I need that O face

QUESTION:

The most amazing thing in the world to me is to see a man’s face while he’s getting close, and to watch his orgasm face AKA O face. Even his cock is not more exciting than this, for me! So, when a guy’s face isn’t shown, I’m disappointed, not turned on. So, I’ll only come with guys who show their face the whole time. How unusual am I in this fetish?

RESPONSE:

Personally, I can relate to what you say, in that I find a man’s facial expressions and the sounds he makes—so long as he is not the silent type!—at least as exciting as seeing his body and his penis during his ecstasy and release. I’m not sure I’d say that the face is always more exciting than the rest of the man and his activities for me, but I’m in the same boat in that I am not nearly so interested when his face is not shown.

I’m not even sure this qualifies as a fetish, which means a situation, condition or object strongly associated with your arousal. Possibly. At any rate, I cannot be sure how many people share your prioritizing of a man’s facial expressions, but I’m sure there are plenty. I’ve even seen collections of photos and collections of videos that exclusively show men’s faces during erotic stimulation and orgasm. Perhaps you have as well, and these images should not be too difficult to locate.

Though I do understand many reasons why so many men who share photos and videos on BateWorld still keep their faces hidden, such images that feature just genitalia or headless bodies are far less interesting and arousing in the erotic sense to me. Even with porn, which is something I seldom look at, when the focus and editing doesn’t include the face for too long, I begin to lose interest.

Many men may have legitimate concerns around trouble with their jobs and families if people see their genitalia in identifiable images or witness them masturbating where they can be identified. However, in a context of many other sites for explicit sharing, most people who see the images want to see them. Another factor that is also quite uncertain is how much of this kind of inhibition is simply internalized fear about anti-sexual and anti-body bias. Who can say?

At any rate, one reason you appreciate so much seeing men’s faces in these situations of arousal and release is probably because it is not only a purely physical, anatomical matter, but one that involves powerful sensations, strong feelings, and even profound emotions.

Whether or not your preference can be called a fetish, there is nothing unusual or in any way strange about you and this aspect of you. I’m not so different from you in this realm, myself. 

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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