All men who hang together should cum together. It’s about the bond… as men. That’s been my motto throughout my life from the time my penis began to grow and form into an extension of my masculine and sexual self. The first feelings that I needed to bond with another male’s dick started before puberty, when I saw for the first time older boy’s fully developed cocks and they astounded me. The size, the weight, the mass, the bush… the very presence of it in front of me was commanding of my attention and it stirred things inside of me I didn’t understand. I just knew I wanted to be near it.
This need to bond was much more deeply instilled in me as a pubescent teen, when a friend was brave and horny enough to expose himself and share his knowledge and curiosity about sex, masturbation, and the new-found physical capabilities of his big and beautiful cock. That was a life changing and reaffirming event between two males which reassured what I was discovering about my body wasn’t something I was experiencing alone. It led to additional bonding experiences with other friends who also felt that need to share in their masturbatory habits and techniques, and to experience the ultimate level of male bonding. [read about them in detail here: Bi-Top Married Dad, The Early Years… Brazen’s Beginnings]
Men need to bond. To group together around something mutually satisfying. That bond can take many forms in the sports we gather together to watch, the teams we play on, working out together, and in the general need to compete, compare, and challenge each other’s abilities. It adheres us together. That bond is solidified most strongly when men can expose our cocks, gain validation and acceptance on what we have between our legs, and engage in the act of making ourselves hard and shooting cum in front of each other. Take it from me, slapping freshly cum-drained cocks together is the ultimate ‘high five’ between buds. There is such power and strength in the bonding that occurs between masturbating men. It is undeniable.
As I’ve grown older, the need to bond at that level never faded. The opportunities may have faded, but the primal need will always exist. I feel this is the same for so many of us. We know. There is a shared and often silent understanding that many men feel, and I think should exist among all male friends and family members. A man’s hardness and ejaculation should be as familiar to the other males in his life as what his favorite sports team is, his favorite band, favorite beer, or favorite car. I read this in an article once, that our need to expose ourselves to each other is similar to ‘popping the hood’ to show off the engine in our muscle cars. In my opinion, the men who have not had this occur in their lives, could be easily inspired into doing so.
Most guys who are willing to watch porn together are but a tiny step away from shifting that focus to their own bodies and whipping it out. They are so rocked up and turned on that the opportunity to take it out and ‘scratch that itch’ won’t be refused. We’re men. No more need be said.
Not just the result from a spur-of-the-moment adrenaline impulse, there is more to this bond:
A bit of camaraderie and the closeness experienced through shared testosterone. Testosterone and adrenaline… that which makes us primal masculine beings put on display in its most basic form. Our masculine energy and essence being traded among each other being given out as well as received. That sense of connection to a man’s most basic need. To cum. We all have it, so why should it be kept a private matter hidden away from other men? We’re all dudes. We all do it. It feels great. All reasons to do it together.
A degree of healthy competition, mixed with a measure of vulnerability – the need to be accepted and revered by others. Most importantly to receive that acceptance from those who own what we own, understand what we understand, and can relate to both the physicality and mindset and what it means to be a man! Each man showing the other what they have… the penis they have been given by nature as well as the muscle and shape they have achieved through hard work. Celebrate the fact that we are men! Here is my dick. This is how I masturbate it for maximum pleasure. Show me how you masturbate yours.
Personally speaking, nothing beats the bond two men can have; physically, emotionally, or spiritually. It’s something I hold very close to my soul in terms of need, and desire. If you’ve bonded this way with friends or family members already, then you KNOW. If you’re curious, I can tell you this. It’s everything you think it will be, and more. I fucking love being naked around other men. It doesn’t have to be about something sexual, just the bond of being naked is amazing.
Truthfully, how much more awesome would it be if you were hanging out with your buddies in the front of the TV with the football game on and everyone was naked? I call bullshit to anyone who just read that and rejected it as something they would never do. Once you’re beyond the shyness, and get over the initial ‘thing’ of being naked in front of your buddies… it will become amazing. After a beer or two, there will be a level of intimate cohesion combined with the masculine companionship. And I wouldn’t be surprised if the kind of wagers being made on the game would include something to do with jerking off.
Next to fucking, jerking off is the peak of man being able to prove himself sexually and is the inevitable challenge on a betting man’s dare. The show of aggression, prowess, and shocking display cannot be disputed. We’re men, and no matter how high or low our level of ‘gruffness’ is our warrior spirit will surface. ‘Watch what I can do, fellas.’
