DrBate
Garland Jarmon heralds from 7 years as an HIV/AIDS educator and sexual health counselor for individuals and couples. Having a Masters in Social Work and now as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he seeks to help all those in the LGBTQIA, straight, and Bator community live a more wholesome and embodied life, full of mindfulness and conscious exploration.
Toby de Luca comes from a background in Education and Massage Therapy. With a Masters in Teaching and also as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he to assist folks in facilitating stronger, healthier relationships with their own bodies and their relationships with others.
Together they co-own their own Sex and Erotic Coaching business — Spiritual Eros (www.SpiritualEros.com). They desire to bring to the BateWorld Community an opportunity to have an open and honest discussion about issues that many of us face. They believe that everything is an experiment and that the only failed experiment is one you don’t collect the data from. They also understand that because their answers may not fit every lived experience, they welcome community members to offer their own experiences, challenges, and triumphs. They are proponents that healthy community creates healthier lives…and healthy lives, healthier communities!
Garland and Toby are Sexologists and as such are NOT medical doctors or therapists. The opinions, suggestions, and advice given are not meant to be in lieu of your primary care physician’s medical advice. If you are concerned about a medical condition or have a medical emergency, PLEASE contact your doctor, urgent care, or emergency room!
Brothers, we encourage you to exercise your best and highest wisdom and intuition!
If you’d like to submit questions, please email them to [email protected].
Ask Dr. Bate, cumming frequency, solo masturbation time
A Good Cumming Frequency
Do you have any specific advice around how frequently to cum when you're able to edge for an hour or so a day without ejaculating? I can go for a month or so like that but I'm not sure it's a healthy way to go.
I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it's also sensitive. I definitely love bating and all, but because by dick head is sensitive, I just can't edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?
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How do we define "male bonding" and what does it involve? Devotion? Deep friendship? Understanding each other? Contact? How close two men can come together and where is the line between friendship and sex? Can masturbation be considered male bonding?
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"I'm a happily partnered Bator who is fortunate enough to get plenty of alone time weekly to hone my skill. But I would love to find a Bate Bro to share things with since my partner likes to keep things more traditional... 1. How do I find a bro that is just into bating together and nothing else; and 2. Would it be cheating if there is absolutely no mutual masturbation or deep emotions involved?!"
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Recently, however, I feel like my nuts are so fucking sore after just a few hours of masturbation instead of the all-night/all-day bate sessions of my youth (I’m nearing 40). I don’t know if I need to relieve my blue balls sooner or if there’s some other remedy/trick you recommend. Or even if this could signal a serious health issue. What can I do? What do you recommend?
Ask Dr. Bate, exhibitionism
I've been jerking off since I was 11. I am now 22. I mostly jerk off with my right hand, and I've noticed that the right side of my chest is bigger than my left. I can't help it! It feels better with my right hand. Is there any way to get the left side to look like my right without jerking off with my left hand? Or do I have to wank with my left hand for 11 years for my chest to look even?
Ask Dr. Bate, premature ejaculation
I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it's also sensitive. I love bating and all, but because my dick head is sensitive, I just can't edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?
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Often times over the years I find that when I view an erotic photo I will sneeze uncontrollably right out of the blue. I've never heard of anyone else having this happen to them. It isn't chronic, but it does happen frequently. Have you heard of this happening to others?
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Is there some exercise we can do to strengthen a Bator's wrist?
Ask Dr. Bate, edging
How do I make myself edge and shoot my cum further? I cum in less than a minute and I want to stroke longer and shoot my cum.
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How can I last longer while bating my friendly cock?
Your question is an important one because I spend a considerable amount of time helping guys discover and explore masturbation not only as a genital specific activity/practice but as a full body experience.
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Sometimes I can't get hard with some friends with whom I cam with regularly. I really like getting to know people, it makes the bate more intense, but it seems like once I start to like them like friends, then my erections start to wane. I typically can be nice and hard for headless cocks that I only bate with once or twice, than guys with whom I share a connection. I've talked to some people about this and they always ask if it's because I feel guilty