My motto is, “A stiff dick has no orientation or sees color.… It just wants to be masturbated.”
As I type this I am fifteen minutes into pumping my dong for my three hour edging session. The question on my mind, “What kind of bond do I want with my fellow Bator?”
I was asked by Edward, social guru for BateWorld and editor of The Bator Blog, to share my experience with the BateWorld community and a bit about my bate life as a man of color.
A little bit about me, I am from and grew up in Cleveland, Ohio and have always been the “out there” one of my family. I figured out how to masturbate at the age of twelve and have been a bator ever since. Although I had many bator moments before that, I got scared and stopped, lol! I did not have a mutual jerk off buddy ’til college and an actual Bate Brother ’til after college. Finding that Bate Brother instead of just a jerk off buddy is what made me a sort of activist for the bate life style. Then BAM! I came across BateWorld and the search for more liked minded bators began.
My experience with the BateWorld community as a man of color has overall been time well spent. I have not had any bad moments. I will not lie and say I was not worried that I, being a black male, would affect my experience as those of my other lighter skinned counterpart bators. This was all washed away the moment my profile was published and the pics were up.
Now obviously we all as men are very visual beings (so they say), even more so as a bator. With that, I’m sure some are not as attracted to such bators as myself, but every guy that I came across in that moment has been respectful in “letting me down” nicely, haha! It happens, move on, but also this cannot fully be blamed on color of skin. There is more involved in meeting a potential Bate Brother.
I am very happy to see more men of color appearing on the site and being vocal in the community. My motto is, “A stiff dick has no orientation or sees color.… It just wants to be masturbated.” Haha! My goal is simple, build a brotherhood with the men around me and that I meet. I always want for men to bond past the surface level that society tells us is okay for men to say, do, wear, ..Etc. I say take this month to get to know ALL your fellow Bators and become brothers, you’ll see the difference it makes.
Lastly, to answer my beginning question, “What kind of bond do I want with my fellow Bator?” I don’t want just another Bator – I want a brother connected with himself, able to bond 100% in our brotherhood, to discover…..completely free of any judgment or concern.
Thank you for this platform for Bators, new and experienced, to discuss us for a change with a focus topic that all men can get HANDS ON with…see what I did there, haha!
Author Dre is known as MyB8Buddy on BateWorld.
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A great article. This definitely expresses my feelings as well. Thanks DreBatorChicago for this!
Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. I’m enjoying learning and exploring the community
Beautifully penned article. Your answer is equally as clear, and beautiful.
Thank you
Nice article but it didn’t really give any valuable information about being a man of color on Bw….. I think its important to share the good the bad and the ugly. Its important to not ignore what opportunities we have as a community to learn, and grow, especially when it has to do with understanding everyone’s experiences.
I totally agree with learning from each other experiences. That’s definitely away for us all to grow. I’m sorry the article didn’t dive into topics maybe you wanted to have light shed on, but also my experience hasn’t had much of “bad” and “ugly” moments since I’ve joined the community and site. But i do think there should be a posting about it because it can or will be an issue fellow bator will deal with.
We are so grateful to Dre for agreeing to share his own perspective re his experience on BateWorld. And honestly, this level of discussion is exactly what we had hoped for. BateWorld not only wants to demonstrate it’s inclusiveness but is truly working on enhancing that. We need more involvement. It’s been a huge challenge for years to get many men of color to write any blog pieces for us, and next to impossible for us to get permission to use their photos. Please spread the word, as Edward (all things social media for BateWorld and TheBatorBlog) is doing on our FaceBook group. Anyone interested please contact me at [email protected], and I’ll put you in touch with Edward.
I don’t find that its been “bad” per se but to be honest guys do have their own preferences and not all guys are polite or respectful. Some just downright objectify the fact that i’m black and that is never fun when you want to talk about the things we all have in common.
The objectifying is something i encounter online from guys before so I know how to handle it but it does kill conversation.
I agree w/ Nojoke, I’m a man of color on BW and I have okay to good experiences on BW itself. But the area I live in, I’m ignored even though I share the same kinks and intos as the bators around me however…. it just so happens that being Indian makes me what feels like one of the least desired races. I think that other races have more of a chance to be a fetish for some white bators, but Indian is not one of them. I don’t fit the mold of so called Indian stereotypes, but one look at me and the decision has already been made. If you’re going to write about being a man of color on BW, you should address color more than penis, as much as we all love it lol.
Hey thanks for the feedback. I totally get what you are saying and can imagine the Frustration. I just simply was ask to share my experience on the site so far, a bit about myself and maybe that is different from your experience. I totally think we should have a blog about what you have experience because it does happen.
In so many ways, masturbation is the great equalizer…we all fall subject to the pleasures and the unparalleled release it offers, which makes us all human…Our irresistable longing for it and our joy in it is an indication of the universal human condition that transcends time, place, culture, or ethnic background…no matter what outside “morality” or acceptance is placed on it. One’s individual bond with the rest of the entire human race might, therefore, be illustrated in how evolved and accepting one is toward all other masturbators. Since all masturbators are created equal (even if all penises are not), why not just jerk and let jerk? Respect the needs and honor the pleasure of others with the sanctity that you have for your own..
I’m always excited to see more men of color joining this site! As soon as I log in I check the newest members page to see who’s found there way into the bate brotherhood. POC are still way under represented here in my view though, would love to welcome tons more. As you say a hard cock doesn’t know any difference, I love the inclusive diversity here, and hope it grows even more so! I’m half french and half Arab , so I understand how some cultures have greater resistance to being open about the topics covered on this site, but I consider this a “safe zone”. Great post!
Is it wrong to prefer or fantasize about our differences?
I’m not sure if it’s healthy for society to not “see” color or to ignore any of the variety that humans have.