Ask The Batemaster: Morning Wood Dilemma

QUESTION:

I’m in a bit of a dilemma. My partner is a light sleeper. He sleeps late and I wake early. When I stroke my morning wood in our bed as quietly as possible, it still wakes him, and he gets grumpy. But I love that morning wood almost as much as life itself! Should we consider getting separate beds? Or would that be the end of our relationship?

RESPONSE:

This kind of situation probably arises quite often for male couples who sleep in the same bed: one guy gets aroused while the other is still trying to sleep. You understandably feel a special enjoyment of your early morning erection, as these naturally occur for many men. The testosterone cycle in the male body tends to peak between early morning hours and daybreak for most men.

Personally, I still enjoy morning wood. In the early hours just before daybreak, it is easy for an early riser like me to develop a nice firm full erection! There does seem to be something especially sensitive and rewarding about these erections at that time of day. Also, it is a quiet time when you can fully focus upon your penis and the exquisite sensations of bliss it can provide you with.

Of course, only you and your partner can figure out if it might be worthwhile to change your sleeping arrangements a bit. If you have not talked about it openly, that might be a good idea. Sleep is a very important part of well-being, like exercise, a good diet, hydration, and other factors. So, his complaints are not merely him being “cranky,” but asking for enough rest. Still, enjoyment of masturbation is also part of good health.

You have several good options to bother your partner less. You should not need to give up your solo pleasure, even if you and your partner still actively have sex at times. One option is simply to quietly get up and masturbate somewhere else where he will not hear you or feel motions of the bed.

“One option is simply to quietly get up and masturbate somewhere else where he will not hear you or feel motions of the bed.”

The following are sometimes considered a failure of the relationship, but that need not be how it works! There are the options of getting separate beds, or even separate bedrooms. These do not need to mean that you are growing apart. Some guys do this because one fellow snores. In fact, it could be considerate both ways. You may still have an active attraction to each other and a regular sex life of sharing.

I am certainly not interested in telling you what to do, just mentioning options. Most couples who cohabit after an initial passionate erotic connection find the intensity of the attraction tapers off to some extent. Perhaps this is especially true for men, that sexual curiosity and excitement feeds on novelty.

If you are fortunate, with honest communication, some passion can survive over time. You are especially blessed if you develop genuine love and friendship with a partner, which need not depend upon erotic expression.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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