Every bator brother can achieve this status.
I believe that the best bate sessions start with a great mindset. As my bate sessions grow into new and exciting territories of pleasure, I’m curious if I can teach or show others how to achieve optimal orgasms. Perhaps some things can only ever be seen to be believed. Still, it’s important that I use my Solosexual journey to share my bate practices so that brothers everywhere can use some of my techniques and create their own mastubration practices. I get asked by many young bate brothers how I am able to achieve such great orgasms. These questions come to me with a sense of disbelief, as if being a great Solosexual is elusive, when the truth of the matter is, every brother can achieve this status.
Firstly, let’s begin with having a “bator mentality”. I talk about this often in my podcast and i’ve gotten many questions about how to achieve this mentality and I realize now that what brothers want is something tangible. Men want to know what they can do on their own to cultivate the mentality of a bator. I masturbate daily.
I’ve made a commitment to myself to practice daily mastubration as I would with exercise and eating clean and skincare, because masturbation for me is grouped in with self love care and I make a conscious effort to be aware of my seuxal needs. A great quality about being male is that we are proud to show off our sex and while we should practice caution and use best judgement, we should not shy away from the power in our dongs and proudly share it with each other. My daily interactions with other bate brothers fuels my bator mentality because I love talking about masturbation and sending pictures and videos to my brothers positively reinforces my Solosexuality. My bate brothers are a reminder that I am not alone and that bators all over the world exist and rejoice in the same lifestyle.
The next thing to do is to cultivate a lifestyle that brings out the sexiest version of yourself. Pay attention to the things that make you feel powerful and sexual and invest more time and energies into those things. Do you love porn? Create and save a list of porn websites that you enjoy the most and create a favorites playlist of videos that you can look up for easy reference. Do you enjoy gear? Go and visit your local sex store and pick out some things that make your dong jump or your hole twitch.
I specifically want you to venture out into stores because in doing so, you’ll begin to reduce the sex shame in your life and begin to empower your sexuality by seeing others do the same thing. I personally love going to my local sex store and taking my time, looking around at what new items they have in store and asking questions about products that peak my interest.
I would like to share a new breathing exercise that I have learned in my Sex Coach studies that has added a new dynamic to my masturbation practice. The goal of this exercise is to get you out of your head and put the attention on your body. While it is important that we nourish and rest our bodies, one of the things I feel we as men lack is physical connection to them. I know I’ve been guilty of this for years, simply masturbating for the sake of it, but only when I began to identify the sexual appeal of my body, did my bate sessions become a place packed with more sexual energy than ever before. I encourage you to use the following instructions as a template and you can modify the breathing exercise depending on what your needs are. I hope this enhances your bate sessions and allow yourself to explore your body and your sex without shame and judgement!
- Find a safe place with minimal distractions (I suggest a bed room or room that you know you won’t be disturbed.)
- Prep your space with things that really turn you on. Put on some music and if possible play it out loud, not in your headphones. Turn on your favortite porno video. Put on your jock, thong, socks, baseball cap or whatever clothing that brings out the bro in you.
- If possible, use a full length mirror in which you can see your entire body. Set it right in front of you and make sure you’re able to see all of your body head to toe.
- Breathing exercise: Sit on the edge of your bed facing your mirror. Take 3 deep breaths into your chest slowly. Breath in through your nose on a 5 count and breathe out WITH AN OPEN mouth on a 5 count. Next, take 3 deep breaths into your belly on a 5 count and breathe out WITH AN OPEN MOUTH on a 5 count. Lastly, take 3 deep full body breaths, making sure to clench your taint muscles, think of it as if you’re stopping yourself from peeing, and then breathe out WITH AN OPEN MOUTH on a 5 count.
- As you do this exercise, I encourage you to watch yourself in the mirror. Notice how your body looks as you take in each breath and how it looks as you release it. If you feel the need to touch your body then do it! Don’t be alarmed if this exercise begins to make you feel aroused and go with it. Let your hands and body move naturally and allow yourself to feel touch from yourself as you use your eyes to scan your sexual body. Continue this breathing for as long as you need, keeping in mind that the goal of this exercise is to purposely focus on the sensations throughout your body. When you are ready, begin to touch and stimulate your penis. Don’t worry if you’re unable to get hard, the goal here is to touch yourself and begin to teach yourself how sexually attractive you are..
Written by BW member and author Beastlybator
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