All Sizes Are Good Sizes: Celebrating Dick Diversity and Overcoming Societal Expectations

Embrace your size and feel good about it. Don’t measure your penis in length and girth. Measure it in self-love and self-pleasure. That’s the perfect size.

Despite some progress in recent years, body image issues for men are still often swept under the rug. In particular, we invest a lot in our penises, and our self-esteem correlates to how we feel about them. Many men worry about penis size, but it is seldom addressed as a serious topic. Some might not realize that their perception of their penis is skewed by external influences. Let’s celebrate dick diversity and overcome societal expectations together.

We are exposed to idealized images in the media and instilled with negative and confusing messages from society. This can distort how we see and feel about our penises. The more these ideas are perpetuated, the deeper they impact us psychologically.

We constantly compare ourselves to others, whether it’s in the locker room, at the urinals, or even with other masturbators. We get so caught up in the numbers game, which is all very arbitrary. Theories abound about the variation in genital size across ethnicities, and with that come racial jokes and offensive stereotypes. There have been surveys to determine the “average” size among the population of the world. You can look up those “statistics” if you’d like, but they serve no purpose except to contribute to the anxiety surrounding penis size.

People like to categorize penises into “growers” or “showers.” “Growers” are penises that are small when flaccid and grow much larger when erect. “Showers” are penises that are already large when flaccid and don’t grow as drastically when erect. I am pleased to shatter this illusion and inform you that most penises are growers. Many men are insecure about their soft penis size, but the fact is, most penises are small when they are soft. This is completely natural, and there is nothing to worry about. Be confident about your cock.

The truth is, all penises are “showers” worthy of being seen and admired. Sometimes I like to tell people, with a confident smile, that I’m both a grower and a shower.

People also really like to make jokes about penis size. The jokes are endless, and I am not going to repeat any of them. You have heard them all before. Oftentimes, they are used to assert one’s self-appointed superiority or to diminish the confidence of another. Even if it’s meant to be lighthearted humor, those words are harmful, whether or not you realize it.

I will tell you right now that small penis jokes are never funny. None of us has a choice about the size of our genitals. There is no “normal” size. What is normal for you is what you have. Mocking someone for the size of their penis is body-shaming, and we shouldn’t laugh at it.

With the mockery of small penises comes the glorification of very large penises. Many guys compare themselves to the unattainable ideals of porn, which is not a reflection of most people in real life. Countless penis enlargement products and methods have been touted in an effort to make us feel like we’re not big enough. The mentality is that “bigger is better,” and we are bombarded with these unrealistic expectations at every turn. I challenge this narrative every time I encounter it, and I encourage you to do the same.

It is well known that the ancient Greeks, and the Romans after them, favored the aesthetics of small penises. The diminutive dick was a symbol of virility and self-discipline, and all their gods and heroes were depicted this way. An exception to this was Priapus, who is represented by a permanently erect and grossly exaggerated phallus. But his oversized erection was considered a curse, as the Greeks regarded large penises as comical and grotesque.

Ancient cultures regarded the small penis as a symbol of refinement and enlightenment. The penis of the Buddha himself is said to have been retracted inside his body. According to the 6th-century encyclopedia Brihat Samhita, a big penis is very unlucky. How the tables have turned. The point is to demonstrate how opinions regarding size have been inconsistent throughout history and across cultures. Our obsession with big cocks is pretty much the opposite of what some of our ancestors preferred.

Someone recently accused me of being on a “little dick crusade,” which I thought was a funny thing to say, but he missed the whole point. The scale is already tipped in favor of big penises, so the goal is to level the playing field. Let’s share that reverence and enthusiasm with all varieties of penises! Many guys love having a big penis, and they are always the loudest voices in the room. There is nothing wrong with celebrating your big cock—go for it, man!—as long as you recognize and honor the validity of all cocks.

Not everyone likes having a big dick. Some men find that being hung like a horse can be quite burdensome. Carrying around a big, swinging dick in one’s pants can feel awkward or uncomfortable. Many guys with big penises love the attention, but some don’t like being objectified. Some may also face challenges during partnered sex. So some men have anxiety about being too big.

Feelings of inadequacy can also affect men with big penises. Since the message instilled in us is “go bigger,” even guys who are already quite large can feel that they are not large enough. They perceive their penises to be smaller than they really are. I have interacted with many men who think that their penis is too small, but I see what I consider to be a fairly large penis. So men of all sizes can feel that their dick is small. Small is a feeling, not a number.

Someone once asked me how I would describe the size of his penis: medium, large, or extra large (notice how he never said small). My response to him was that words like “medium” or “large” are meaningless. You’re a human, not a pizza. And that’s the whole point. Just like the people they’re attached to, penises come in every size, shape, and color imaginable, and then some. All are different, and none are superior. As men in the masturbation community, we need to support each other and celebrate our dick diversity. All sizes are good sizes.

Penises are meant to fluctuate in size anyway. A single penis can vary greatly depending on environmental factors such as temperature. Most of us are familiar with “shrinkage” in a cold room or after coming out of a swimming pool. Shrinkage is completely natural, and I think it’s a beautiful thing. Instead of being embarrassed about it, let’s own it. Nature made us this way.

Your penis can also retract inside your body due to tension. This can occur for several reasons, including stress and trauma. One time I was taking dick pics and I realized that I was contracting my pelvic floor muscles and drawing my genitals into my body. When I consciously relaxed those muscles, my penis and balls protruded more from my body.

I take a lot of dick pics, as I’m sure most of us do. Some have even mastered the art of the dick pic, and understand the nuances of angle and lighting. These can affect your perception of your penis as well. One exercise that I like to do is take photos of my penis in different environments and at different states of softness and arousal. My penis varies incredibly in size and shape, ranging from shriveled, rumpled foreskin to fat Italian sausage and many shades in between. We should challenge our skewed perceptions of our penises and learn to appreciate them with all of their variables.

Your penis is yours. When you masturbate—have sex with yourself—size doesn’t matter anyway. No one is judging you except yourself. So discard all that bullshit. Embrace your size and feel good about it. Don’t measure your penis in length and girth, but in terms of self-love and self-pleasure. That’s the perfect size. Let’s acknowledge and celebrate dick diversity.

Written by BateWorld member StrokingtheSoul

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