Before becoming a dedicated BateWorld member, I wasn’t aware that guys all over the world were having “bate dates.”
I’m so grateful I learned, as bate dates are now by far my favorite kind of sexual meet-up.
I’ll share here the top reasons my penis and I consider bate dates to be the best dates, and perhaps encourage some of you who haven’t met other bators in person to give it a go.
LOW PRESSURE
We’ve all met guys on-line and been barraged by endless questions including the dreaded “Into?” Often our answers will be deemed “wrong,” or our photos will be deemed not hot enough, and eventually either our interests or our bodies are deemed “not a match.” It can be seriously deflating to both our egos and our erections.
This is not how things tend to go for a bate date, as parameters are clear from the outset. Expectations are that we both love to masturbate, we both understand how fantastic our cocks can make us feel, and we’re looking for a buddy to share the experience. There need not be endless discussion about what we’re going to do or not do, because it’s clear. We’re going to grease up our dicks and edge the fuck out of them, just like we do when we’re alone.
MORE OPENNESS
Because the parameters of a bate date are clear, I find guys of all stripes are willing to meet. I have met bators both younger and older than I am. I’ve met twinks and I’ve met bears and everything in between. I’ve met guys who identify as straight, bi and gay, and guys with every kind of penis profile. A lot of the criteria that we might use to disqualify guys from our sexual meet-ups disappears when the perception is “it’s just a bate date.” And once we’ve opened ourselves up to all types of men, the ones that turn out to be the “hottest” will often surprise us.
THE BATE BRO BOND
Masturbation is one of the most intimate activities there is. We all do it, and most of us do it every day if life allows. During sex with a partner, we are all performing at least a little bit and we are also concentrating to make sure both of us feel good. When we jerk off, we can focus on our own solo pleasure, and we can do all kinds of things to ourselves that we might feel embarrassed asking someone else to do, especially someone we’re meeting for the first time.
When you share your masturbation with another man, it can be incredibly freeing and deeply bonding.
When you share your masturbation with another man, it can be incredibly freeing and deeply bonding. Showing a buddy what you like to do when no one else is around is to expose yourself and to make yourself vulnerable. And while your bate brother is sitting next to you on the couch–legs spread, erection pulsing and leaking with precum as he shows you what he does when he’s alone–he’s vulnerable too. Sharing this experience is a massive turn-on. A successful bate date can feel more intimate and bonding than any other sexual act.
EXPLORE EVERYTHING BATING CAN MEAN
The implicit boundaries of a bate date are useful for the reasons I’ve laid out above. However, these boundaries need not constrict you. Sometimes a bate date might mean sitting on the couch and stroking together while looking at porn and nothing more. Which is damn fun. But allow yourself to explore all the things connecting with another bator can mean.
I’ve had bate dates where we’ve modeled each other’s underwear. I’ve had bate dates where a guy touched me with his foot and I almost came because it surprised me how much it turned me on. I’ve met guys who love to kneel in front of me and masturbate my penis right in front of their faces because they get off on seeing my cock so close up. I personally love the sight of my bate bud stroking both of our boners, stroke for stroke, one in each hand so that we’re feeling the same thing at the same time.
If you have a deep connection with a bate brother, possibilities are endless.
Now…writing this has made me want to masturbate. Who wants to get bonded?
What are some of your bate date experiences? Never been on one but want to explore? Drop in the comments below, we want to hear all about it.
Written by BateWorld member Digg
You articulated my own experience perfectly. Sometimes, especially when I’ve invited a new guy to my house, I will text him that my door is unlocked. He can come in, strip, and join me. I’ll already be boned, greased up, and furiously masturbating when he walks in the door. I get off on the exposure and I think there is no better way to meet someone than to express that most intimate and personal act as jacking my cock for him to witness.
Penis is a beautiful and wonderful part of man. HE is what makes us men. Society has raised us to cover and be ashamed of that most important part of our identity. We Bators need to say “fuck that!” and normalize the culture of sharing our penis, openly masturbating, and supporting our brothers to do the same!
Wow I love this article! I’m a married chronic addicted masturbator who is in the process of connecting with another addicted married man. Your description of the date is exactly what I want and need!! I can’t wait to be face to face with my buddy as we goon out together!!
Thanks for expressing what many of of us think and feel
Had a great bate date with a BW member. Didn’t have any real expectations but we both explored our bodies beyond just bate. We kissed a lot, stroked each other, and dick kissed. He let me bate his cock with my mouth. He laid down and sucked on my balls while he bated and shot his load. Then straddled my face and fed me his dick while I bated and came. It was a really hot bate date and I loved every minute of it. So hot.
That is so wonderful. It’s difficult to open up that much..wish I could find a bate pal to do what you all did
No doubt
Loved this! Have enjoyed great “bate dates” myself, pretty much outlined in your article. Zero expectations, which made for both of us being comfortable despite being complete opposites! It was great, and he returned for another session! Then moved away. :(. Another met up at bathhouse as neutral turf, and same thing– though opposites, no strings or expectations, and a good time had by all! For me, this is the perfect “relationship” and I would love more!
Important article. I appreciate your sharing it, and reminding me (us) how vital masturbating is!
The first time best friend and I jacked off together is something I’ll never forget. Seeing him naked for the first time, looking at his dick and comparing it to mine, seeing him have an orgasm. It brought us so close. I would I could do it with my other close male friends.
great post. sharing this most vulnerable state is hot and the ultimate in male bonding
They are the best experience I’ve ever had with guys mostly I don’t even know. Have had many through the years. First time I was 15. My dad let our neighbor stash his porn collection at our house when he got married. He didn’t come much bc he was having sex with his new wife alot but he came over to look at some of his porn. Me and my brother had looked at alot of it and he asked me about it he could tell somebody had went through it. I just confessed he said it was cool and was showing me pictures of him and his wife having sex and then started showing me some of his fav porn. We ended up jo together. Was so much fun. Have loved it ever since.
Majority of us non fortunate guys envy the fuk outta you. Man that’s cool. Just y’all’s little secret.
Majority of us non fortunate guys envy the fuk outta you. Man that’s cool. Just y’all’s little secret. U couldn’t have pryed me away.
My boss was a big guy not fat just big boned. Everyone respected him. He looked after his employees too. It was snowing , complete white out, I needed a ride home. He offered without hesitation. He said he had to do one thing before dropping me off. No problem. He was an easy person to talk to , I was relaxed around him.?He was tall 6’2. Big broad shoulders he obviously worked out at the gym . Red hair blue eyes beard short hair. We stopped at a hardware store. I waited in the pick up truck. He dropped me off at my apartment. Soon he was dropping me off on regular basis. I asked him in to watch sports and beer . We were alone. After a few too many beers … It just sort of happened.
We were bating together. Neither of us thought it was weird. We did this a lot on a regular basis. At work we behaved in the roles we were presented . But once we were in my apt we would shed our clothes and bate, and so on… it was very freeing to have friend like Barry.