Passing The Hours: Masturbation In Isolation

One of our deepest thinkers on the power of masturbation and members of Bateworld.com writes here on why masturbation is so important during our Covid-19 isolation measures. 

M.B. Timothy, or Saboteur on BW, is a regular contributor to The Bator Blog. Timothy has written three books on masturbation including REAL MEN MASTURBATE, covering edging, gooning and handsfree ejaculation; CEDAR: An Ode To Masturbation, a sensual memoir of discovering his solosexuality through fact and fiction, and a collection of short fiction stories focusing entirely on bators, PACKAGE. He has been called a Guru of Technique and an Evangelist of Self Love. He is dedicated to promoting pride in masturbation. He masturbates every day.

PASSING THE HOURS: Masturbation in Isolation

By M.B. Timothy (Saboteur)

It spread like wildfire through social media, this joke that masturbators were looking forward to quarantine so we could finally get all day to bate. 

It is a gag built on the idea that life and work get in the way, and that a pandemic health crisis has cleared the decks so we can at last live as we wish. 

Naked, batespread, masturbating. Without social engagements. Free as birds to dedicate the whole day to our hard penises. We bate as the world turns dark, like Nero fiddling as Rome burnt.

Behind all good comedy is some truth. I am sure bators everywhere considered this bonus masturbation time we’ve suddenly scored as some silver lining on a dark cloud. Masturbation will at least get us through the boredom of isolation. 

Meanwhile we lose jobs, livelihoods, even lives (our own or those we love) or we get sick. No. None of us are so chronic in our pursuits, that we would wish this darkness upon the world just for us to masturbate.

If there’s anything I know to be true of bators – the most universal of brotherhoods – it is that we are empaths. We care for each other. An irony really, considering what unites us is solo penis masturbation. But it’s true. We are.

While we may be at home more than usual, and while we may be masturbating more than usual, our thoughts are with those suffering. Some of our own brothers are suffering. The anxiety, the stress and the sense of loss is acute. We are all affected by it and we are all in this.

This world turned on its head almost overnight. The grief of that for us will still be felt for months. We cannot see our friends and loved ones. We cannot meet up with our brothers to bate mutually. We must stay home to stay safe. 

So what role does masturbation play in this sudden, isolated world? Why do we turn to it, but make some truthful joke of it, that we’ll somehow be alright, because we are bators? Well maybe, because we will be.

Masturbation has always been a tonic and a pathway through for many of us. These days the role of masturbation in this way becomes all the more clear. Our love for it, our reliance on it, rewards us. 

For the time being, while interaction is disallowed, to stay safe we are encouraged to be alone. Now is the time to celebrate solosexuality and to connect with your own maleness. 

The media has written isolation survival kit articles, but not once have I seen masturbation mentioned. Let me say it then, for all of us. Masturbation is one of our main tools to get through this. The virus has taken away so much from us, but it cannot take away solo pleasure. 

Your body gives you pleasurable feelings. It is quite literally a gift. It needs no permission to give it but your own. Masturbation is your biological right to pleasure. 

Through my own isolation, my masturbation is a pleasurable tonic against the pressure from outside. I masturbate because I remain sexual throughout this. I am still a male with urges. I masturbate because it is good for my health and wellbeing. I do it because it calms me. It helps me forget momentarily. Forgetting is important. It lowers the stress levels.

Masturbation brings on blissful, ecstatic feelings too. It promotes a warm, relaxed sense of composure in the turbulence. The neurotransmitters which flow with edging are designed to give us a feeling that all is right in our world (note, not the world), just yours, and mine, at least for now.

Masturbation is a powerful painkiller. A tonic. It is also a pathway. 

Masturbation is a first-rate way, indeed possibly the best way, to show yourself love each and every day through this. Especially when we are worn down by whatever particular circumstances are robbing us of our well being. 

When we dedicate lengthy periods of time to deliberate and focused solosex, we prioritize ourselves. This is not selfish. 

These are our hermit days. We rely on fewer people to prop us up. This time will make us stronger, though strength is often hard won. If the pandemic has forced you into this kind of isolated existence, see it for what it is. A gift. It’s a privilege to have a life where masturbation is a focus and a driving force. 

While these days are temporary, and within months we will regain our old freedoms, we must not lose what we are discovering during these days. 

So yes we may joke about it, but it is true, masturbation is paramount right now. Not just during these times (though especially during these times) but always. We are living the bate life.

The first lesson of the bate life is this: Moderation in all things, except masturbation. 

No matter how often you currently masturbate, you can do it more. Under no circumstances should you believe that you do it too much. Question anyone who makes you feel addicted or compulsive. It’s your health, your body.

Secondly, you are part of the most universal brotherhood. 

Men everywhere, at all times in history, understand your pursuit. Let me illustrate this profound truth. Let’s say you are discovered masturbating. Not by someone in your life or even a stranger of modern times, but that you are discovered by an ancient, primitive man. Despite the inability to understand each other on almost all aspects of your mutual existences, you both understand masturbation in that moment.

If you are feeling isolated, and masturbation is not helping, your brotherhood is still here. We are all online. We are connected through Bateworld. You will find a brother who understands you. Reach out.

Third, masturbation is one of life’s great joys. It is, to repeat, the best way you show yourself love and kindness. It is a reason to live.

The greatest day of my life was the day I first masturbated. The feelings from that discovery have stuck with me for over 25 years. 

Transport, heal and calm yourself today with masturbation. I will too. We’ve got all the time in the world. Masturbation should remind us of being alive. It should remind us of being healthy. It should remind us of everything we still have and cannot be taken from us.

M.B. Timothy’s new book, THE 24 HR MASTURBATION MASTER, will be released in May and is available for pre-order now.