I love this adrenalized intimacy with men. I love the aggression, the limitless passion, the sweat, and the physical force that two men can bring to each other. I love the strength, the power, the hardness, the masculine scent, and the sight and sound of a man when he’s cumming. There is so much powerful energy generated when reaching that place of primal orgasmic pleasure from deep inside, and having it happen in front of like-minded men who understand and truly celebrate that feeling with you.
Men who will congratulate your accomplishment with cheers and amazement as your cum is shooting out of your exploding cock. And they will be so incensed to want to show you what their cock can do too. Cum one… cum ALL!
Yet with the aggression and adrenaline – power and strength… there is mutual caring and bonding at the same time. It’s not about dominance, or ‘winning’. It’s about mutually pleasing and showing each other that power can equally exist with tenderness. It’s a feeling that cannot be matched with women.
And as men, we have the ability to pass that understanding on to others. Friends who can introduce this to friends, family members such as cousins or older brothers who can mentor their younger relatives, or as our fathers may have shown us, we can show our sons. I do not have sons of my own, but if I did I would want them to grow up in a wide open atmosphere where they wouldn’t have to hide anything about who they are, who they are attracted to, or what their bodies look like. I would want him (them) to feel comfortable being naked, have a good and confident self image, be comfortable talking with me about their bodies as they develop from boys into men, comfortable to follow their desires and make discoveries about their bodies.
They would be taught that the growth of their penis and its brand new ability to ejaculate is a rite of passage for any young man. For a Father and Son talk… I can’t imagine a closer moment to have between the two.
I would never want him (them) to feel like they have to hide their porn stash or keep secrets about what they feel inside. And if that means they happen to get a hard on while sitting naked on the couch while we’re all watching TV, FINE! That’s what men get! If they see Dad with an erection, FINE! It’s okay! And masturbating is okay too. Further, if they are hanging with their buds one day jerking off to porn together, or experimenting with something sexual and I walk in on it… SO WHAT! My son would have probably told them how cool their dad is with all of it, and his friends wouldn’t need to feel embarrassed or like they were about to get in a boat-load of trouble.
I would much rather be able to talk with them about it rather than it being hidden from me. If they are underage, I would certainly advise them to hold off until they are a bit older and can handle it more maturely, and if they are over 18 then… GO FOR IT! Let them enjoy themselves! I find that a much healthier and natural activity than drinking, doing drugs, or committing crimes just to keep from being bored.
I would most definitely talk with their fathers as well, as this should not be kept from them. And if the conversation goes as I expect it would, I would imagine I would be gaining a new masturbation buddy myself.
Group masturbation does not need to be a hands-on-your-own activity. Depending on your level of curiosity, desire, daring… it’s okay to wrap that fist around a buddy’s shaft and ‘feel the steel’. If you’re worried about keeping your Straight Man card… fear not. Letting your friend take care of your need and returning the favor isn’t gay. It’s bro-bonding. To the bi-sexual and gay population it’s just normal contact with a horny friend. Regardless of your orientation, let me make this clear… fucking a bud’s fist until you’re blowing your load feels fucking incredible. Don’t deny yourself that pleasure. Embrace it and enjoy it.
As men need to bond, so do our cocks. Jerking off along with your buddies and the bond it creates is amazing. That bond is centered through our masculinity our testosterone and our libido. All of it surges through our cocks and while many of us can increase that bond with stroking each other off, it can be even more maximized by letting our cocks become as good of friends as we are. Gliding cock on cock sends jolts of electricity through our shafts and directly to our nuts. The sensation is unreal.
You’re just as manly and self-assured in your sexuality when you can have your cock meet your friend’s cock directly. Head-on, shaft to shaft. I’d go as far to say your confidence in your heterosexual status would be solidified when you can bond with the males in your life like this.
We are men. Let’s be men… together.
Written by Bateworld member, Brazen68
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The idea of bro-bonding is exciting and would be an incredible bonding experience. Imagine having a safe environment to be able to bate with your friends, whether gay, straight or bi. It would be amazing.
Having your father or uncle show you how to bate? Another fantastic idea! Being taught that masterbation is okay and that it’s not something naughty.
One of the best article I have read in quite some time. Thank you.
My father showed me how to jack off. We often did It together, too. It was an awesome experience! It helped us become closer. “Father and son bonding,” lol! My dad is my best friend. I’d recommend, fathers and sons consider trying this. It’s next-level male bonding. Corey H.
