Jason Armstrong (Wildhorse100) talks all things Solosexual with fellow Bateworld member StrokingtheSoul (Anthony)

Jason Armstrong is the author of three books: Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator (2016), Getting Off: The Unlikely Chronicles of a Solosexual on PrEP (2019), and The Happy Hypersexual (2020). His work is well-known in the male masturbation community. I discovered his first book when I began my journey into deeply exploring my sacred sexuality. We became friends on Twitter and BateWorld through our mutual passion for the bate. He has been very supportive and genuinely enthusiastic about my writing, which means a lot from an author I admire.

The seeds for this interview were planted last year, and the interview itself developed over months. I wanted things to progress naturally, so we took our time with it. It was a fun experience for both of us, and it brings me great joy to share it with you.

The Horndog and the Cockmonger

Are wanking, cocks in hand.

Together we both celebrate

The solosexual man.

We should jerk off every day.

My gosh, that would be grand!

 

– My corruption of Lewis Carroll

Anthony: Good morning, Jason! You’ve been on your journey for a while. At this point in your life, what does being a solosexual mean to you? Do you feel that the concept of solosexuality has grown or evolved since the publication of your first book?

Jason: Solosexuality means pure, unadulterated sexual liberation to me. It’s surprising how the concept was so buried in my subconscious most of my life as I hunted for sex. It is ingrained in us from a young age to want a partner, to be partnered sexually, to want penetrative-style sex. I searched outside myself for so long, always wondering why it left me wanting. The discovery of BateWorld changed my life. And now, I see solosexuality as a term gaining traction in the popular vocabulary, and I hope I might have played a small role in that. At the end of the day, I set out to write my first book simply to share a good thing.

Anthony: You have played a significant role in the recognition and acceptance of solosexuality. It existed before you, but your contributions put it on the map. You helped pave the way for others like me to come forward.

When Paul Morris (of Treasure Island Media) interviewed you, he asked what you think is missing in the solosexual community. Your response was: “Validation. A flag of our own in the Pride parade. We solosexuals are so in the closet! Masturbation is looked upon as something losers do.”

I completely agree. I want to see solosexuality accepted as a legitimate sexual identity, and continue to normalize masturbation as a healthy expression of sexuality. As much progress as we’ve made over the last 100+ years, we’re still experiencing the harm caused by the anti-masturbation crusade of the 1800s. There is still work to be done.

I would love to see solosexuals represented at Pride events. I’ve been saying for a few years that we need a flag—a LEGIT flag—to serve as a beacon of visibility, respect, and unity for the solosexual community. I would love to design such a flag. It would be fun to collaborate with someone or share ideas. What do you think?

Jason: Thank you for being so generous about how I may have helped pry the door open to a greater acceptance of masturbation and solosexuality as a concept. But I must be realistic about my contribution. I sadly think that many, if not most, people don’t read books. They are busy watching Netflix…and porn! I often felt that Internet porn had ushered in an era of solosexuality, but you reminded me that not all solosexuals watch porn. Up until 300 years ago, masturbation was such a non-issue that there was very little written about it until that fear-mongering piece called “Onania” was published in a tabloid in 1712 or thereabouts. As you said, we are still crawling out of that 18th century hysteria, so much so that we damn well need a flag in the Pride parade.

Anthony: “Onania” besmirched masturbation for hundreds of years. But we have made great strides in the past century, and I believe we are in the midst of a solosexual revolution. The next step is to see solosexuality recognized as a legitimate sexual identity, and to finally have our own flag to display proudly.

It saddens me that you say that people don’t read anymore. While it is true that we live in an era of mindless entertainment and short attention spans, I think there are more people who read than you realize. Now we have e-books, Kindles, and self-publishing. Books are more accessible than ever before.

This brings me to my next question. As a fellow writer, you enjoy vocabulary as much as I do. One of the beautiful things about the age we live in is how our language about sexuality and gender has greatly expanded. People are defining themselves instead of conforming to conventional categories.

In addition to being a bator and solosexual, you have used the words hypersexual and pornosexual to describe yourself. Are there other terms that you also identify with, or are curious about?

Jason: I have a close friend on BateWorld who loathes labels, feeling that they inhibit a person or put a person into a box. But as you said, as a writer, I love the expansive reach of new words to describe our sexuality. The three words that I feel fit me best (at least this week) are, as you said, Solosexual, Pornosexual and Hypersexual. But most days I think that my basic sexual category is simply “horndog!” Has that word gone out of fashion?

Anthony: Labels inhibit people when they are forced on us and we are expected to conform to the expectations of others. But when we define ourselves on our own terms, that’s empowering.

Horndog is a perfectly legitimate word! I call myself a “Cockmonger.” I coined the term myself. I love all cocks. I use lots of different words to describe myself sexually and spiritually. Speaking of which, I want to ask you about your spirituality as a bator.

Masturbation can send us to transcendental states of ecstatic bliss. I think it’s one of the highest forms of spirituality and magic. Your penis is your magic wand!

Paul Morris is a fellow phallus worshiper, and he and I have talked about sacred sexuality. I really love what he said in his interview with you: “We are all the same man, sharing and celebrating one great universal lingam.”

What is the most profoundly spiritual experience you’ve had while masturbating? Have you ever had a life-changing epiphany or realization? Or the feeling of tranquility and oneness with the universe?

Jason: Finding BateWorld back in 2013 created for me a quiet seismic tremor deep in my core. It was a shock wave, much like the moment I accepted that I was gay at age 16. It was like waking from a long winter’s slumber and I saw who I was, and I was surprised and amazed and relieved. Finding BateWorld gave me a clarity about who I was sexually, a clarity that comes far too rarely in life. Those early bates were rip-roaring plunges into my soul.

