QUESTION: I am a physician, an M.D. in my 30s who has long been a fan of your teachings. I work in an Emergency Room, which is very stressful and the hours long. I’m single, so your kind of masturbation really helps more than I can tell you. I read your columns here. Could you present a simple summary of a few of the most important points on how to Masturbate Mindfully?
RESPONSE: When you’ve worked on breathing deeply into your belly as you begin your masturbation sessions, keeping relaxed during your arousal, and keep the focus on yourself—you’re on your way already. Be sure to use plenty of lube: coconut oil, Albolene, or whatever you like best. Here are the next three steps in the process as I have developed it…
4. Vary Your Strokes: Actually, there are a limitless number of ways to stroke your penis. Include your balls, your perineum, your anus, your entire body. Your imagination is the only limit. “Let your fingers do the walking,” as I do, and you may keep making discoveries for years to come. There are several reasons why it’s great to apply a variety of strokes while you masturbate: to enhance the process, increase your pleasure, and render the practice truly mindful.
For example, A.) When you apply a stroke with your right hand to your penis, after a while, switch and do the same with your left hand; using both hands alternately actually helps your brain hemispheres communicate more, as they are wired to right and left hands, B.) Try such delights as “making fire” by rolling your erection slowly between both palms, C.) pull your balls and your shaft in opposite hands, slowly and firmly in opposite directions, D.) press your perineum just behind your scrotum while your other hand is on your penis, E.) or with a backhand stroke slowly twist in a spiral motion along the shaft as you move upwards to the head of your penis.
5. Take Care of Yourself: I’ve always thought that to take good care of yourself as part of a maximum-bliss masturbation practice ought to be an obvious connection. The healthier you are overall, the more you can enjoy and explore the frontiers of erotic ecstasy you can generate through consciously masturbating. Regular exercise, at least walking or swimming often, is a lot better than being a couch potato or desk jockey. It’s also great for your general emotional and mental health. Today’s Internet porn makes it tempting to get fixated! Also, hydrate plenty, for most people these days that means a lot more H2O, plus a healthy diet with more fresh, organic fruits and veggies, and sufficient sleep. If it helps to ejaculate before you sleep, go for it!
6. Refine Your Practice: The previous five suggestions, taken to heart and practiced will immediately set you on a path to explore more prolonged states of pure penis pleasure, also higher and higher plateaus of pleasure. As part of this journey, you may already practice edging, or retaining your semen for longer periods instead of ejaculating quite so often. To begin your sessions with a gradual period of foreplay, stretching, slowing down, stimulating other non-pelvic parts of your marvelous human anatomy, is great! In the aftermath (whether you ejaculate or not), give yourself time to consciously absorb the ecstatic sensations you’ve generated. Digest the pleasure fully and allow it to nourish your entire body deeply on the cellular level.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
