Do you have hangups that prevent you from meeting other bators for a bate sesh?
We took to social media to find out where everyone is coming from and to shed some light on the current times, both circumstantial and individual. Since it is still a pandemic we do not encourage meeting anyone in person.
hang-up. (noun – plural noun: hangups) – an emotional problem(s) or inhibition(s).
Not just due to current events, but also what is it that stops you or anyone from actually taking a Bateworld connection offline and making it happen in person? Bateworld is online and made for online interaction and connection, but sometimes we might consider moving things offline. This is also relatable to any app, website, etc. for meeting and connecting in person.
We received a plethora of responses from a diverse group of Bateworld members and followers alike of all ages and wanted to share some.
Consensus would say that most Bateworld members and bators alike seek a bate bond, someone who understands the true essence of masturbation and are not necessarily looking for a hookup. What do you think?
Let us know your thoughts in the comments. If you’d like to respond to one of the responses below please also mention in the comments. We want to open this platform up to expand on this topic that most of us face and that is familiar to most. We are not here to judge. We respect all of you.
To review all responses, please click on the original tweet below and the post on our Instagram page.
Do you have hangups that prevent you from meeting other bators for a #bate sesh? Experience with someone that does? Is it attractiveness, #penis size, general fear, etc…? Sound off below ⬇️
And if you're a #Bateworld member please include your username with your response.
— BateWorld (@BateWorld) June 17, 2020
“I can no longer meet up with strangers from online, mainly due to safety concerns but also due to chemistry. If I don’t feel safe and don’t connect with the guy, then it won’t be fun. I’d rather go to NYJacks, but with Covid, that option is out indefinitely.” – HairyApollo on BW
“Everything wrong with ALL online hookups is at play: flakes, fakes, liars, bashers, disease, privacy, entrapment, theft… These reasons and more are precisely why JO clubs are the perfect meeting place for bators. ALL of my IRL bate mates came via @raincityjacks and the like. My bottom line is safety for me and my family. I don’t hide my love of masturbation, but I won’t hook up with a stranger in any place that’s not safe, neutral ground. The Jacks is the perfect audition situation.” – RainCityJack on BW
“I’m guessing I’m not hot enough and I have just an average penis. For me it’s all about the bate.”– Bro78701 on BW
“Body and age consciousness and of course, now, virus. Used to be (in the 80s) a sort of mail-in group for masturbators. You’d pay annual dues, like $15, and they’d send you a national list of members. You could call locals, meet for coffee first – which I would do now – see if there’s chemistry, and take it from there. Would love to do something like that again, but – the body and age uncertainty. Plus, as others have said, I wanna jack and jack each other, not fuck or whatever.” – JackerABQ on BW
“The biggest issue I have is actually finding local guys who want to bate together. Most guys want to fuck, and jerking off together isn’t even on their radar. It’s a constant struggle.” – Anonymous
“Honestly someone hit the nail on the head while saying people are looking for more. I’m not interested in anymore most of the time but people see that as lame. They just haven’t discovered the pleasure of the bate yet.” – CubforDaddies on BW
“I find that in the past couple of years it has been hard to find bate bros for real time bate. I’ve had 1 or 2 but I agree many want more. Also everyone isn’t on the same page with what interest them for bate fuel and even styles of bating. Still hopeful for more meaningful connections.” – Freakytails on BW
“As a gay man I run into the additional desire to go from bating to sucking. I love both but I definitely wanna try to stick just to the bate and explore the energy there as opposed to escalating it to more of a hookup. Not so much of hurdle than it is a challenge. I am definitely interested in establishing that bate bond.” – 3north on BW
Thoughts encouraged below. Bate on!
I don’t consider myself as a “pure” bator like many guys on here, that ONLY want to masturbate. I would like more. But as I’ve got older, my self confidence, which was never very great to begin with has gone through the roof. That being said, I don’t even cam bate. So that’s issue number one, basic low self esteem, and as other’s have said, my choice of “batefuel” can at times be “exotic”. LOL I am NOT a vanilla boy period. So it would be kewl if I could find someone with similar interests and that could possibly work as a mutual bate even in person. Many bators are fairly creative so perhaps that could happen. I dunno. I’ve been alone for so long that I don’t even know if I COULD do anything with someone else. So yeah, issues, worries, issues etc. lead to no boner.
Hi, just read your comments about Hangups re Bating with others.
