It’s been over a year since I ejaculated…
QUESTION:
I’m 31 now, and a few years back, under your influence I got into edging and what you call semen retention. I used to think I knew how to masturbate. Now, every day, I experience pure penis pleasure beyond anything I’ve ever felt before! It’s been over a year since I ejaculated, and I’m not sure I ever want to ejaculate again. This feels so much better! It lights up my entire life! So, what do you think about this?
RESPONSE:
I think you are way ahead of many men a lot older than you are. Also, your testimony may inspire more men who are still attached to frequent ejaculations to explore the alternatives. At the same time, it may be a healthy thing to ejaculate a bit more often, perhaps at least once every few months.
I’m always amazed and happy when younger men like you actually discover and experience how powerful it is, how deeply rewarding it can be not to ejaculate nearly so often as many men do. Men in middle age or older are more often ready for this discovery. In fact, the ancient Taoist sexual teachings from China suggest that as you get older it is wise to ejaculate less often—which of course, does not mean you should not masturbate or enjoy sex so much. On the contrary!
When you truly practice something like Mindful Masturbation, which keeps your pelvis relaxed, your body flexible through various positions, includes plenty of massage to your balls, and varied stroking patterns, your body will naturally learn to reabsorb a lot of the components of semen that you generate with erotic activity. This also exercises your prostate gland.
Done properly, you will not develop sore “blue balls,” though when you experience a lot of high quality of erotic ecstasy, your testicles may quite often feel extra sensitive. Simply treat them with extra care, gentle tenderness, but don’t leave them out of your practice! Playing with your balls has a number of benefits, including that it encourages production of testosterone, that marvelous hormone, sometimes vilified as a cause of male aggression, while in fact it mainly helps you fully function as a healthy human male.
What tends to cause blue balls, or swollen and extra sore testicles, is when a man sits in one position for hours on end, using only one stroke, or just a few strokes. It’s easy to slip into this when you masturbate a lot to online porn. To enjoy some porn in moderation is okay, but though some men on Bateworld don’t want to hear this, looking at a lot of it can actually limit, instead of increase what you feel in your own body.
Clearly, Young Man, you have really “gotten the message” of what I teach men in a lot of ways. I do suggest that a fanatical anti-ejaculation stance is no better than feeling you must ejaculate every time you masturbate. Still, keep in mind that ejaculation is a natural, healthy function and sometimes it’s a good idea to simply let it happen: “flush out the pipes!”
Male masturbation actually has limitless possibilities, but you must be willing to do, as you have, and explore beyond your fixed habits of the past into new territory.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
Although as we all know, there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to masturbate, I could never see or appreciate the value of NOT ejaculating. And of course I edge. I’ve been edging for decades. And I’ve also pumped my share of semen. I seriously experimented with “tantric”masturbation for the better part of a year and did actually experience some non-ejaculatory orgasms, but in my opinion, they were more work than they were worth.
I don’t mean to demean this type of masturbation. To each their own. But for me, my ejaculation is my reward for a nice solo session. And yes, for the most part, I associate ejaculation with masturbation. I’ve had plenty of good edging sessions, but I still look forward to “getting my nut.”
I totally respect your opinion and have not wish to talk you out of it! However, a big part of retaining semen, which does not mean you never ejaculate, just a lot less often than many men, is to keep yourself in a higher erotic state all the time. Every man loves ejaculatory orgasm. But many men who explore. the options beyond will unexpectedly. discover. how powerful those options can be! — BPG
This young man who asked the question is fortunate to have discovered the power of the penis so early in life. Much like a drug, penis (and edging it) can be overwhelming and certainly can become addictive once you unleash its true powers. Although I almost feel that if I had done so at his age, it might have completely changed the course of my (rich) sexual history, which I am generally happy about.
Separately, I like your suggestion that we don’t need to feel that we must ejaculate every time we masturbate. For my entire life, it has always been the goal (I’m turning 60 in April). It’s only since discovering BW (and edging) that that’s no longer the case. That said, it’s still hard to re-program my brain into being satisfied with that outcome.
Dear Brother: I most definitely understand, from my own experience, the challenge to reprogram yourself not to focus so much on ejaculation as the goal. We all adore ejaculation, but it is the end of pleasure, and as you’ve already discovered, when you do it less often you may climb to higher and higher plateaus of masturbatory ecstasy. Persist and you’ll find Penis Paradise! — BPG
thats a nice content . thank u
You are most welcome, Brother! May your precious penis continue to give you greater and greater pleasure for as long as you live!!! — BPG