“That’s my fantasy! Doesn’t it sound hot?”

QUESTION:

I’ve got these two great bate buddies, and they both love doing it with me. But so far, they won’t do a 3-way with all 3 of us. That’s my fantasy! Doesn’t it sound hot? But I think these guys are too jealous. Do you think I can persuade them? How?

RESPONSE:

Well, good luck, and possibly you can! Your buddies may have chosen their limits in this situation, so it isn’t fair to any of you to expect to make it happen. Actual people are complicated enough that I cannot really tell you how to accomplish this. It would be lovely if this happens for you, but it may not be wise to focus on or count on being able to make it happen!

Something of this kind tends to happen spontaneously, because the people involved are open to it and interested in exploring something new and different. Of course, it would be marvelous, should that happen to be the case.

However, other people make their own choices and determine their own attitudes. Most often this is not through conscious thought or reason, but through feelings, and even processes below the conscious level. Also, most of us are not aware of how powerful the conditioning is, that we operate within. There is a lot of cultural pressure to gain the cooperation and willingness of other people, or even to make others “belong” to you.

“…people make their own choices and determine their own attitudes. Most often this is not through conscious thought or reason, but through feelings, and even processes below the conscious level.”

You really cannot control anyone else. Such expectations may not be realistic, or useful to your quality of life, or to that of your buddies.

Is it really a problem for you to have the two separate bate buddies who may not be willing to share you at the same time? Or is it a great blessing in your life, to have two different men who love to masturbate with you?

Many men would envy this much of your situation. Don’t miss out on how wonderful it is having these two male friends who love to masturbate with you, by too much focus on what you don’t have and may not be able to make happen.

Likewise, situations are always changing. Nothing is forever. Someday these guys might have a change of heart or mind, and your fantasy could come true. You might move on to other buddies who are more open to sharing you in a 3-way or even a group bate.

It’s wise, always, to focus most of your attention on the good things you have, not on what you don’t have. I suggest you enjoy both those guys, separately, if that’s what works best for them!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.