Ask The Batemaster: Jacking Roommates

I’m sure he watches because it excites him, and he’s secretly stroking too. At the very least, it probably gives him an erection also.

QUESTION: I share a dorm room at a Christian college, and my roommate often watches me masturbate at night. Sometimes I can see his eyes shining faintly in the dark. In fact, having him as a witness excites me more! Also, I often hear him do it, but he hides in under his covers and won’t admit he does it at all. Isn’t this a waste of all the fun we could be having together?

RESPONSE: Your fantasy about sharing masturbation with this guy you room with is understandably hot and arousing to you. Only he’s clearly a bit more inhibited by the conditioned shyness about masturbation that so many guys still suffer in today’s world. It’s not surprising to me that you are at such a school, and still an avid masturbator, as almost all human males in the world are basically enthusiasts, except for some who feel too ashamed to fully enjoy it, or others with medical issues that sadly prevent such enjoyment.

In my opinion masturbation is one of life’s greatest pleasures—perhaps not the one and only for me—still, of major importance. Partnered sex can be fantastic, and it can also be a bit frustrating trying to communicate just what you want most and like best to another person. A special virtue of masturbation, as you know, is that it’s really entirely up to you how much pleasure you get to have. Also, shameless masturbation is actually beneficial in that it enhances your self-esteem, exercises important organs that connect with your entire body overall, and helps to keep you a happier, more balanced human male. It generates beneficial brain chemicals and hormones.

There is nothing unusual or wrong about the fact your roommate watching you masturbate excites you further. I’m sure he watches because it excites him, and he’s secretly stroking too. At the very least, it probably gives him an erection also.

At the same time, you apparently have no idea how he would react if you actually suggested that you both masturbate openly together. It’s probably wisest to leave it up to him to make the next move, if that will ever happen, and perhaps someday he will. Just don’t count on it until it happens. The kind of school you attend may suggest how this other guy was raised, and he may not be quite so free of inhibitions as you seem to be. Guys really vary a lot in how religious background influences masturbation.

You might also wish to consider carefully if it might be worth be the risk of simply speaking out. Consider how much you might have to lose—or not! You might lose an amiable roomie relationship, or it could possibly turn into something even hotter than your fantasies about it. Of course, this kind of more direct, assertive approach is entirely up to you.

Be grateful for the hot erotic fun you are already having, stroking while you know he watches, and perhaps stroking again when you hear him doing it. Though the best may still be ahead in this situation, at least for now you have matters in hand!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.