That’s hot I would have been curious about the taste
Hello Greg….I agree with your comments to Corey
Hello there…..thank you for sharing such an intimate and often considered taboo topic….it sounds like you and your dad became closer as a result of this bond.
What a great article, I always wanted to bate with other guys !! It sounds so hot & sexy seeing and hearing us all shoot a big load and comparing sizes and thickness ????????????
Michael ,
It is quite an amazing experience.
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Hi Michael…..loved your reply…Ihope you have been able to bond/bate with other men and enjoy all that that experience can be !
Now after reading this I still can’t find 1 single guy to gerk off with or even jerk each other off..im not gay I’m bi but where I live in the country no one wants to admit they are somewhat turned on just by the thought of someone else jerking them off..I may have to move out of Tennessee one day because of this very thing because I want to be involved in this before I get too old..thanks and great article..love u guys!
You can always set up an out b of town bate with a bud from bateworld, you might have to travel.out of your town for this…
Hey, Terry, living in TN can be a bit rough – very conservative. Don’t know what part of TN you’re in, but be aware that there is a Bate Club in Nashville. You can find it here on the Bateworld site – Music City Jacks. I live in TN too, in the Bristol area. Feel free to send me a message sometime – dtraveler on Bateworld.
And THANK YOU dtravler for sharing the best way for guys to connect from here is to do so on BateWorld. We can’t post any personal contact info (e-mails, etc) on this blog, but you can do whatever you want on BW!
I’m a fellow Hoosier and I totally agree with your take on Indians conservatism, I’m seriously thinking about moving to a
freer thinking population.
Hey, if you’re game we can hook up and get our rocks off. I live alone and I”d be glad to host.
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Greetings from Los Angeles, CA. Extreme male/male friendships and bonding, can be so fulfilling and that is my intention to find and share. Being that I’m in Los Angeles, CA, I seek similar quality, like-minded, genuinely goal oriented men who are accessible to me here. I’m not a fantasy, my feelings and goals are genuine and heartfelt. I am a real living and breathing person and I am not seeking pen pals, sorry. Masculine as I am, I have nurturing qualities that I’m not afraid to share and express. There is much more to me than just a penis and hormones. I also have a goal driven genuine heart and soul.
In general and that includes professionally, I treat people with respect and I expect the same in return. I am a quality, congenial, professional type, just a normal guy. I seek nurturing social values with compatible, quality, like minded, goal oriented men like myself who are not afraid to express themselves or share real emotions. What I seek is not remotely random. Hook ups just to get off have never been of any interest to me. My sexual needs and desires are also fully intact but to share it would require established compatibilities and trust as I just attempted to describe. Companionship that combines various commonalities aside from masculinity, tactility and genuine affection is all part of my goal. Common chemistry and varied interests is also vital.
Clearly I’m hoping to meet some men who seek and feel much as I have attempted to describe here. If you choose to contact me, please speak up in detail just as I have attempted to do here for you. If you contact me, please tell me why you have chosen to contact me. Upfront and honest, that’s me. 🙂 No need to be shy.
We hope you connect with many guys! Do know though that for privacy reasons, we are not able to post any e-mail addresses or otherwise identifying info. on this site. However, always feel free to share your BateWorld screen name. That way guys can log in to BateWorld, and you can easily communicate, etc… … there.
It is an excellent article. I agree with most or all of what is said. I too have always felt that while beating off is an incredibly sexual activity, the attraction to doing so in the company of other men is the level of pure trust that it represents. One does not even undress, let along get a hardon and start stroking it if one does not full and completely trust those present.
My problem is that I have never found a really good, effective, and safe way to bring up the topic with other guys that I know. Even the gay ones! The ironic thing is that the more I like a male fried, the more I risk if I raise the topic of mutual jack off and he has a negative reaction. I stand to not only not have found a JO buddy, but also have lost a valued friend.
Perhaps you or your readers can share their experiences and what they have found works well for them. Of course, that will differ for everyone, but would be at least a starting point.
Hey ShyJakr, maybe it’s devious on my part, but I’ve found that mentioning fantasies that I’ve had can plant a ‘brain worm’ in a buddy.
Sooner or later, they often will refer to your fantasy; then you know it struck a cord. Sometimes they will challenge you to be bold enough to go for it, often they will denigrate the fantasy. But, the fact that they retained/remembered it tells you that they continued thinking about the idea. It bothers them. It has an effect on their libido. Once they’ve reiterated it (positively or negatively), make sure you remind them of it subtly and non-aggressively. In discrete situations, let them know the fantasy is ‘bothering’ you right then.
