I love self-pleasuring but also into cages. Can you unite being a bator and being caged?

QUESTION:

I always had problems with my masculinity below my waist. I wanted to shut myself up with a chastity cage. It feels safe and gives me the feeling to focus on other parts of my body and other people. I love self-pleasuring but also into cages. Can you unite being a bator and being caged? Can you worship the penis even though you forbid yourself one?

RESPONSE:

You apparently have some contradictory feelings about your penis and self-pleasure, but most human beings have contradictory feelings of various kinds. This is not unusual. Your specific inner conflict, however, does reflect an ambivalence about your genitalia, perhaps about being male, and whether you can allow yourself free and uncontrolled access to your own body for masturbatory enjoyment.

As I understand the practice of chastity cages, you enclose your penis and or entire genital area in protective devices so that you have limited access for purposes of stimulation. Usually there is a key to unlock the “cage” or some other means of opening it, controlled by another person. In some cases, you may control this yourself. There tends to be an opening to allow urination, so the device can be worn for longer periods. It will not prevent erections entirely but may limit their extent and duration.

My own experience with this is limited, in that it’s very different from my own attitude. I encourage free, easy access to your own body whenever possible, without guilt or shame. Still, please understand that I am not judging you in any way. Your personal history and conditioning around sexuality most likely contributed to this situation. Possibly some particular experiences and an individual or group has influenced you.

I encourage free, easy access to your own body whenever possible, without guilt or shame.

One major aspect of the “chastity cage” phenomenon has to do with self-control and surrender of control to others. Denial and permissions are issues often associated with chastity cages. There is also a historical tradition from the Middle Ages, of women forced to wear chastity belts or girdles to prevent them from having sexual relations with anyone but their husband.

Sometimes a chastity cage is just used during specific BDSM sessions, or the arrangement may be over longer periods. It can be part of a master/slave scenario or something else. Regardless, if you continue to wear such a device for a longer time, make sure it is not too tight and seriously constricts blood flow. For longer wear, stainless steel or titanium is best.

If you really wish to explore the option of more freely exploring self-pleasure at will, you may need to take at least a temporary break from the chastity cage situation. That would be a healthy thing to at least try the alternative. See how it makes you feel about being male, and about making your own choices about erotic pleasure. Does it make you feel unsafe? Do you feel penis obsessed?

If this is difficult to arrange, or it makes you feel deeply uncomfortable to consider such a different exploration, you might consider how important the practice is to you, and why it is important.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.