I completely understand how you feel, and in a twisted way am glad I’m not on my own with these feeling.
Life, age etc can take a toll on looks, body etc but doesn’t stop the feelings and desires.
UK guy here
Take care
The choice to push anonymity to the extreme that so many bators still feel that they need to make, is probably what contributes to frequent skepticism on my part. I do not make a connection with a penis, but with the person. If I cannot know your name, see your face, my enthusiasm about chatting and making in-person connection flattens (no pun intended). I understand that many bators may have concerns about “what if someone finds out.” I think the joy of masturbation is one reason that is shared by all who join BW.
I’m not signing up on Twitter, so this will be my response to the article. I continuously git snagged by my in ability to follow thru w a meet on count of (I’ve never tryd to write this- no never tryd 2 answer the why don’t I follow thru) I’m goin to say shame of what ppl will think of me. So I’ve hid n the shadows since puberty of how fit n n why I feel the way I do. I’m 45 raised w values , correct non judgmental morals, integrity, dignity resolve, your word is the only thing u truly possess during short stay. Country boy to the core , all my friends including myself didn’t git exposed to the same as city folks. Myself n my best friends had no idea there were gay and lesbian ppl, I think I was 12-13 goin thru puberty. Not sheltered just out of that loop meaning of good and bad things . We just never seen it. So me hitting my grandpa Hustler n penthouse mag’s when I would purposely use the bathroom for n hour. Mind blown. Looking specifically at the guys dicks n cum and I didn’t know why. None of my family n especially friends wood b able to except the fact that I wanted to suck a dick n revel n the cum. Just not exceptable by the whole. Therfor my hang-up! Anxiety n nervousness prevents me most generally. Not always but mostly. There fear of b n seen is Paranoia in full effect & spectrum.
I know why I have been this way. I figured it out n my mid late 20s. Just b 4 I went thru puberty my Dad’s kinda adopted nephew was 2-3 yrs older n we slept n bunk beds me on top one. He wood say let me c your hand n naturally I would give it to him w/o hesitation the first time. His penis was hard as a rock as he held my hand n his slowly stroking his extremely hard penis ,as I was still trying to figure out why he wanted my hand on his dick now spurtin cum all over. At that moment I had no idea what just transpired, n I wiped off a little slick stuff really slick off from between my fingers. I just wish he would have waited 3-4 more months n I might have enjoyed it for I would could have joined him for the every night forced hand job. N tryd to make me suck it too. That triggered the way I feel about penises, not attracted to men at all kissing,rimming,ass plowing n so on. Just want to hold a a penis n my mouth until it’s give me everything n goes soft. What category does that fit in. So I’ve been searching since highschool for that one person that can keep a secret to the grave n love to give n receive nuts. Go fishing git tired he bud how bout a bj hj. Then go back fishing. How sweet would that b. For years I’ve wanted to look johnny up he’s still local haven’t seen him since my first wedding n it was the first time we’d seen each other since that summer of free handiest for him, he was very stressed to confront me . N when I walked to him I said hey man it’s n the past don’t worry bout it. N I could c the weight lift off his shoulders. Back to him b n local well recently I’ve wanted to look him up n confront him when I’m not gittn married about the fact he made me this way. And pretty much have him suck my dick or else tote beat n still have to do it. I’ve got a hunch he will b more than happy to accommodate me n then I’ll reciprocate to him. N mayb a new long awaited buddy may come out of it. I’m kinda the poster boy for what an American blue collar heterosexual Patriot man would look like , country to the core. Unless I cut ties w all family, n moved out in of the country. I will continue to b on the DL.
B4 my grandpa’s mag’s my only knowledge was a black n white soft back book called Adam and Eve sexual positions. W cheesy pics I was very naive n ignorant w no one telling me anything except my peers.