Of course, if a friend reveals their fantasy to you, let them know (if) you’d like to make that a reality; then go from there. Live it! Realize it!
Another good segway is to offer a massage for pains or injuries, or for anxiety or stressful events that a friend may complain of. During such a massage (even if fully clothed), subtly reference where it leads your mind (fantasy).
Sometimes these ‘breadcrumbs’ (the fantasy acknowledgment) take time to break down your buddy’s inhibitions, but will make a ‘trail’ for your friend to find the ‘prize’ you ‘dangled’. Retain your plausible deniability by initiating the idea as just a fantasy.
Also, revealing your own secrets make you a bit less threatening, creates an intimacy and thus a better friend.
ChrisJK
I like the idea, but having difficulty finding buddies
Brazen68, TOTAL agreement with you! I couldn’t say it better myself, even if I think I’d like to. I believe this is a suppressed instinct relatively few men understand, and have the balls to discover. I would add that the best way for our penises to meet is what I call “twirling”: Facing each other, put the heads behind each other, so that the coronas are just behind each other’s heads, then rotate them around each other, so that each corona and shaft gets rubbed by the other. A buddy and I were grinning ear to ear and ready to fly, it felt so good. Also, a lower key but intense bonding is mutual ball massage. Oil up and cup and massage each other’s scrotums, slow and easy. A laid-back ballsy feeling of mutual trust.
That speaks directly to me. I get it and it could have been written by me. Fraternity brother, sports team members, amateur rodeo rider etc….all me. There’s a quote in the book, ‘Best Little Boy in the World’, “All I wanted was someone to play cowboys with.” Yup, that’s me.
Way to go, Brazen68, writing and reading this kind of deep, powerful, positive philosophy and experience of brotherhood, bonding, and revelry in the joy of being male, reaches a place that only shared nudity and jacking can reach. I even fantasized at a young age that all males ought to be able to frolic naked, an idea this world is not ready for yet. Yes, it is so natural that it puzzles me how men can deny it. My only difference is that my kind of “high five” is for two glanses to meet, head-to-head, and bump heads, or better, what I call “twirling”, which is putting the heads behind each other, and rotating them around each other, so that both mens’ coronas are rubbing behind each other’s heads, around and around. But as you said, this is not primarily something sexual, but intimate male bonding and affirmation.
One thing that Brazen68 remarked on which struck me anew in this essay, it is the evidence of the deep fraternal bond I have noticed when seeing a group of men stroking together. Firstly, there is emphatic and unbridled enthusiasm for each other as they ramp up the erotic masculine energy. Then, once one of the men in group reaches that orgasmix apex, the rest of the brothers are triumphant and encouraging and even more exhilarated. You hear it in their voices. In the primal appreciation of something wonderful. It is as though they have seen one of their best friends break the tape at the end of a race. The spasms of semen, not unlike the fireworks of celebration. And each man’s orgasm is no less celebrated.
It’s almost been a year and I still can’t get this article out of my mind.
I have only experienced this situation once when I was 12yrs old with my male cousin “J” who was 13. We were talking about Masturbating and admitted that we both masturbate regularly. I snuck one of dads playboys from his stash and invited “J” over to my house. He came over and we went to my room locking the door behind us. Stripping off all but our tshirts and socks we sat side by side on my bed looking at the naked girls Stroking Our Hard Dicks. Watching each other Jerk Off until we both got off was such an Extremely Pleasurable Experience. I’m always looking for someone to Masturbate with
I’ve jacked off with my real father (Dana M. Haines). I lived with him, in his studio apartment. We had no privacy. It was easier for us to do it together. “Father and son bonding,” lol! My dad is my best friend. It was an awesome experience – stroking our dicks off. We always tried to go at the same time, too.
My dad shoots his load real far! His cum is clear and runny. My cum is much thicker and whiter. Well, more fathers and sons should consider trying it. This might help them bond, too. Corey M. Haines in Akron, Ohio.
Thanks so much Bro,
You put into words and writing exactly how I feel, though I have struggled as to why I feel it when happily married to another man for 41 years. All my life I have been so starved for male friendship and bonding since we lost the habit after junior high. You’ve explained why I so yearned to teach and show my son such things but didn’t out of fear.of others’ opinions and crossing boundaries between father and son.