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Everybody and my grandpa masturbates

QUESTION:

Everybody and my grandpa masturbates. I’m 20 and still live with my folks, but they won’t talk about sex at all. There is nothing improper about what I’m about to tell you, or at least we didn’t do anything but talk. Only I desperately wanted to ask someone I trusted, so I talked with my grandfather. He told me a lot about masturbation, how he still loves to do it, and what works best for him. Is this okay? Is it weird?

 

RESPONSE:

The human species still has a lot of work to do in terms of honestly accepting how important our sexuality is to us. You are most fortunate, considering that your parents apparently feel so awkward, as many parents and many other older people still do. Possibly your grandfather speaking with you honestly has something to do with that matter of a special connection. This often skips one generation. 

Grandparents and their grandkids often have a special connection, free from the literal obligations between parents and children, but a special bond of blood persists. Also, your grandfather may benefit from the way older people become more frank, honest, open, and even blunt about important or sensitive topics. They may become more relaxed about so-called “sensitive” topics and/or feel they have less to lose than they did before.

To put this bluntly, so long as there was no actual intimate contact or mutual observation of intimate activity, then this is not technically or legally improper. On the contrary, if your exchanges were limited to an honest, clear, and useful verbal discussion, then you are to be commended for asking him. Further, he is to be commended for speaking about this in an uninhibited manner.

 

To put this bluntly, so long as there was no actual intimate contact or mutual observation of intimate activity, then this is not technically or legally improper.

 

Your parents probably have the best of intentions from their viewpoint. But the kind of inhibition they suffer regarding talking with you about sexuality does not help your own attitude. Of course, you must not hold that against them. They surely do the best they can. However, your grandfather’s contrasting open attitude actively helps you relax and accept your own personal experience.

Also, if he admits that he still enjoys masturbating, perhaps he has enjoyed it for much of his life. If so, it has probably contributed to his mental health and enjoyment of life.

You are fortunate to have such a grandfather, and he probably feels honored and pleased that you trusted him enough to ask about such a subject!

 

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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7 Comments

  1. I think it is wonderful to see “grandpas” that are still active masturbators. I also find it very loving that your grandson approached you about this. He must be very comfortable talking to you. You must have instilled this trust in him over the years.

    I hope my grandsons will feel as trusting and comfortable to approach me about any topic. I sometimes wonder which one of the three will inherit my love of masturbation and carry on my legacy.

  2. My father is 94, and his wife (my mother) died about 5 years ago.

    Recently he was having trouble with his iPad and asked for help—i checked his Safari app and it was tab after tab of porn.

    So. Much porn.

    It was …inspiring! I don’t know if he was beating off, but it was clear he was enjoying himself.

  3. I have a very good friend, whose grandfather likes to spend time with him in masturbation. The grandfather lives with him. He is age 83 and absolutely spends as much time as he can stroking his huge cock. It’s a pleasure to get to masturbate with them, when we can be together privately. They are also into nudity.

  4. That’s a wonderful relationship you have with your two friends! And, they must admire your joining them on all of your Bating Journeys! So, keep on stroking, keep on stroking! Try tasting each others’ pre-cum and ejaculated cum—that’s soooo HOT🔥

  5. I think having a family member that can talk open and freely about masturbation is a wonderful thing. Neither my parents nor my grandparents ever talked with me about this. I had to find out everything on my own.
    Anyway, It made me a proud bator.

  6. I wish I could have a grandpa like that. I knew my dad was masturbating a lot, but he refused to talk to me about it. I tried so often. I think he was one of the dads who think that masturbation is something you have to do secretly behind closed doors.
    I’m a 100% solosexual for many years now, even tough I had to discover all the joys masturbation can give a man alone. I feel sad, that masturbation is not discussed freely and that we aren’t able to share our experience in everyday life. Thankfully sites like BateWorld exist!