“I love to kiss guys while we bate together, but I also like sex with women sometimes…..what is this?”

QUESTION:

I love to kiss guys while we bate together, and while we bate each other’s cocks! It’s so incredibly hot this way, especially tongue-to-tongue! But I also like sex with women sometimes. So. What IS this?

RESPONSE:

One way to understand why kissing your friend while you masturbate together or masturbate mutually, and how the “French kissing” feels especially fine is to consider what some people say: “It’s like the tongue is your upper penis!” Well, there are indeed some comparisons: your tongue is one of that handful of features of your anatomy that lies along the center-line that divides your bi-lateral body between its left and right halves. Others are your nose, chin, Adam’s apple, navel, penis and anus. It’s interesting that these are all extremely sensitive features!

Beyond this interesting aspect of the tongue and kissing is the simple sensory intimacy of kissing itself. This brings your faces closer together with the one you are kissing, so long as it is mouth-to-mouth. You may have been communicating or connecting in other ways before this. But when you actually begin to kiss someone on the mouth, words end, at least for the moment, possibly replaced by sighs and gasps of feeling. Also, the lips and the mouth overall are also extremely sensitive and sensual regions of the face.

Kissing is usually understood as an activity of affection, of desire for, or abandonment to sensual connection. Heightened emotions may arise. Thus, to engage in such kissing with your male masturbation buddies is likely to amp up the experience for you both! This does not necessarily have anything to do with romance. It’s not about your place on the so-called scale between straight and gay, which presumably includes bisexuality somewhere in the middle, between those two. In fact, I think most human males are to at least some extent bisexual.

It’s not about your place on the so-called scale between straight and gay

I’m on record with my strong opinion, from my studies of behavioral science, medicine, sexology, and specifically a lot of experience with male masturbators, that such simplistic labels as “gay, bisexual, and straight or heterosexual” are not very useful when it comes to describing human males. 

Sure, varieties of behavior can be called “gay, bisexual, and straight or heterosexual” but not varieties of people—in my opinion. I cannot claim complete objectivity, or evidential proof. However, I don’t even believe that 10% at each end of the scale are purely wired or conditioned by personal history to be 100% straight or 100% gay. My observation is that, while most of us consciously have specific preferences, our sexuality in practice always tends to be more fluid than simple labels suggest. If you’re attracted to both men and women, great!!! If not, that’s also okay…

Our sexuality clearly involves both nature and nurture—genetics and personal history—but human sexuality is incredibly complex. None of us have anything to gain by getting attached to how we label ourselves. On the contrary, why limit your options?

That said, most men are somewhat fascinated by penises and male masturbation, which is the basis of genuine Phallic Brotherhood among Men!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.