While my initial desire in writing this article was to touch on the most obvious questions regarding the Cock Summit, they have already been answered splendidly by Str8Shooter in this blog post. So instead I will try to give you my personal view of the weekend. I linked to the article above because it was that article that convinced me to go. I found out about the summit only a few weeks prior so when I emailed the facilitator with the typical “will I fit in?” question, he pointed me to the above, brand new blog post and suggested I read it. It was brilliant advice as it answered all my questions and most importantly, it confirmed that yes, I would fit in. I ended up reserving a spot the next day.
There were about 40 of us in attendance and our group was much like the place where we held the retreat: There was beautiful scenery, an eclectic group of buildings and decorations that ran the gamut of age, spanning many different forms of spirituality, and a sense of belonging and pride that all these unique pieces somehow fit together perfectly to form something beautiful. So it was with our group of bators!
As someone who is older and larger, I tend to avoid socializing due to fear of rejection, especially in sexual situations. I almost did the same thing the first night there. I stepped outside to collect my thoughts and I thought back to the opening ceremony where the facilitator, Jallen, asked us all for acceptance. Not only of each other but of ourselves. Acceptance, it sounds pretty simple but it is a powerful thing, especially when you direct it at yourself. So, instead of retreating back to solitude, I stopped worrying about what everyone else looked like or what I looked like to them and just accepted all of us, mainly myself, as the beautiful sexual beings we are.
With this new mindset planted firmly in my brain, I went back inside. The next two days were filled with mind-blowing erotic pleasure, laughter, tears, hugging, kissing, corny jokes and male bonding to a degree that I had never experienced before. Also, did I mention the mind-blowing erotic pleasures?
The group activities were all optional and varied greatly from exercise (yoga, hiking, etc) to the more sensual and/or emotionally therapeutic. While people spoke of many different backgrounds and upbringings, there was a common thread that spoke to me. It was the simple desire for acceptance, either from other people, or, like with me, acceptance of themselves.
The closing ceremony was incredibly emotional and I teared up several times. There was one participant who I kept glancing towards who was barely holding it together and the sadness in his eyes broke my heart. I wanted to go over to him, hug him and protect him from that sadness. He is my bate brother. Prior to this, I always thought that the term ‘bate on, brother!’ was a colloquial term of endearment towards each other. Now I understand that it is a true brotherhood of men.
I titled this ‘Play it forward’ because had it not been for Str8Shooters blog post, I may never have attended. It is my hope that if you’ve read this looking to find something to convince you to go, that you find it here. It can be incredibly playful, incredibly therapeutic or both. It can be as much or as little as you want it to be and the only requirement on your part is acceptance. Bate on, Brothers!
By Bateworld member, SDchubby
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The next Bateworld Cock Summit is being planned for August of September. Go to the group page on Bateworld to find out the details:
https://bateworld.com/group.php?group_id=1459&v=discussions
What a wonderful account of a spectacular event! The key of self-acceptance makes possible every other treasure of embracing our human embodiment as male animals of our species. For the reason made plain in this lovely account, my DBA is called “Brotherhood of Men.” Rock on, my Phallic Brothers! — BPG
Thank you for this heartfelt inspiration and reflection. It was the first time for me as well. I am new to the entire group thing, sure it has happened on few occasions over the last 20 years, but never on a scale like this. You might have seen me as a cowboy, a wrestler, wonder woman even – but a man all the same. I came just like you to open my heart to men and their humanity.
Such games we play in our private hidden lives, only to start believing that we are the only ones with the fantasies. You may have youth or looks or a big cock – non of these things compare to being in touch with the unifying and grounding realization that YOU are NO different than anyone else.
Cock Summit’s structure and intimate setting is just as Jallen explained, it is the safest spot you are going to have as a man. Once you leave – you will carry it with you for the rest of your life. You will seek out to create similar intimate experiences although even with this new open, free mind, we find it difficult to hone in on those who are ready and open to make it to the next level as well. Dont give up brother!
Thank you for your being real, open and vulnerable. Until I see you next – Joy through the waves is being sent to you.
JC -SD
It’s been a week since saying my goodbyes to everyone at the Summit. I’m still feeling the overflowing positive energy from the weekend in the desert. I made so many true deep connections with the men there. I don’t remember the last time I have been in such a loving judgement-free enviroment with a group of gay men. The food was fantastic, nice accommodations, with enough activites to keep one busy all weekend, without any pressure to participate if you wanted to just relax and bate. of course, the many opportunities for naked play was tons of fun too. Many thanks go out to Jallen, Richard and Ben for organizing such a wonderful event. I encourage everyone to step out of your comfort zone and give it a try. You might be pleasantly surprised at what you can get out of it all. I was.
Thanks guys for all the positive responses. Yes, we’ve had some practice in making the environment as accepting and sexy as possible, AND it’s you guys who show up and build the experience with us. We couldn’t do it without you! It’s amazing the yummy intimacy and horniness we can create by sheer will and our cocks in hand. The next Summit is September 6-8. See you there!
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