QUESTION: What are the best ways to edge and prolong my bate sessions?
RESPONSE: This is a huge subject. For starters, make sure you are breathing deeply into your belly, be sure that you keep relaxed during arousal and stimulation. Pay really close attention to your level of arousal. If you notice you are close to the edge, do something to spread the sensation into the rest of your body away from your penis. Use your other hand to caress yourself with strokes moving outward along your thighs, up your belly to your chest. Change positions, change stroking patterns. There are actually numberless ways to prolong your sessions—and all of them are worth some effort.
Remember that the intensity of arousal is really building up in your brain and mind, though your genitals are stimulated, in your head is where it registers mentally and emotionally. If you get extremely aroused mentally, you may trip over the edge sooner than you wish to ejaculate. Looking at porn can be an overload, or for guys who do not ejaculate so easily, it may work as fuel.
I suggest video chat with fellow masturbators who love to edge together on cam, and you can encourage each other, both in terms of stimulus to keep going, also to prolong your sessions with verbal urging to “Keep going… let’s not cum yet.”
It’s really about paying total attention to your own body and your level of arousal and deliberately working with yourself, to give yourself what you really want most, as you play with yourself for as long as possible.
Here is a link to three blogs on how to climax without ejaculation, or “Dry Orgasm.”
- Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique, Part 1
- Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique, Part 2
- Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique, Part 3
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
Very well explained & a number of good suggestions. I’ve noticed getting older has sort of automatically made my sessions longer. Yes involving our entire body & not just our cock and yes theres a reason we have 2 hands – so use them. Often times when I’m skyping and watching them masturbate they’re only using 1 hand so I’ll suggest they use their free hand to work their nipples or taint. So unless your free hand’s having to hold your cam – use it for pleasuring.
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Excellent advice you give here also, Brother. Inviting the entire body to participate, using both hands, other vairations are all good to encourage. I often use a “monkey-see, monkey-do” mode of encouraging mento vary their masturbation and many guys discover how much they’ve been missing! – BPG
Great comment, Brother! Indeed, using both hands is just one important tweak of many possible things to explore for guys to help break out of our habits. We all, including me, sometimes start to get habituated in our masturbation practice. This is one reason to video your sessions and watch them, or masturbate via videoconference with other guys can prove really valuable–as well as HOT! Thanks again. — BPG
Yes habits are so easy to form & get comfy with. Yes skyping is a great way to explore other techniques + share info with our fellow bators. Not to mention the sights & sounds can be very arousing as well. Especially if you’ve not tried it.
Yes, skype jo’s are a great way to share & learn from other bators. Another suggestion for watching ourselves is the simple use of a small mirror to place in front of us while we’re masturbating.
Yup! Mirror masturbation is always a great idea!
Yeah I use both hands while I edge. One to stroke and one to work my nipples. Love nipple play!!
Yes nipple play adds an extra little spark to a jo session, well for me anyways.
Like many variations on the theme of male self-pleasure, nipple play works to a different extent for different guys… but in my experience, most guys can get into it, and for some it requires a bit of deliberate effort. As they say, energy follows thought, and even some guy who felt their nips were not very sensitive can “wake them up.”
The breath is so powerful. Love this advise
Absolutely!!! – BPG