BateWorld’s First Ever Cock Summit Successfully Erupts!

I am naked, with my hard dick in hand sitting on a pillow in a large, wooden-floored, yoga practice studio. The long side of the room is lined with picture windows that look out onto a bright tan rocky desert landscape with one particular rock formation rising hundreds of meters into the sky. It’s Southern California high desert in April, the wind is cold and crisp outside, despite the cloudless sky. Although the stiff breeze keeps the outside cool (too cold to go naked outdoors), the bright sun hits all these windows and bakes the indoor spaces warm.

Around me are two or three dozen men, most are naked and stroking their cocks, too. It is Saturday afternoon at BateWorld’s first ever Cock Summit and even at this halfway point I can tell it is an undisputed and sexy success!

At the center of the room is milkingCOACH (as he’s known on BateWorld) and he is taking volunteers to be slowly and luxuriously milked (an affectionate term for thoroughly enjoying the experience of masturbating another, which of course is enjoyed by both parties). Some volunteers relish it till they cum, while others simply savor their turn for pleasure’s sake. At the same time, milkingLa is demonstrating different hand positions, speeds, pressures, explaining strategies, and encouraging all of us to try his tricks and tips on ourselves, or how about I try it on a consenting brother next to me?

As a sexologist, and the coordinator of this weekend (on behalf of BateWorld), I was fairly confident that the safe and arousing experience that bators and solosexuals find on the website could be translated into a face-to-face experience. Subscribers had been asking for such a weekend. There are already a number of wonderful “bating weekends” out there, and it just came time for BateWorld to try it’s hand at it – so to speak.

To say the least, I blush with pride at how well the weekend progressed, and not just in terms of the programming. We had attempted to strike a balance between a workshop or two, a ritual or two, and plenty of free time – all of which were opportunities to grab our dicks and feel good. Heck! A participant didn’t even have to attend any of the activities. Just show up and bate. This open and accepting sexuality, much like on the website, provided “safe space” for people with dicks to be their unique and sexy selves, and Oh! How some of them blossomed!

I had figured an event like this would mainly attract “retreat pros” – guys who hit all the fun, sexual experiences that can be found if one knows where to look, but I was astonished to see a significant number of participants who had never done anything like this before, and they were adorable! What can I say, nothing will bring this sexologist and experiential educator to the brink of tears, not to mention cumming, than to see a man, for the first time, take the risk of allowing another man to give him pleasure and have the experience blow his mind in a positive, healing, transcendent, orgasmic manner! All the while a group of men is hanging out providing similar experiences, encouraging each other to feel as incredible as they possibly can.

For me, this is what being a man is about, and it’s the precise element that is often times missing in masculinity today, and it’s probably what’s missing in heterosexism as well. It’s not about gay or straight or anything thereof. It’s not about competition, or status, or conformity, or exclusion, or gender roles, or shame, or stress, or consumerism. It’s providing safe, respectful, sensual compassion so that my brother can experience the highest and most pleasurable and even most healing experience a body can enjoy, as a result of my hand! What’s so damn scandalous about that?

Whoops! This sexologist is on his soapbox again! Back at the Summit, the weekend was permeated with optimism, respect, happiness, camaraderie, laughter, compliments, hope, and even love. As I said, this was not just brought about by the schedule, but by a group of great guys who were willing to risk, and drop the bullshit of who they are “suppose to be” and create a weekend to honor their sexy selves as they are at the moment, and feel great about it, too. Yes, please!

So who wants to be next? If you’d like to be kept up to date, join the Cock Summit Group on Bateworld. If you’d like to stay in touch with this and other workshops/events I facilitate, you can find me at www.doctorrix.com.

This was our first try, and we only had about 4 months to plan for it. Now we can schedule any number of weekends six months to a year or two ahead of time, allow for a lot more folks to plan and participate! I think an East Coast Summit might be in order! How about a European Summit, or a Summit down under? Obviously, we can’t have an experience like this at the local Hyatt Resort. If you know of locations that would accommodate experiences such as these, please recommend them, and perhaps a Cock Summit might erupt near you!

Sex educator, author and activist Jallen Rix holds a Doctorate of Education in Sexology from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality where he is a Professor. He maintains a private practice in Palm Springs CA, which includes personal consulting, sacred intimacy work, and surrogate-style partner experiences.