“Life Force” does not have any scientific basis.
QUESTION: Do I lose life force after every ejaculation? How does this affect my overall well-being?
RESPONSE: No, not really. The idea that you lose life force after every ejaculation mostly comes from the ancient Taoist teachings from China, about cultivating erotic energy by experiencing intense, prolonged sexual stimulation, but then retaining your semen. This idea can also be found in the Tantra teachings of East India. Basically, by choice you don’t ejaculate, but instead keep the erotic “energy” you have generated in your body.
This is something like edging, but takes that art to an extreme, with the belief that men age faster because they ejaculate too often, and that frequent ejaculation can compromise your health.
It’s not entirely true, and yet like most ancient traditions, it contains some important seeds of the truth (pun fully intended!). Taoist tradition teaches that you are born with only so much basic “life force” energy in the body, and that you lose some of this every time you ejaculate. The belief is men should only ejaculate when they choose to conceive a child. Some Taoist schools accept that for young men to ejaculate fairly often is okay, but insist that as men get older, they ought to cultivate more skillfully, and ejaculate less and less often.
The truth is, “life force” does not have any scientific basis. The term represents a complex of biological and physiological factors related to overall vitality, vibrancy, health and well-being. My own study and experience of this matter over many decades leads me to certain opinions and suggestions I currently offer.
While ejaculation is a healthy and natural function your body is designed for, if you ejaculate several times every day, you are likely to be subject to emotional mood-swings and may suffer a certain degree of lassitude just from expending so much effort. For guys in their late teens, 20s, and even 30s, this may not seem so noticeable. Plus, I personally know some fine masturbators who ejaculate every day, but usually only after hours of skillful, expert masturbation.
What guys call “edging” is only the beginning of what you can do when you learn to practice semen retention. At first, many guys can’t imagine anything more powerful and alluring than ejaculatory orgasm. But trust me, you can enter continuous orgasmic states for long intervals, you can have multiple dry orgasms, when you learn to make ejaculation a choice, and chose to do it a lot less often.
Whenever you ejaculate, very soon those stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline return and break down the pleasure-reward chemicals in your system. When you choose not to ejaculate, just relax a while to consciously absorb the astounding ecstasy you’ve been generating in your body for a while, give yourself time to savor the afterglow. Then you can then continue your life with full energy, and also the serenity that comes from intense erotic satisfaction.
When you don’t ejaculate so often, you’ll always be ready to resume play at any time, which is wonderful. Check it out, explore the options, then decide what works best for you.
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BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.
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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
This is quite illustrative and sensible advice. While debunking myths, it points us in the right direction -masturbating like monkeys (i.e. ejaculating compulsively all over the place) only makes us monkey-like … and our minds will quite likely be all over the place, too. We humans are enlightened pleasure-seekers who (should) know how to administer and prolong the bliss.
Yes, thank you for the appreciation here! Indeed, the intense bliss is the point, but it gets far more intense, more and more intense over time, with a longer attention span, less frequent ejaculations. It’s a cliche, but to focus on the journey, rather than the destination is a great way to masturbate! I know that you get this, Brother!
I’m with Bruce on this one – great advice!
My 75 year old body usually takes a couple of days to recover after an ejaculation – I “forget” to masturbate. After a week I’m deliciously horny and masturbate a lot. I kind of wasted my 20’s with quick jack offs.
I feel energy building in my body as I masturbate. There may not be complete scientific explanations yet for how this works, but I trust my body, especially my cock, to lead my to higher states of being.
es! You are an exemplary masturbator with honest self-awareness, and a wonderful practice. Your comments are always appreciated here. As you know, I consider masturbation a fine art, and hardly worth the time if it’s hasty and predictable. Training the penis, consciously, to keep providing you increased pleasure is key. For me, it just continues to get better and better. I love my penis now, more than ever before!
Agreed….me too.
Yes! You are an exemplary masturbator with honest self-awareness, and a wonderful practice. Your comments are always appreciated here. As you know, I consider masturbation a fine art, and hardly worth the time if it’s hasty and predictable. Training the penis, consciously, to keep providing you increased pleasure is key. For me, it just continues to get better and better. I love my penis now, more than ever before!
