QUESTION:
I’m always amazed how porn usually ends right after the guys shoot their loads. Sometimes they are still spurting! It always seems awfully abrupt to me. I love to see dicks get soft, to see guys float and look dreamy in the afterglow. Why do they make them end so suddenly?
RESPONSE:
I share your feelings about this! I too, am often displeased by how abruptly erotic sequences end after the men ejaculate. This makes it seem like coming to the cumming is the only point of the entire experience. While ejaculation may be important and great, it is not all there is to it. I encourage men to savor the afterglow of arousal, take time and let it wind down slowly.
I once knew an old man who would chuckle and say, “Sex is fun and then it’s done.” Indeed, it is a common experience for men to suddenly lose interest in further sexual activities, or even to want to escape from the subject immediately after an ejaculatory orgasm.
As I’m sure you know from your own experience, there is a quick shift within you after your seed spurts from your penis. Your mind briefly dissolves into a shimmering oblivion where nothing matters at all. Then your breathing slows, even if you are still panting. Even deeper inside of you, various brain chemicals you have generated, and hormones, begin to dissolve and dissipate through your bloodstream.
Those lovely things called dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, all of which are associated with pleasure and often with orgasm, have increased in your system of body and brain during arousal and erotic stimulation.
Now that your prostate has clenched repeatedly, those muscles at the base of the shaft of your penis have spasmed and helped to expel the semen and seminal fluids from your body, all that wonderful stuff in your system subsides and diminishes.
You have the choice to relax, to remain present with the aftermath. In its own way, you can enjoy that as much as the entire adventure.
The reason so many explicit videos have these abrupt endings doubtless relates to the common experience of a letdown after orgasm, and a major focus on the ejaculation itself as the main point of the entire experience. This attitude is quite understandable, yet it can be limiting.
You are onto something good! Hang in there. When you find a video that lingers into the afterglow, and follows the man or men as they relax, enjoy it fully!
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
I totally understand what The Batemaster is saying. After the orgasm everything diminishes for me. When I first started masturbating guilt would come over me after ejaculating. It took quite a while to get over that. Now many years later I have always wanted to eat my cum. I can go into a masturbation session with every intent to eat my cum. If I ooze a little before cumming I can eat it. But after the big orgasm happens I lose all interest and just can’t do it. What The Batemaster says explains it. It is a shame that most sexual desire diminishes after ejaculation. I have learned to just lay back after orgasm and just experience my relaxed muscles in my legs and sometimes my toes, and my groin area. I also like how satisfied my dick feels. I even might play with my cum a bit but i just can’t eat it. All desire to eat it is gone. I want to thank The Batemaster (Bruce) for all of the valuable information and advice that you give to us.
Mmmm, indeed the orgasm is the main event for me but I too enjoy those tingly, oh-so pleasant, catch your breath moments afterwards as our body calms down from erect and fully aroused to our natural softy in hand, cum in our bush state after we climax.
I am the same I always intend to eat my cum every time but once do cum it doesn’t seem so intriguing that’s why I try to edge as many times as possible I love the taste of my pre cum it has a different texture and taste sometimes I can actually hit the right timing and actually orgasm a few spurts and lick it up and it tastes awesome but the actual big one is usually a lot and much more thicker and doesn’t taste the same but than again if there isn’t a towel close by what’s a guy to do ? 🤘😍
Right there with you Ironhead 3. I can eat a ton of pre cum and I too many times ooze semen before I actually ejaculate. It does not bother me at all but I am so damn horny it doesn’t seem to matter to me when I eat it and it really doesn’t taste that bad. But after I ejaculate even if I try to instantly lap it down I just can’t. I too think it has to do with the volume plus all of the sexual tension has diminished. To answer your question if I did not have a cum rag I would have to rub it in my chest and belly until it dried up. I still couldn’t eat it and it bugs the hell out of me. But on the same hand I don’t like raw oysters either. Must be the slimy factor.
Lol good comparison to oysters it has the same texture and kinda the same taste and i never liked them except with maybe hot sauce but that wouldn’t work but pre cum has a different texture and taste I’ve gotten to the point where I can actually pre cum a lot before the big one and do it as long as possible and try to pre cum as much as possible just to eat as much as possible # timing is the key
Ironhead3, even hot sauce doesn’t do it for me as far as raw oysters go😀 I once tried having a mint in my mouth to see if I could eat my cum. That didn’t work either after ejaculation. But man I am with you. Pre cum is a different story. I could lap that down all night. My masturbation sessions have changed recently. Before I could edge and have pre cum continually running down my shaft and pressing up under my balls gave me even more. It was wonderful. But recently when masturbating I will produce pre cum but when continuing the edge instead of pre cum I will start oozing semen. No problem, it feels damn good and because it isn’t an orgasm I can eat it. I stop then approach the edge again, more semen oozing. Stop and go again, more cum oozing and more eating it. Then I will get to the point where my dick just can’t take it any more and I let go. I have also found that as you are spurting if you press up firmly under your balls the cum can shoot to your neck on the first shot and to your pecs on the second shot. The rest just mini shots and oozing. But again once that happens all attempts to eat it vanish away. I wish I could continue my edge with that beautiful crystal clear liquid but I’m not complaining. Our dicks give us so much pleasure I will take it any way I can get it. And masturbating is a damn good way to get that magical pleasure.
I started eating my cum as a teen to avoid a mess or history trace of my exploits. I’m 53 now and still do the same if on my own (my hubs is a cum eater).
While I masturbate 2-3 hours a day in total, it is usually in a morning session of about an hour and an evening session of 1 to 2 hours. I practice semen retention, and ejaculate 2-3 times a month. I have found that I strongly prefer to ejaculate only at night (even though I don’t ejaculate most nights) in that while I enjoy the afterglow, I generally feel “spent” in all respects (not just physically) and typically fall asleep within a few minutes. While there is nothing wrong with that, I have grown to prefer the invigoration in mind, body and spirit that I enjoy after my morning sessions. I feel sharp, alive and yet on an even-keel; well prepared for the day ahead.