I want to make more noise!
QUESTION:
I see where you say making more noise helps guys feel more. You say we learn to be quiet as boys, not to attract attention. Well, I’m an adult, almost middle-aged and live alone, so no one will hear me! I still have trouble letting loose and shouting it out. How can I get over this? Can you help me get more uninhibited about making noise?
RESPONSE:
Thanks for asking, as this is an important subject! With my coaching students, as you suggest, I often tell them that to cut through learned inhibitions about making noise during masturbation and to get louder with moans, groans, thrashing around, can actually enhance and increase your ecstatic enjoyment.
You may have noticed that with porn or erotic videos, hearing the sounds other people make during their pleasure can also turn you on to your own higher levels of excitement and ecstasy. To some extent, you also take yourself higher by hearing yourself. Rather than “bottle it up” by keeping quieter, allow the intensity of the experience to flow and grow.
Yes, many male masturbators continue to keep quiet as they did in their boyhood and teens when they masturbated secretly. This can indeed seriously inhibit your pleasure when it is no longer necessary for your privacy. Begin with this conscious awareness of what I have just explained. Then practice consciously: make more noise: increase the slippery slurpy sounds of lube on your penis, rock and creak the bed or couch or chair, if you can. Deliberately amplify your moans and groans as you pleasure yourself. What starts as pretending becomes real, with practice!
Notice how all of this may still make you self-conscious at first, as your question here suggests to me. This is one of the very reasons it’s so good to work against this tendency consciously, because that was a learned habit, and it continues to inhibit you. The flip side now is to re-learn through your own deliberate activity, and you will be greatly rewarded.
With coaching students, I often deal with this very issue. I suggest that what begins self-consciously, feeling a bit awkward and weird to deliberately vocalize your pleasure a lot more and louder will become authentic and natural. At first, you can pretend you’re dubbing a porn soundtrack!
Along with getting noisier, it’s a good idea at the same time to retrain yourself about changing positions more often while you masturbate. Get up, sit down, lie back, walk around—all these are good variations that also help to keep the blissful sensations flowing throughout your body.
Like most of the things I write concerning masturbation, the main point here is simply to increase and enhance your enjoyment. Get loud! Don’t hesitate to actually scream and shout! If you’ve never done this before while you masturbate, you’ll be surprised how good it feels!
Please also find Making Noise Masturbation Techniques Part I and II below:
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
I totally understand the concept of including your own voice in your masturbation. It only enhances the experience to try to enjoy as many of your senses as possible, so it only makes sense to vocalize as you pleasure yourself.
That said, I’ve never felt the strong desire or need to be intentionally loud about my vocalizations, but I frequently “talk to myself” as I masturbate. I might comment to myself about how good it feels or how good my erection looks, or how special I find the taste of my pre-cum or cum. I enjoy giving myself these little “affirmations.” And sometimes, I’ll add a mirror or masturbate in front of a mirror while I vocalize.
I think vocalizations are a part of “owning” one’s masturbation; to share with yourself, vocally how wonderful this experience is.
I’m more chatty and fappy when getting off with someone on skype and I do encourage others to be vocal while we masturbate. But I don’t go overboard being too loud, especially since there is a tenant above me… and I am an early morning masturbator. Some are quiet because of their living situation, they have roommates or family. And they don’t make a peep or a moan even when they’re cumming.
Over the years there have been tenants above me who weren’t concerned about how loud they were when having sex. Oh those thump thump sounds of the bed posts jumping up n’ down on the hardwood floor in the early hours. Some tenants are more memorable than others.
Funny how many of us have programmed ourselves to be quiet during sex.
Good points all of it! There are no rules in male masturbation (as far as I am concerned) except don’t hurt yourself, or hurt anyone else! Peace, — BPG