While the penis is what keeps most Bators connected, I’ve come to understand that we have a fundamental theme that brings us closer than dong. This theme is connection.
When I reminisce about the beginning of my Solosexual journey, I go to a place of disconnection, both from myself and from others. As with all new journeys, the excitement of something new can jump-start us into exploring novel parts of our lives with the goal of gaining fresh information that will shape us into better versions of ourselves.
Yes, the journey will be great, but with each new step we take, there is always the possibility of losing our way and forgetting the reason why we started. It is here, in these times of interruption, that we can stop to re-evaluate what matters most to us. Take your energies and focus inward to calm your heart, body, and mind, and remember the reasons why you embarked on your beautiful voyage.
My desire to expose my bate was born from a place of aloneness and a desire to find other Solosexuals and surround myself with men that understood and practiced my kind of sex. Fear is completely normal when embarking on your life-changing adventure, but I encourage you to remind yourself often that you can be brave and afraid, simultaneously. When you begin to shift and change your energies to enhance and support your new lifestyle, you will be met with confusion, hesitation, and uncertainty, both from yourself and from the people around you. Believe me, when I say, you’re gonna be fine! Change is scary but necessary and our community is full of support if you seek and ask for it.
While the penis is what keeps most Bators connected, I’ve come to understand that we have a fundamental theme that brings us closer than dong. This theme is connection. Often, the messages I receive from my brothers have nothing to do with my dong, although dong is what initially grabs the attention, I find that my interactions take a different turn once I begin to engage.
What I have found in my online exposure are other Bator brothers looking to make a new friend, to establish a new relationship to enhance their Solosexual lifestyle. Ultimately, the act of masturbation provides a powerful gateway to fulfilling other aspects of our lives. I find this to be such an endearing quality about our brotherhood and truly our superpower because having sex and making a new friend is such a win-win.
Ultimately, the act of masturbation provides a powerful gateway to fulfilling other aspects of our lives.
I challenge my bate brothers to do a deep investigation of their core sexual desires. Penis and masturbation can be the spark to get online and explore a digital landscape full of sex, but I recommend taking the time to pause, refocus, and not shame yourself for wanting more than dick. So the next time you find yourself sliding into a new bro DM or having someone over to your place for quality bate time, remember that while dong is the obvious reason you are making contact, have the courage to explore the core theme of your encounter.
I am a firm believer that great things can be born from unlikely places and so with each new interaction you have in our wonderful Bator community, keep an open heart to anything that makes you feel connected and seen; the dong gets what the heart needs.
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This article really spoke to me as I have recently realized my desire to bate with other men is fueled as much (or more) by achieving closeness and bonding as it is by release. I find it difficult, however, to meet men in-person who have the same goals of hanging out and bonding through our nudity and masturbation, sharing the comfort of being together in a practice we so often do alone. Of course, COVID has made that even more difficult, but even finding cam buddies who seek a deeper connection that just getting off isn’t easy. Your article gives me hope.
Hey bro! So happy you enjoyed the blog entry.
I think it’s awesome that you are wanting to build connection. I know plenty of men in our community that seek the same things you do. Bateworld is a great site to use! Seek connection and remember you always have your penis to love. Rooting for ya bud. X
I am gay and single and 52 and from chicago and I live in Seattle I do love masturbating to
Beautifully said brother
Hey bro! Thanks for reading this one. Love your work too! X
I agree, over the eons I realize that there really is a connection between bators. Or well there can be. I’ve never done anything for reals with a guy. Yet I do enjoy sharing my bate over skype with another bator, it’s so much easier to cum and the arousal’s more intense doing it with someone else. Just being able to chat & fap and share our faps, our moans & groans and of course our orgasms.
Hey bud, you’re so right! It’s such a fun time to connection with your fellow brother. In real life or virtual, its still a connection being made and it’s so fun to share your bate because you both understand the pleasure and power of penis! Hope you get to do it IRL sometime! I’m rooting for ya! X
Thanks for sharing this, Beastlybator! Connection is what it’s all about. Whether it’s for 5 mins or 5 hours, in person or on camera. Whether there is cum or not I always look for and appreciate brothers that can connect. Share a fantasy. Share what makes us rock hard. Share a huff. Smoke a bowl together. Giggle. Bond.
That sounds like a great time and yea, you totally get it. Nothing more intimate than locking yourself away with your fellow bate bro, gettin naked and having some fun bator sex! X
About a year or so ago, I realized what a difference connection made in the quality of my shared bates, in-person or virtual. I take time to get to know someone before I agree to meet in person, which makes a huge difference in the quality of our mutual bate. It tends to lead to interactions where we can share and laugh as during masturbation, as well as take time to chat after we come and before we clean up. These are the bators I continue to see again and again, and each time we bate, it gets better and better.
Taking time to get to know someone before camming with them is more challenging but can be done. I have a number of Skype buddies I’ve been bating with for the past five years, and they continue to satisfy and grow because we’re open and vulnerable. To be vulnerable is to be the ultimate masculine bad-ass!
I’ve enjoyed chat and message exchanges with Bate World members who do not live in my area, some only once or twice and others for years. The exchange doesn’t always have to be sexual. When these connections possess a sexual element, they seem to be intensified by knowing a bit about the man attached to the cock.
I totally agree! When we begin to deshame our male urges and begin to understand that it’s normal for men to bond naked! That’s the beauty of being male! Accepting and making friends with our brothers and then enjoying a good bate. The best bros are the ones you make for life. Proud of ya bro! X
Absolutely agree! With solosexuality, what started out as a process of connecting with myself more deeply, became a way to express my ongoing desire to enjoy more interpersonal connection in my life. I’ve been practicing what I call “Connecturbating” (more about that on my BW profile) and it’s been a wonderful journey! I’ve met and connected with so many cool guys and have even found a Bator Boyfriend!
I love the fact that by meeting “dick first” with the intention to connect is a wonderful way around the typical social safeguards AGAINST connection most of us experience in most other settings!
Connect on brothers!