The most effective way to communicate about this is to be open and honest verbally.

QUESTION:

One of my buds in the house I share with some guys, and I enjoy mutual masturbation quite often. It’s great! Except most often his pressure and speed on my cock just isn’t what I want, so it’s hard to come. How do I tell him I want something different without hurting his feelings?

RESPONSE:

You bring up a good point, Brother! Too often in such a situation, guys expect someone to read their mind, or they settle for mediocre quality pleasure to avoid rocking the boat. Sadly, this happens a lot with partnered sex in general. No good reason this should be so between Phallic Brothers who share the bate!

Start off by preparing yourself to simply ask for what you want. First, sweeten this situation by expressing how much you enjoy the sharing itself, and praise your buddy for wanting to share the bate with you. Maybe even say something flattering about his looks, how nice his penis is. Guys love to hear that last one! Then offer to listen and learn about what he likes best, as well as showing what you like. 

Tell him you’d like to demonstrate exactly what you like. Actively help him to provide exactly what you want. Be sincere! Reassure him that because this whole matter means a lot to you, you’d like to help him make it even better for both of you. Emphasize that this goes both ways, and that as you make clear just how you’d like to be touched, you also want him to express just how he wants you to touch him.

The most effective way to communicate about this is to be open and honest verbally. Place his hands on your body and put your own hands over his hands to show where you like to be touched, to demonstrate exactly how you prefer to be touched. Tell him that you are very pleased by his willingness to learn from each other this way, and that you look forward to his turn showing you his own preferences.

Keep positive and appreciative about the whole thing, and it may lead to new levels of brotherly bliss.

So long as you are both willing, this can be an incredibly powerful and marvelous bonding between you, and lead to sharing greater pure penis pleasure with each other than ever before! Also, there are various positions that work well for this kind of “showing and hands-on teaching” of each other. Close together side-by-side, or face-to-face, legs wide. You may want to invite your bate buddy to sit behind you, put his arms around your waist and hands between your legs where you can guide what he’s doing. Later on, switch places.

To initiate this process, begin by being sensitive to this guy’s attitude on the subject. Keep positive and appreciative about the whole thing, and it may lead to new levels of brotherly bliss.

Good luck in this process!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.