just like all other sensory input and bodily experience.