I’m totally addicted!
QUESTION: Is it true that you can masturbate too much? I’m totally addicted, I’m addicted to porn, and I really love poppers too. Only I’m starting to notice, sometimes even with poppers, it’s not easy to come. Even with porn, I can’t always stay hard. I’m still in my 30s! Help!
RESPONSE: The word “addicted” often comes with too much negative baggage for the kind of healthy obsession with masturbating that I consider natural for a human male. It’s tricky to say if you can do it too much, because if you are so obsessed that masturbation interferes with other things you really want or need to do, you might question that. Sometimes to cut back a bit can actually make it sweeter when you do stroke that beautiful bone of yours! Also keep in mind you never need to stay fully hard all through a session. Let your erection come and go naturally.
Porn is something I consider sacred; the word “sacred” really just means something you treat as special, with a certain reverence. Porn records a part of human life that most of the mainstream culture turns its eyes away from, or even likes to pretend (at least publicly) doesn’t exist. For serious masturbators, the issue of porn is not moral at all. This is something many bators on this site may not want to hear, but studies now do show that constantly masturbating to porn may actually desensitize brain centers associated with pleasure. Mae West famously said, “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful,” but maybe not, taken to extremes.
I suggest you consider adding more variety to your practice. You’ve actually got nothing to lose, and maybe a lot to gain. The truth is also, a lot of mainstream commercial porn seems kind of mechanical and lifeless compared with some of the amateur porn out there. Even better are the really creative videos some guys make for Bateworld. Sharing masturbation with online buddies via various video conference formats LIVE can be a lot more rewarding than the mainstream of Internet Porn.
Also consider doing mirror masturbation. Watch yourself doing it LIVE. Get a little hand mirror and prop it in places to watch your genitals from different angles while you stroke. Even fantasizing, or the very old-fashioned option of reading erotic stories can add variety and serious erotic spice. Doing Kegels, PC clenches, or anal breathing techniques while you masturbate enhances erectile quality. Notice your ingrained habits and break out of them!
Poppers are now considered quite safe, though for a while they were illegal. Still, a total dependency on poppers to get off can prove somewhat limiting. Personally, I’m not comfortable with inhaling such a potent synthetic chemical, but then I’m Mother Nature’s Son.
Even adding more variety to the rest of your life might increase your pleasure while you do spend those special hours masturbating. All those things you’ve mentioned in your question can contribute to increased cases of erectile dysfunction, or ED, among younger men. Make sure you give some attention to basic self-care, like good diet, exercise, sleep, and socializing Then, more varied patterns of self-pleasure may also contribute to improving your erections and the pure penis pleasure you enjoy so much!
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BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.
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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
I usually take a cue from my hardon. When it’s no longer hard, it seems to indicate that it’s satisfied. Are you relaxed? Does your body buzz with erotic charge?
After I watched Bruce’s “9 golden keys to mindful masturbation” and learned how to perform the multi-orgasmic technique demonstrated in the 9th key my practice has been transformed. Yes, I may watch porn during the 2nd or 3rd masturbation set of the day. and I went through popper withdrawal 40 years ago, but the most intense experiences are hand cock and consciousness are all together in a goon state. It usually takes me about 10 minutes (with 10 orgasms) to reach this state and I try and stay there for another 10 or 20 minutes/orgasms. Sometimes I’m able to spend an hour in one long session or several closely spaced sets.
To avoid physical limitations use lube or oil or lotion – I keep 4 oz squeeze bottles of olive strategically placed throughout the house!
Thanks so much, Brother! I’m honored by your comments here, as I know who you are and you are a Master Bator as well! In case any guys wonder where the find the FREE explicit video coaching series 9 GOLDEN KEYS TO MINDFUL MASTURBATION, (vids I wrote, and which my cute very young cohort Blue Tyger recorded so beautifully) they are on the “Mystery School” page of my own site. It is http://www.eroticengineering (dot) com. And you can never remind men of the virtues of plenty of lube too many times, IMO! Thanks again! – BPG
The multi-orgasmic technique is actually only a few clicks away. Pull down the “BATE FACTS” menu above to “masturbation techniques” and you’ll find a 3 part article by Bruce Grether.
Again, my thanks, as encouraging guys to pursue masturbatory excellence is my Mission of Phallic Brotherhood!
Bate too much or am I addicted. Is an often asked or considered question for us devoted masturbators. And something I’ve wondered from time to time after 50 + years of ‘bating. Well, its something I truly enjoy doing and its great to have a place like BW to meet up with other bators to chat and share techniques and things.
Suppose there’s not a right answer for “Am I doing IT too much?” For my needs, I need my morning session and then I’m good to go and get on with the rest of my day. And for others, I see posts on BW where they’re spending their entire with cock in hand. I don’t think masturbation is a good “career choice” but it’s so pleasureful…. And there’s so much to learn about perfecting our masturbation skills & techniques. And our habits can and do change over time.
Thanks so much for your reactions here. True, there’s no clear, simple answer to this. So long as you love doing it, I’m all for such an obsession! I don’t spend ALL my time “with cock in hand” either, though sometimes it’s on and off during the day. Every morning, at minimum, and I know my extreme ecstasy helps with all the rest of my existence. When I’ve masturbated less due to distraction or being “busy,” I notice something important missing.
And I’ve chatted with bators who edge on/off for maybe days “saving up” for a mind blowing orgasm, But ‘saving up’ never seems to do much for me those rare times when I don’t have the time for my usual morning bate. I might be a little messier but nothing really improves or gets any better in the orgasm dept.
I did take another look at your training videos Bruce. Lots of great advice for improving our entire masturbation experience.
For years I have masterbated every day and sometimes twice depending on how horny I am. I use porn regularly and enjoy the great diversity there is out there. I don’t need porn to cum but it does add to the pleasure particularly when edging which I do often. Wanking and porn is a delightful combination which meets my sexual needs.
I have often wondered how many men do it more often than I do, but since I have been gainfully employed for nearly 30 years, take care of my responsibilities and have plenty of friends, I feel like I should be able to masturbate as often as I desire. In today’s world, millions spend 2-3 hours a day watching tv or playing video games. I have just chosen to develop my cock for 2-3 hours a day. I believe every erection is a sacred gift that should be enjoyed. I have never regretted my long time solosexual lifestyle.