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Against all reason and sanity, if you do get caught it would be considered indecent exposure at the least…

QUESTION: I love to J.O. in public and almost getting caught! Nothing gets me hotter than to expose myself where people might see me. In these study cubicles at the school library, I love to lean back, pull out the pork sword and wave it around. When hot guys walk by, I stroke halfway under the desk. In fact, one time a cute guy did catch me, and watched a little while, but then he ran off. I guess this really isn’t such a good idea, right?

RESPONSE: Even though it’s exciting and you’ve gotten away with it so far, no, it’s not a good idea to expose yourself or masturbate in public places. I hate to come down on this as an old fuddy-duddy, because if we lived in a less sex-phobic world, it would not be such a big deal. But let me refer you to a column I wrote about a young fellow who was masturbating on a public transport bus and got caught.

Against all reason and sanity, if you do get caught it would be considered indecent exposure at the least, or gross indecency if you are actually engaged in sexual activity. The legal consequences can vary from a warning and a sort of “slap on the wrist,” to serious fines and even jail time, including a permanent record as a sex offender. Of course, these penalties seem absurd to anyone who appreciates male nudity and especially in these times when free porn is so abundant online.

But in legal terms, one important distinction is that it’s considered worse if you wanted someone to see you, and they did not want to see any such thing. In “real-time,” in what is considered a public place and before the eyes of those who may not wish to see such displays, this kind of exposure and display is taken seriously by authorities.

In a more ideal world, and hopefully sometime in the near future, attitudes on these matters might change considerably. There is increasing tolerance for public nudity in some places, but unfortunately the retro forces of anti-sexual attitudes still sometimes react and seek to draw things backwards.

Personally, if I came across you masturbating in a library study cubicle, I’d probably grab my own crotch, lean over, and ask you if you want to go somewhere more private to enjoy some stroking together. Then it would be up to you, how you react. However, there are still plenty of people a lot more inhibited on such matters than I am.

I don’t want to rain on your parade, but if you still feel strongly drawn to this kind of behavior, please research the legal parameters in your specific location—not hard to do online—then proceed with caution. Do your best not to be caught and understand that there are certain places such as “JO” clubs or gay saunas, where you can be seen and see other guys masturbating and engage in whatever delicious activities fit the guidelines, far more safely.

I know the excitement of possibly getting caught is part of the thrill for you but be sure you know what the consequences might be. That said, don’t let anyone rain on your parade—especially not me!

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The Bate Master - Bruce P. GretherBRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels

The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.<


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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2 Comments

  1. Rational advice, if unexciting. I second the idea of bathhouses or jack off clubs, which provide a similar type of stimulation without the potential negative repercussions.

  2. I’m somewhat risk averse so not even tempted by any sort of public masturbation or penis sharing unless it is in a sanctioned place like a nudist gay campground or something. Having said that, in what I’ve read about sexuality, “dick displays” are common in other animal species including primates, and it is probably just something men are hard wired to do. Look at all the dick pics here on BateWorld presented by gay, bi and str8 men. I agree that we will be a more civilized society when the laws are changed to where nudity and even public sex are accepted and just a part of life like other animals we see and film doing it. We are not there yet though, so caution is best advised.