How would you like to have as many orgasms as you want without having to wait to get over the after-effects of a full-blown ejaculation?
I’m hovering along what some men call the “edge,” that is very close to ejaculatory inevitability, where the sensations are indescribably sweet and powerful; then I exert a little inner relaxation of a muscle—the opposite of a contraction—and I tip over into a full-blown orgasm without ejaculation! The intensity like a supernova exploding in my brain means I need to remove my hands from my penis for a few seconds…
However my arousal and erection both remain glorious beyond words, and soon in the midst of that exquisite oblivion, I carefully continue towards my next orgasm…
Men are capable not only of learning that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same things. We are also capable, with some self-training or help from a masturbation coach, of having dry orgasms one after another, even a series of [simple_tooltip content=’In human sexuality, the refractory period is usually the recovery phase after orgasm during which it is (assumed) physiologically impossible for a man to have additional orgasms due to increase in the penile sensory threshold (PST). Though it is generally reported that women do not experience a refractory period…
Multiple male orgasms.
The only reason males think orgasm and ejaculation are identical is that as teenage boys having our first ejaculatory orgasms, the two experiences tend to happen simultaneously. The big secret here is that they are not one and the same. Of course, when you do ejaculate, that’s usually the end of your pleasure, at least for a little while, an interval called the “refractory period,” until your desire for more gets strong enough to resume stimulation of your penis. Still, you can orgasm without ejaculation.
what I really wanted was to be able to linger in those exquisite states of what I call pure penile pleasure (p3) indefinitely, for as long as I wished…Understand please, I’m not opposed to ejaculation, and like most men, I find it a fantastic experience that truly cannot be described. However let me confess that all through my teens, twenties, and thirties, I masturbated every day, often at least two or three times, to ejaculatory orgasm. I’ve always adored masturbation since I first really figured it out! However, over the years I began to suspect there might be more to it: what I really wanted was to be able to linger in those exquisite states of what I call pure penile pleasure (p3) indefinitely, for as long as I wished to be there and savor the enjoyment.
Not until shortly after my 40th birthday did I have a breakthrough, when I discovered how to get into p3 and stay there for long intervals.
The basics are simple, but not necessarily easy at first. Excellent masturbation is like a sport that you need to practice and practice. You can reach unbelievably sweet spots, with dedication and persistence.
The first part of this training is to pay full attention to what we’ll call your “pee-stopper” muscle, which lies inside you just behind the base of your penis, at the bottom of your prostate gland. The prostate sits under your bladder, and when you take a leak, you have to relax your pee-stopper muscle.
So I suggest that any time you pee, such as when you get up in the middle of the night to take a leak, notice where this tiny ring of muscle is, within your pelvic floor. In other words, relax it and pee, then contract the muscle and stop the flow of urine, then start it again, over and over, to get a sense of where this muscle is and how it feels.
By increasing this simple awareness, you’re on your way to dry orgasms or even multiple male orgasms, and next, I’ll tell you exactly how to get there.
(Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique: Part 2)
I am learning this–semen retention, tantra–long solo sessions without ejaculating. Just finished an awesome hour–I am 67 with ED, so this has really improved my sex life!!
Congratulations on the new part of your erotic journey, Brother! Thanks so much for sharing.
I’ve bought books about this which has taught me how to enjoy that sweet spot for hours on end. But NEVER managed to get that full orgasm without shooting. Keep writing!
Yes, many books I’ve read or seen on similar subjects make this sound complicated and esoteric. It isn’t so complicated, but it does require persistence and practice, practice, practice, to keep taking it to new levels. My own book is the clearest “how to” that I know of on the subject, and of course the free coaching videos on the Erotic Engineering site provide demonstrations and detailed explanation of nuances. Keep practicing!
I cant help it but i love to squeezz tight and massage a hand and forarm real deep theres 5 tunnles i think the orgazom is wild good butt mucle control please someone try it enjoy
Amazing, i wanna try it!
Hopefully you’ve also read Part 2 now!
I am 68 and still get hard a lot—I do not ejaculate as much even with mastabatory activity—Do other guys my age simply do not ejaculate easily???? Does your body just make less as a guy gets older
Sexual activity requires regular attention and practice to maintain as we age, and of course it’s also directly connected with self-care and healthy lifestyle. Massaging your balls regularly actually helps to generate testosterone, which is good for you. Many men don’t shoot as far when they ejaculate in later decades, but this practice of dry orgasm involves NOT ejaculating, so it’s a bit of a different matter.
I can cum it seems as many times a day i want .butt play helps .size does matter really try it deep and slow u will cum theres a manual button
I would love to be able to have an orgasm over and over and over again I want to know how. Does anybody play with anal toys when they’re masturbating.? Also do you milk the prostate does it make you come as soon as you touch it or do you have to rub it a little bit? Please let me know I love doing both of these but I don’t know If I’m touching the prostate in the right spot.
I plan on a Part 3 to this, but if you practice Part 1 and Part 2, you should have a good chance of experiencing multiple orgasms without ejaculating, one after another after another… and as for the prostate, I wrote 2 blogs here about Anal Stimulation Masturbation Techniques: https://www.thebatorblog.com/bate-facts/masturbation-techniques/anal-stimulation-masturbation-techniques-part-1/
I would be happy to show u .but im in bc. So email me cause once ur butt is needing it it will be a craving.just go slow and deep
Fabulous! There are so many, I feel truly endless varieties of masturbatory pleasure, and it’s always good to try new and different possibilities! Thanks, Bro!
I am a 61 years old and have a pens implant which I pump up after getting high I put a good old nasty porno movie in the DVD player grab som lube and start stroking as I fantasize about being the man in those movies fucking those women. It takes awhile but I come slot and am ready immediately for more hot and erotic nasty lusty sexual masturbation and pleasure.
Thank you for describing your practice, Brother, as there are all sorts of options to enhance solosexual pleasure, and sharing those possibilities encourages our natural Phallic Brotherhood of Men.
Hi,
I have been trying to orgasm , with my prostate hands free. I have a prostate massager; seems like ugly use similar muscles.
Keegle, I guess.
Going to try the start / stop
Urination .
I bet it will
Help .
I have had many orgasms with like pre cum leaking out ; yet unable to ejaculate fully with touching myself . Does anyone have a suggestion ?
Practice, practice, practice. I’ve never focused mucho ejaculating hands-free, as I’m so sensitive and my mind so easily aroused, I can do that quite easily when I bring myself very close to the edge and visualize “arousal triggers” of special intensity for me, personally. I’d do a lot of anal breathing, which I’ve described in previous blogs, which is basically just breathing in while you clench your anus, breathing out while you relax your anus. This develops the euro-genital muscle areas, and helps with both quality of erections and ejaculation control, both ways. I find I can do anal breathing while I masturbate, and even in public places when no one knows I’m silently doing that inside my trousers.
I’ve been doing this technique for 5 years now and enjoyed something like 50,000 dry orgasms. For me they range from tiny peaks to mid-sized – each individual orgasm not as intense as a wet orgasm – but the cumulative effect is more intense. I can do one a minute and 10 orgasms gets me into a goon state, which just gets deeper and deeper when I do 20 or 50 – You can just keep doing them! These days I do about 500 dry orgasms between each wet ejaculation.
Hi.
Absolutely love this blog, I have learnt from this post for almost a year now, how to enjoy my orgasms…
Please help, I’m 35 and I think I suffer from premature ejaculation. Do I consult a General Practitioner first or do I find a Men’s Clinic? I want to enjoy sex again 😫