Howdy bate buddies, welcome to the Male Bag, BateWorld’s advice pod where you ask your burning bate questions and we drop our answers and keep you cumming back for more! This one is all about circle jerks and bator nerves.
I’m COACH, your Mail Master.
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It’s a new year with new bate resolutions and we have two questions related to opening up to new bate possibilities! The first is about easing nerves for first time circle jerks followed by a bator asking how to involve a partner in his bating lifestyle. So let’s get right to it!
Circle Jerks + Nerves
Question: How can I ease my nerves before going to a circle jerk? Any thoughts? Tips?
Answer: This is a great question when it comes to circle jerks and I have some tips.
- Deep, slow breathing can really helps manage anxiety. Try inhaling for a count of four, holding for four, and exhaling for four. This can help lower your heart rate and calm your mind.
- Think of the experience as a shared, fun, and hot time. Everyone there is in the same boat, looking to enjoy themselves. There’s no judgment, just mutual participation. Reminding yourself that everyone is there for the same reason can reduce the performance anxiety.
- Try to engage in light conversation with others before things start. It can distract you from your nerves and help you feel more connected to the group … and If you can, use humor to lighten the mood. Laughing can be a great way to release tension.
- Clear Communication is key! Making sure everyone is on the same page about comfort levels and boundaries can make the environment feel safer and less nerve-wracking.
The key is to go at your own pace and remember why you’re there – to enjoy yourself. It’s also perfectly fine to step back or take a break. Enjoy, and stay relaxed!
Opening Up As A Bator
Question: I’m really into the bator community, to the point where I now see it as a lifestyle versus a kink. There’s no better time to me than getting a good long session in after a long day. I want to open up to my partner about it. We practice mutual masturbation all the time. It’s not the same as bating with a bro or a long bate session with poppers and porn. Do you have any advice on how I can open up to him about being a bator or even how to introduce him to the bate community?
Answer: Opening up about your own bator interests can be challenging. I have some tips you might consider when talking to your partner:
- Make sure you have a clear understanding of what being part of the bate community means to you. This can help you explain it better to your partner. Think about what you want to share – is it the community aspect, the act itself, or both?
- Find a relaxed, private setting where you both feel comfortable and are not likely to be interrupted. Avoid times when either of you might be stressed or distracted.
- Begin the conversation with something you know you both share in common about sexuality, like mutual masturbation. This might help ease into the topic naturally.
- Remember, your partner might not immediately understand or accept this part of your identity. He might have questions or need time to process the information. Be patient and open to answering any questions he may have.
- If your partner is curious or open to learning more, offer to share a community like BateWorld and explain what the community stands for … emphasizing consent, respect, and privacy.
- Talk about boundaries and comfort levels. What does sharing this part of your life mean for your relationship? How does it affect intimacy or privacy between you two?
- If your partner is uncomfortable or has reservations, respect his feelings. It’s important that both parties feel safe and respected in the relationship.
- Check in after some time has passed. Relationships are about ongoing communication, so revisit the conversation to see how both of you feel after some reflection.
The goal is to foster understanding and closeness, not necessarily to convert or change your partner’s views or habits. It’s about sharing a part of yourself in hopes of deepening your connection. If at any point the conversation feels too overwhelming for either of you, it’s okay to take a break and continue later. Hope this helps!
Well that’s another episode in the Bag! Thanks for reading bate buddies and keep sending in those voice memo questions!
See you next time on the Male Bag!
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