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We can [frot] for hours… This is almost like a religion to us. I think it’s spiritual! What do you think?

QUESTION:

My good friend from work and I love doing cock2cock frot best of all. We even do it in the MENS room at work sometimes! He stays over with me quite often. We can do it for hours with lots of lube, and don’t ever get tired of it. This is almost like a religion to us. I think it’s spiritual! What do you think?

RESPONSE:

I completely agree with you that when men rub their erect penises together this can be a profound spiritual experience! Sometimes people distinguish spirituality from religion this way: “spirituality” is your own direct experience of the mysterious or the divine; “religion” is a set of beliefs and practices you learn from others. In this manner, I consider cock2cock intensely spiritual, plus just as much fun as any erotic experience!

My own path to become “The Bate Master” began with an early experience during a sleepover. A friend my own age and I rubbed our penises together while we were supposedly sleeping on the porch of his family’s house. Bright stars twinkled and frogs and insects chanted through the darkness. We knelt face-to-face and my handsome young friend seemed to know more than I did…

“I consider cock2cock intensely spiritual, plus just as much fun as any erotic experience!”

This felt incredibly good! Before long, I had the sense there were no longer two young guys pressing and rubbing our erections against each other. It seemed we were one ecstatic being with four legs, two arms and two heads. In ancient Greece, the Creation Story tells of how everything began from Chaos. From Chaos emerged the Earth, the Underworld, and then the primordial form of Eros, the God of Love. 

This first form of Eros was a four-legged, four-armed, two-headed creature. Later, Eros was broken in two, and each half had two legs, two arms and one head. Those halves began looking for a reunion with their missing half! This is called an “explanation myth,” because it is supposed to explain the origins of all erotic attraction between people. Like, everyone looks for their missing half.

During those first few sessions of cock2cock with my friend, I soon felt that we merged. Nothing existed except a powerful glow of profound, mysterious pure penis pleasure. I felt that I expanded until I merged with everything. 

After those few sleepovers when we shared cock2cock, sadly, during puberty I became very shy about my appearance. Not until many years later, when I was forty-one years of age, was I able to return to that lost Penis Paradise. Finally, I discovered what became Mindful Masturbation and learned to make ejaculation a choice. I often spent many hours in masturbatory ecstasy. My self-esteem improved, and my inhibitions dissolved. Soon I also began to share cock2cock with other men again! For me, cock2cock remains a special pleasure unlike any other!

Though I don’t call it my religion, it’s definitely spiritual for me, and among my favorite things in life. When you rub your erection against the erection of a friend, nothing is missing, right? We’re in the same ballpark on this one! 

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. I can definitely relate. The experience can complement a relationship, whether with oneself or with a partner. For me, it doesn’t seem to be a mechanical formula, where I can put in a coin and can boringly expect an outcome. That makes it more precious when it happens…

    1. Well said and actually, I would say the spirituality can be there during oral or mutual masturbation. I know it is with me….

  2. I am all in on frottage,,,, but comparisons can be odious….mutual masturbation and oral between two men can be and is frequently spiritual. No need for making a “better than” choice.