Then, in 2016, when I published my first book, Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator, I would bate and bawl my eyes out due to the reaction to the book and the feeling that I’d found my purpose. I’d bate to Whitney Houston singing The National Anthem, or Celine Dion singing “Loved Me Back to Life,” which is what the feedback from readers had done for me. I would bate to the music of Susan Boyle from Britain’s Got Talent. Her voice was so pure, so unmanufactured, and that reflected the purity of spirit and emotion in me during that special time.

Masturbation is my conduit to my inner self, the me that feels most authentic. I have problems in life just like everybody, but I thank the Goddess because I think I’ve found The Secret.

Anthony: What I like most about your answer is the intersection of emotion, music, and masturbation. That’s very powerful. Those three things are driving forces in my life too.

Okay, now for the really fun questions! What is the weirdest, most fucked up porn you’ve ever masturbated to?

Jason: I was thinking of all the kinky-ass shit I’ve watched and I got to thinking – what is freaky or crazy porn? I remember a time when piss-play porn was outré and now it’s practically de rigueur! What’s wild and crazy for one may be an everyday sexual activity for another. But when I first read your question, two scenes came to mind simultaneously. One is Treasure Island Media’s “The 1,000 Load Fuck.” Contrast that with a porn scene I stumbled upon of two impossibly hot, naked guys gorging on donuts and puking on each other. Strangely titillating!

Anthony: Oh man! I can’t do puke, poop, or blood. Those are hard limits for me. But piss is a different thing altogether. I do agree that everyone is different and there is something for everyone. I would say that the weirdest, grossest porn (and I don’t think it’s that weird or gross) I’ve ever jerked off to is guys eating farts. As a Dom, the idea of sitting on a guy’s face and farting in his mouth intrigues me sometimes. I haven’t watched anything like that in years.

Jason: Brother, what you said reminded me instantly of Jean Genet’s book, Our Lady of the Flowers, wherein he writes about loving to inhale his own farts, but not the farts of others. The creativity that men display with their sexuality is unreal.

Anthony: I’m sad to say that I have not yet read Genet, but I know of him mainly through his connection to Cocteau. I know that Our Lady of the Flowers is essential reading, so I must strive to amend this!

The next question is a three-parter. If you could have a bator superpower, what would it be? What would your solosexual superhero name be? Who is your archenemy?

Jason: I would have two sexual superpowers! First, I would be able to orgasm and orgasm and orgasm and never have a refractory period. Damn that refractory period! Second, I would never need to sleep! Sleep is such a waste of time when I could be masturbating! My favorite animal is the whale, and did you know that when they sleep, they do so with only half their brain? The other half stays awake to watch for predators, to keep swimming, and to keep surfacing for air. That’s the kind of brain I need!

Unwittingly, I chose my superhero name when I titled my third book – The Happy Hypersexual!

My archenemy would be a nefarious character that seeks to diminish or negate the extraordinary vitality and creativity of male sexuality. In all seriousness, I am almost finished reading The Myth of Sex Addiction by David J. Ley and I think he is a superhero. In his book, he talks about New Life Ministries, a multi-million dollar organization that spawned the apparently sex-negative book, Every Man’s Battle, which is next on my reading list. I want to hear how they couch their arguments on sex and porn.

Anthony: My superpower would be similar to yours, but I want the ability to bestow that upon others, as well. To instantly activate the orgasmic state and control the point of ejaculation, and effortlessly prolong this state of pleasure so all bators can goon out forever in a state of orgasmic bliss. My powers are spiritual and mystical, like a shamanic bestower of orgasms.

My archenemy would be Shame. I made a social media post a couple months ago that said “Shame is the enemy of Pleasure.” If you and I were a superhero duo, we could be the Horndog and the Cockmonger. I really like that. It has a “Walrus and the Carpenter” type of feel to it. That’s going to be the title of the interview. What do you think?

Jason: Haha, nice! We’d save the world!

Anthony: Speaking of superheroes, if someone made an action figure of you with interchangeable genitals, would you keep your penis and balls as they are or swap them out as you wish?

Jason: I cannot betray my penis! He has been so good to me, he’s given me so much pleasure and joy, so I’ll keep my cock as is.

Anthony: I respect and admire that answer. Your loyalty to your penis is honorable. While I do think it could be fun to try on different parts, it’s more important to love yourself as you are.

I know you’re a true blue solosexual, but use your imagination for this next one. If you could invite anyone (real or fictitious, living or deceased) to a circle jerk, who would it be? You can name as many as you want.

Jason: For an epic bate session, I want to invite Jesus and Lucifer, Richard Gere in his American Gigolo movie-days, Jason Gould (Barbra Streisand’s son), a satyr, so many men in porn (amateur and professional), a clone of me that spends all day in the gym, and speaking of Streisand, I want Mandy Patinkin just as he looked in her film Yentl!

Anthony: I love these answers! So we’ve reached the final question, my friend. Are you writing another book or have any new projects in the works?

Jason: I could never, ever compare myself to Harper Lee who wrote To Kill a Mockingbird, but when asked why she never wrote another book, she replied, “I said all I had to say.” Sometimes I feel that way, but don’t count me out! Who knows what sexual experiences and learnings are yet to come? Thank you for this interview, man!

Anthony: Thank you for doing this! It was a lot of fun!

More info on Jason and how to purchase his books can be found here:

Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator

Getting Off: The Unlikely Chronicles of a Solosexual on PrEP

The Happy Hypersexual