QUESTION:
My best buddy is kind of versatile like me, only he also likes standard gay porn a lot. All I really want to see is guys JO, not even other gay sex. I like to clearly see the hard penises, and the guy’s faces when they cum. Close-ups without the face disappoint me. What does this mean about me?
RESPONSE:
There are no rules, no right and wrong, about what arouses a guy the most, or provides the most effective stimulation for anyone. The subject of what turns you on the most overlaps big-time with the issue of sexual orientation and preferences, which are not simple, or completely understood. And these days some guys identify as “solosexual,” which means they prefer masturbation, or exclusively masturbate. That’s perfectly reasonable!
All that we have learned in the last century when human sexuality has finally started to be studied in scientific and medical terms, provides many insights and no final answers. Clearly, human males are not neatly divided into three categories: straight, bisexual, and homosexual. In practice, most men can feel at least some elements of this entire spectrum, even if they are not acted upon or directly experienced.
We know that what turns you on is produced by a mixture of root causes: some genetics, some personal history, some cultural conditioning, and possibly even some neurological imprinting. You do not simply consciously choose to be turned on or off in any of these specific ways. Rather, a complex of influences combines from within you and from your environment to produce those erotic “triggers.”
No one truly knows how much of orientation or preference comes from your DNA, acquired from what happens to you as an infant, a child, and an adolescent. Conscious choice can certainly play some role in the direction you go. For example, many men go along with the expectation to get married to a woman, even have children, but later discover they are attracted to fellow men.
Such a man may choose to shift his lifestyle to what we call a “gay male” mode, and yet have felt this all along, somewhere deep inside. Also, a preference for masturbation may be partly practical, meaning you can enjoy it almost any time, and keep involvements simple.
Human males are highly sexual creatures overall. Clearly a lot that is believed to be “natural” or “normal” is a construct of social and religious conventions. Conditioning is often mistaken for what is “natural.” Opinion is often mistaken for facts. It is healthy to think for yourself!
If your friend is versatile, as you say, perhaps he will also be able to understand that you are not turned on by certain kinds of images as he is. If you can tolerate his preferences, perhaps he can accept yours in return.
Plenty of men will have the preferences you have, for seeing penises, male masturbators and the expressions of men bedazzled by orgasm! If this tells you anything about yourself, it’s that you are far from alone.
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I too enjoy watching other men pleasure themselves. The shapes and hardness of their penises, the precum, the intensity of their ejaculations, their body movements, their faces and the pleasure they received. It is just a fascinating and enjoyable event to witness other men enjoying their bodies.
A penis is hot to me soft, hard, shooting. I like seeing them and way in any situation. Locker room, men’s room, bedroom. It’s why I love BW. I will never see all the penis posted here. So much.
Bro it’s like you’re in my head! I’m not just attracted to hard penis. I love soft and semi too. I just think there is something so beautiful about a soft penis hanging freely. I could stare at them for hours and days on end!
I too realized that I enjoyed watching other men masturbate. I realized this in a adult theater. I enjoyed masturbating for them as well. I had a Intense Orgasm
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Dick to dick eye contact loads.
It is all about the pleasure from the dick.
I have always gotten off to stories, images and video of guys getting off. It sounds pretty circular, I guess, but feels all the more satisfying for that reason some times. That said, the vast majority of my edging and jacking occurs after, not during, my enjoyment of porn. (And on many occasions, porn wasn’t even part of the equation in the first place.) I think I’m grateful I came of age before cell phones, social media, and any easy access to images of naked men, let alone men having sex or jerking off. It’s made the mental images in my mind and the actual physical sensations of my dick my primary focus, which is awesome.
In response to GuyNYC, I too came up in the era before cell phones and the internet. I remember being an always horny twenty something year old and very little media to satisfy my craving to see a naked man. You either had a sleazy adult book store with coin machines that showed you a blurry minute scene of a man having sex with a woman. Then there were main stream books stores with adult magazines. They too were focused mainly on heterosexuality. There was the crappy theatres that showed heterosexual sex and that was the best of the best because you at least got to see a naked man with a hard on. There was very little to offer a horny gay man craving dick in those days. Most of the time you had to try and look at magazines in the stores in a kind of secrecy. If we had the technology then that we have now I would have worn my dick out. So I understand your thoughts and I respect them but man would I have liked to have the ease of media back then that we have now. Today however you can get saturated in it and that can cause you to get to a point where it is not as arousing as it once was, too much of a good thing. So I don’t overdo. Moderation is the key to everything and a good imagination also. I agree with you and The Batemaster, porn is fun but an imagination can be just as good in a different way.
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Hey, Sheldon, I am a child of the 70s and I now wish the porn thaters could be like that again. Some place so have small theaters but it’s not like it used to be. I have to say thogugh it’s not so much the ‘type’ of porn that’s playing on the screen, but just the idea that the other guys in the theater are getting hard and horny from the movie or horny from the idea that the other guys are all getting horny…the cock energy gets going and it can be great no matter what kind of movie is showing. Easy access nowadays has made that a bit different now. But thearters can still be fun and hot if the energy gets going!
There’s a lot of truth in what you’ve written here. I think it’s a new discovery to a lot of guys to realize it’s ok to be aroused seeing other guys in whatever state of arousal they are or are not in. It’s interesting to connect to each other on the level of our masturbation likes and dislikes. And the connection is a beautiful thing.
Since I was 13 my favorite thing to do with other guys is jerk off. Especially if they are 18-20 yo. All through high school I jo’d with friends, nearly all str8, and happy to give me their orgasm provided nobody else knew about it. For me, watching a guy that age ejaculate is the height of sexual excitement.
As a new member, I hope young guys into older ones find me and we have some great adventures.