Met new friends when I started highschool one in particular kinda bad influence as far as breaking stuff just because anyways I rubbed off on him n he straightened up . He also had his dead stepdads extremely large n diverse porn VHS n mag’s, I’d never seen anything like what I was about to b exposed to . Transvestites it took me awhile to learn how to say it. So they become hot chicks w dicks . I was strangely drawn to them but dare share that. So I become a Ron Jeremy fan especially the unbelievable loads he dispersed on the faces of those beautiful young girls. I was hooked immediately my favorite h he had n amazing cock n blew outstanding loads well we was watching porn on day after school, all alone n his moms trailer he put n a compilation cumshot video. And proceeded to tell me he was going to jack off but waited to c my reaction. I started unzip my pants I look over curious pulls his shorts down , low n behold something I’d never seen or thought possible wasan amazing jaw dropping looked like my arm from shoulder to elbow massive monster cock. How the hell did he hide that thing. I said man, what do u feed that thing, as me gazing at it it was still engorging itself w blood. I said that ain’t real b n very serious. N he said yes n chuckled, I said w/o any thought of what I was doing or asking blurted out can I touch it. Naturally he said yes so I grabbed ahold of that creature n my hand wouldn’t go around it n it was warm, he enjoyed my hand on his cock. So we sit there side by side 2 feet apart jacking off. I couldn’t keep from lookin at this genius book of world records cock B4 me wanting to hold it for awhile, I said I’m gittn close he said me to I was planning on blowing my load right there, disappointingly he got up n shuffled quickly to the bathroom. I really wanted to c him cum. I still think about it. Momentarily he reappears sits down I’m holding on by a frog hair from nutting everywhere.hes watching my cocki git up to go to the bathroom also, half way bout 3 steps I started spewing cum upwards in all directions in front of me n on myself n he started laughing. I wasn’t embarrassed because he definitely liked watching me cum.. he was to my side n I was turned towards him as I navigate the hallway.
Ok I measured it myself, I had to go n got an actual tape measure from my mother’s sewing box 36 inches because the 12inch ruler was jus short. His member was an unbelievable 12 3/4″ of an inch in length the girth was 7 1/4″ of an inch. Had the opportunity to handle it one other time but was only interested in females. So I led myself to believe that lie that I told only to myself. We grew distant after that only hanging out occasionally. Therfor my hang-up
For the next two years were some of my favorites had smoking hot girlfriends that would fight when I’d git single for a day or two. Plus my best friend I met when we moved . He lived directly behind us . Literally a stones throw away. My n him grew very close n started watching porn. I think the first time we watched porn we pulled out our tools and tugged away until we couldn’t fight it anymore. Not wanting to blow first we edged I made sure he blew his load first almost every time because that really got me off. Then later that evening another round this time I pad more attention to his coke can fat 5 inch long beautiful cockn balls as he did the same to my 5.5 inch long decent average sized cock as the video started I asked if I could jack his cock and he answered yes u can. I was delighted after about 30 seconds he said lean back. So I’d did still trying to hold on to his magnificent boner as he took mine n his hand n I was amazed at how good he was with my cock , I couldn’t believe that I was fixing to cum less than 3 minutes of starting so I said my turn u r fixing 2 Make me cum he was shocked . So w his nice fat cock n my hand I jacked it like well to the best of my ability n shortly after like 20 seconds of my jerking his cock he said I’m cummin n I got super excited,I was fixing to have my first not mine cum shot that was from my actions. I got to c up close his load of creamy whitish cum. N he was a terrific Cummer we were about equal in amount but I could shoot my load easily over 8 feet. Yes we had contest his bedroom. Twice the first day I stayed the night n we decided that we should go again this time we talked it out B4 hand we wanted to suck each other’s cocks. I was coming unravelled everywhere w excitement. There was a heavy metal band having a concert inside of me n I had to keep it contained. I didn’t like heavy metal at time. I couldn’t wait so I didn’t he got out of the shower as he entered his room grabbed his cock thru the towel n he dropped the towel n stopped as I looked up at him I pulled his cock n2 my mouth completely n he moans after a few minutes he want to git at me but I didn’t want to stop n he wasn’t taking no for an answer, he wanted me n his mouth just as badly as I did him. So we laid down n sucked each other until we got close then jerked to climax. About a year later I wanted him to cum n my mouth. He took my load first it was good until I blew my huge load n his mouth n throat he wasn’t prepared for the slightest nonetheless he finished me like a trooper. My turn I sucked like never B4 n when he blew his very huge load n my mouth I had no choice but to let it come out n down his shaft. So I could continue n finish him. He said the best blowjob he’d had to date. I said easily the same. We both we having sex n gittn bj everyday of the week mostly multiple times a day from our girlfriend’s. That ended shortly after because he wanted to try anal n I just didn’t want to stick my dick n his ass didn’t appeal 2 me then or still today. I tryd to But he said no if I wouldn’t do that he was done. Looking back I should’ve wore that ass out.