I’m desperate to get them taken down!
QUESTION:
I sent a guy some dick pix of myself on my phone, ones that also show my face. He promised not to share them. Now I’ve seen some of them online! What can I do to get them taken down? I’m afraid my family might see, or I could lose my job. Help, please?!
RESPONSE:
Clearly it’s too late to get those photos back. Perhaps there are several things you can learn from this experience, Brother. For one thing, anything that you share via a phone or on the Internet in any manner, may potentially be seen by anyone in the whole wide world. More and more, we are aware that everything is connected with everything else. True not only on the Internet, but through all sorts of communication media and even beyond that, socially and in the natural world.
Another thing that is worth considering in your situation is that—though you have a right to feel that this fellow you shared the photos with violated your trust—there is nothing shameful about someone seeing your penis. You should be proud of it! The fact that it connects to your face through your body is a reality you share with all other human males. You can turn this around into something to be proud of!
“Another thing that is worth considering in your situation is that—though you have a right to feel that this fellow you shared the photos with violated your trust—there is nothing shameful about someone seeing your penis.”
Remember, there is nothing illegal about masturbation. If you were the one who shared such photos in contexts where they violate the rules, that could be a different story. But you are not the one who shared these images beyond the person you sent them to, trusting him not to share them. What he did was unethical, but after the fact, if you have tried to contact him and asked him to desist, it’s after the fact. As the saying goes, the barn door is still open, and the horses have left.
Hopefully you will not suffer the consequences you seem to fear most. But at this point, it is also unwise to assume you know the consequences if any of your relations or your employer becomes aware of the images. You cannot know for sure before it happens, what it would mean, or what would happen as a result. Don’t live in fear and dread of that happening (as you may have already been doing to some extent), but I suggest you prepare yourself with some applied reason.
If you believe ahead of time that such discoveries would be disastrous, you may be suffering ahead of time for something that will not happen. Or suffering for something that will not turn out so badly as you may expect.
In truth, though, there could be awkwardness as a result. By taking pictures of your penis that include your face, you have not done anything wrong, unethical, or illegal. At the same time, you are the one who shared them, and that much is your responsibility. Also try not to let this experience make you paranoid about something that need not be such a big deal!
In today’s world, the impact of such imagery is changing rapidly along with the world. Let’s hope that an attitude of honesty and openness continues to grow, so that instead of being anxious you may simply feel proud of those images that escaped your control.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
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I got into full exposure online during the pandemic when I needed to feel some sort of connection with other people. This included posting pictures on my ALT Twitter and other sites. There then came a time when I became anxious about it and deleted what I could. But once it’s out there it’s out there.
But try to put it into some perspective. The internet is FLOODED every minute with people’s nudes. Yours have already been replaced by countless others. The only way your family or work would discover them is if someone purposefully showed them. But then they need to explain why they were on sites with nude photos. Which many don’t want to do.
And lets play devils advocate…work fires you and your family sees you naked. Embarrassing? Absolutely. But no one dies from embarrassment. Would you apply for and be able to get another job? Absolutely. It could potentially be mortifying for a period of time BUT it would pass. This wouldn’t destroy your life…your anxiety only tells you it would. It’ll be okay.
The most important thing to remember is you have done nothing wrong. Someone you trusted violated that trust. And that fucking sucks and they shouldn’t have done that. But you are an adult and sent some photos to another adult. Something billions of people do every day. You certainly are not alone. Heck, the Kardashians built an empire off if it.
This really will blow over. As each day passes, millions more photos replace yours on the internet. If you’ve seen your photo on a specific page you can contact them and ask them to remove it. I’ve had to do that and they were more then happy to delete them. This isn’t the end of the world, it’ll just feel like it for a bit but I guarantee you will survive this with job and family intact. I don’t know your family situation but you could always even tell them what happened. Often times the scenarios our anxiety creates in our heads are 1000x’s worse than reality.
Just know you aren’t alone and your BW brothers are here for you.
I agree with the Batemaster’s basic idea of once it’s on the internet, it’s out there. But I wanted to add, that for anyone like the person who posted the question who still really wants such images taken down, you can contact the website where they’ve been posted and usually can get them removed (although it might take a little while to get a response from the webmaster). In the meantime, they could be downloaded and re-posted elsewhere, so you may find yourself caught up in a long-term situation of constantly hunting for the pics and getting them deleted – so it probably is best to try to move on.
The other thing I wanted to point out is that there’s so many amateur nude pics online these days, even with your face showing, you’re likely to get lost in the crowd. I am a big online exhibitionist and I’ve been intentionally posting full face nude and explicit pics and videos on many websites for several years. On my Flickr pics alone, I have over 2.6 million views, and that’s only one of many places I’ve posted and have no-doubt been re-posted on many other sites I don’t even know about! I’ve yet to have anyone in my “real life” mention seeing them. In the off-chance that someone did see your pics and recognize you, bear in mind that they were probably surfing porn sites to find them and to make an issue of your pics, they’d have to explain how they came across them. It’s pretty hypocritical to disapprove of your pics when they were actively seeking out that sort of content! Anyway, the risk of being recognized, or at least of anyone saying anything if they do recognize you is pretty low, so again, your best course of action is probably to try to relax about it and move on.
He should be proud the guy felt these were shareworthy – although not ethical at all.
I found that anyone who would have seen your face would have been bating online on the same kind of sites. If they recognize you, they’ve admitted as much about themselves.
My pic got on a site of local bators. I wasn’t careful. Me fully erect with my head back, eyes rolled up as I was ejaculating. Someone had done a screen shot I was beating with online on that site.
Then I was out hiking local trails with a group, hiking club in my area. One old guy kept wanting to talk with me and be my friend. He whispered to me that he recognized me from the site but it was ok with him. He admitted he masturbated a lot too. I begged him not to tell. He agreed as long as we could go off on our own so he could masturbate with me and we did. I was happy to actually. We’ve since gone on many hikes and masturbated. He just wanted a friend to share his hobby or need with.