Amazing how we’re so driven to get that pleasure we all know and love and all the fine details we so easily overlook in our quest to get it. I remember eons ago I’d not bate if there was a chance I might fuck – in an effort to save the ‘force’ I’d need for intercourse. We’re so geared for the grand moment pleasure. And yes (learn to) enjoy that pleasant and tingly moment of afterglow too.
Your results may vary.
Totally right, “Your results may vary.” None of this predictably works exactly the same for different guys, or even for the same guy at different times. And just as foreplay is crucial in great masturbation, so is savoring of the afterglow that you mention! Thanks, Bro!
Ever since I have discovered Bateworld my bate experiences have really changed. Combined with Bruce’s wonderful site Eroticengineerring I have learned to really extend and focus on my bliss. I am actually enjoying not ejaculating and I am one that when I do it really is amazing and does take a lot out of me. When I edge usually every morning as part of my daily routine and stop before ejaculating I do feel that energy flowing in me! Throughout the day others have sensed my joy and say that I am different! I explain that I have discovered “meditation” and that I am grateful and thankful that I am a man!!
Yes, Brother! The benefits do go way beyond exploring those high states I call “Plateau-to-plateau,” in contrast to “peak-to-peak,” into how you feel all the rest of the time in your life while NOT masturbating. I call it serene, yet energized. Joy is a good word for it too!
I agree! I’m 80 days uncummed and edged. My bate, whether solo, one-on-one or group has never been more intense; during this time-frame. I’ve taken my bate to a whole new level. I never thought I could make it this far, but once you do, you understand not wanting to cum every time you edge. I will eventually cum, but right now, I’m on an amazing journey with my mind, body and penis!
That is so great! Yes, though the traditions about “life-force” may not be literally true, as you say, semen retention is a powerful practice and really alters your consciousness in amazing ways! More power to you, Bro!
I am so in to finding out more , as I have gotten alittle older almost 40 i seem to enjoy master baiting more than ever , when I young I was really free sexually enjoyed both men and women ,mostly received from men , then meet a woman and sex is great but during playing with ourselves it really freed us up and we explored more , to the point I really enjoy her fucking other men while I watch , a few weeks ago we meet s friend and it went much further and now every time I master bait I think of hot guys and can hardly think of anything else my wife found us a cute bottom guy but lately I have been really wanted to take it to a new level and be passive with a man as I play with myself is that normal change ? It turns my wife on when I giot head but she wants me to try getting fucked alone while I play before we do it together how do I find a teacher that will help me wiork thru this in St. Louis for weekend I want to find someone before I loose my nerve even when having sex with my wife we discuss getting fucjef and me trying dick and it such a turn on where do I go from here before I loose my nerve ?
I cannot advise you about opportunities in St. Louis, as I have no idea of that. I do however have a couple of suggestions. Be sure you are communicating clearly with your wife about this before you actively proceed, as she may not react to the actual event as she thinks she will. Be prepared that it could shift things. And please, if you plan on becoming anally involved with a man, or really anyone: PLAY SAFE! Use a condom or insist that one is used if you wish to be penetrated. Maybe this sounds old fashioned, but as far as we truly know, this may be your only lifetime. Take care–then enjoy, so long as you proceed with awareness.
I cannot advise you about opportunities in St. Louis, as I have no idea of that. I do however have a couple of suggestions. Be sure you are communicating clearly with your wife about this before you actively proceed, as she may not react to the actual event as she thinks she will. Be prepared that it could shift things. And please, if you plan on becoming anally involved with a man, or really anyone: PLAY SAFE! Use a condom or insist that one is used if you wish to be penetrated. Maybe this sounds old fashioned, but as far as we truly know, this may be your only lifetime. Take care–then enjoy, so long as you proceed with awareness.
I would suggest that (imho) using a condom is NOT old fashioned..it is SMART.
HIV
Herpes
Hepatitis
Gonorrhoea
Syphilis (new resistant stain out)
and etc.