“Mindfulness is about nothing more than intense alertness, being really present in the moment where you are and in your own body. Keeping focus on yourself.”
QUESTION:
You sometimes say that using a lot of porn for batefuel isn’t necessarily bad, but it doesn’t mix too well with Mindful Masturbation. What about all the bating vids you guys make, you and Russell and Henry and Nico and Rupert and Coach Nic and all? Isn’t there a contradiction here?!
RESPONSE:
I really haven’t got anything against porn, which can be wonderful! But you are right that it does not always mix well with the Mindful Masturbation practice that I encourage. Mindfulness is about nothing more than intense alertness, being really present in the moment where you are and in your own body. Keeping focus on yourself.
Porn can be very exciting, but it is also a record or images of something that happened elsewhere, at another time, to other people.
In today’s world, many men have come to associate easy access to online porn so strongly with masturbation, that they might as well be one and the same thing. Similarly, many men believe that orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same experience. As teenagers, guys often experience both at the same time. This becomes an assumption that they are identical, or even the same thing. Your habit of seeking both orgasm and ejaculation together may become so strong that you never truly challenge the assumption.
Men who become serious “edgers” often discover that to prolong the delicious stimulation of your penis indefinitely can prove incredibly rewarding. Eventually you may experience prolonged states of high arousal that are even more rewarding than an intense ejaculatory orgasm. Also, edgers, or men who consciously decide to retain semen though they may masturbate a lot, sometimes learn to have “dry orgasms.” You orgasm but don’t ejaculate.
Yes, you can certainly learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Though the dry orgasm is usually not quite so overwhelmingly intense as its ejaculatory cousin, the dry orgasm has the virtue of meaning you need not lose your erection. You can continue to masturbate, and possibly experience a whole series of dry orgasms. Male multiple orgasms!
This is not necessarily the goal of Mindful Masturbation, but you are right that there seems to be some contradiction on using porn as bate fuel, when you see how many masturbation videos I produce with my cohorts! For me, this is a dream come true, and our intention is not the same as it is with commercial porn producers.
Our productions aim to be erotic and arousing, but with the purpose to inspire and even instruct you in the direction of making your own masturbation practice more rewarding. In my decades of doing this work, I’ve learned that for most men, super-fine masturbation does not just come instinctively. But it can be learned.
Some coaching and demonstration by example, makes all the difference!
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
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IMHO, watching porn and mindful masturbation are mutually exclusive.
The distraction of porn doesn’t enable one to delve as deep into their edge. Perhaps it can be used as an initiator, but after a point, it really serves little purpose. Sight and sound need to be vigorously filtered.
Mindful masturbation is the equivalent of meditation. (i.e. medi-bation) One can’t truly meditate while watching episodes of Judge Judy, or Mom. Nor while listening to fire sirens and greatest hits. These are incompatible activities.
Having mindfully edged, anyone who suggests otherwise is denying themselves of what is possible.
I respectfully disagree with guzir44. The visual stimulation provided by pics or videos is as legitimate a source of arousal as any. There is no “right or wrong” way to masturbate, unless you rub yourself raw. I respect the opinions of masturbators who wish to do it in a “pure” way. That’s fine. But don’t denigrate other forms and styles. If sex is about anything, it’s about variety, and that means involving as many of the senses as you choose.
And I’ve engaged in “mindful masturbation.” I just don’t find it the best “fit” for me.
And I don’t try to set any records when I masturbate. The duration, intensity and focus vary from session to session. Some are longer. Some are shorter. It’s all good, my friends.
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Well said