“Can you learn Self-Suck? Is It a Form of the Bate?”
QUESTION:
What do you think about self-suck, AKA “auto-fellatio?” Of course, it seems most guys can’t do this, but now I see quite a few who can! Can it be learned? Is it oral sex, or a form of the bate?
RESPONSE:
Your last question is pretty much a matter of opinion. How do you define masturbation? Sometimes it is considered manual stimulation of your genitals, but in other cases it is any other form of self-stimulation aside from insertion into the body of another person. My own feeling is that auto-fellatio, commonly called “self-suck” qualifies as masturbatory, primarily because you do it to yourself.
I’ve often heard guys say things like, “If I could suck my own cock, I would never leave the house!” In truth, only a small minority of men have the physical attributes that make self-sucking possible. The two primary requirements are to be flexible enough to curve forward sufficiently to take your penis into your mouth, or at least the head of it; the second may be sufficient penis length when erect, to reach from between your legs to your lips.
My own feeling is that auto-fellatio, commonly called “self-suck” qualifies as masturbatory, primarily because you do it to yourself.
I’m not inclined to tell you that you can learn to self-suck. Many guys yearning to, may never quite reach the goal. To even attempt this, you must be extremely careful not to injure your neck or back with the strain. Also, if you undertake such a project, don’t count on success ahead of time. Just keep hopeful that with some persistence, you might succeed. Some people maintain that you need a sort of “double-jointed back,” whatever that means.
Start with developing increased flexibility, perhaps with Yoga, other forms of stretching exercises, such as aerobics, Qigong or even gymnastics.
When I was in my mid-twenties to my early thirties, I was very slender. I did a lot of Yoga, and I was able to get the head of my penis into my mouth for some sucking and to ejaculate into my mouth. However, the position, braced on my shoulders, with my back and butt up against the wall, was never comfortable enough for me to enjoy it for long. It was exciting, but also a strain. I never succeeded in the upright version with arms braced under my thighs, bending forward, except to get a few licks in on the tip of my glans.
Consider: if you can safely turn over on your shoulders and upper back and bring your legs forward enough so your penis is above your face, it can be exciting and fun just to ejaculate onto your own face or even your open mouth. Many men can do this, even if they can’t self-suck.
Be careful not to hurt yourself. Keep an open mind and have fun with it. The effort is a kind of success, whether or not you can do it!
When I was a young man in my early twenties, I trained myself to be able to self-suck. I would lie on the bed, on my back, with a pillow under my neck and shoulders and raise my legs up to have my feet on either side of my shoulders. Then, with my hands against my ass, I pulled my groin towards my mouth. I did this for a few minutes for a few nights. Each night my erect cock was getting closer to my eagerly awaiting mouth. Finally, after a week I was able to lick the head of my cock. A few days later I was able to put the head of my cock in my mouth. A few more days and I got about half of my cock in my mouth. It was glorious and I cummed pretty quickly into my mouth.
Caution: I had to stop this wonderful practice as my neck and back became very sore. The problem was that I was inpatient and pushed myself too quickly. I should have practiced bending over for fewer minutes each night and over a longer period than a couple of weeks. I should have let my cock get closer to my mouth a little at a time. My impatience made me pull my groin towards my face with too much force and not enough recovery time. If I could turn back the clock I would train for six months rather than one.
I was able to self suck for only a couple of months before the soreness forced me to stop. I’ve never been able to come close since then. If I tried now, in my sixties, I would probably paralyze myself.
For those men willing to try to self suck I advise you to take your time; don’t get impatient. Measure your successes by getting millimeters closer rather than inches closer. Good luck for those of you willing to try.
I just wanted to say thank you for the good advice and to attest to the rewarding plus of continued minimal goals reached over time, even though I’ve still to get my head into my mouth but I am so much closer to achieving this, then when I started to try over 10 years now!!
I am ohhh so close to getting my tongue to cover my cum hole but I’ve been able to take most of my own load, still finding it hard to stay centered for the first, most powerful spasm, that I don’t always catch that one bit usually recover and am close enough that the rest, I’m able to guide fully, into my mouth and down my throat!! That is a huge improvement from the time when I just started, when I would loose most if my loads, anywhere but in my mouth!!
It has been slow and steady improvement in aim and closeness and if I can just be able to actually place my lips around and over my own cum hole, then I will have accomplished a massive improvement in my ability and enjoyment of my over all masterbation!! Must never leave one drop behind!!
Thanks for covering this aspect of self pleasures!!
As an older (50’s) guy who recently got into selfing I will say that it is AMAZING! I have to slightly disagree with “Many guys yearning to, may never quite reach the goal”; while technically this may be so, there are a good number who will be able to or at least make some progress towards it. I experimented a little with it when in H.S., but didn’t really know much about sex or what I was doing. A couple of years ago I started getting into Selfsuck videos (in spite of not being really “into” porn overall. Then I came across some great resources online; Reddit, Solosuck.com etc even BW. After reading some basic but important tips I started practicing legs over head; got to where I could get to the head briefly. Now I’m able to bend over in the “C” position and selfsuck several times a week, usually with no issues. Since I really don’t get into jerking off (except when someone else does it, which is rare), I’ve found it a great way to really get in touch with my body in a way I would not have been able to before. Feel free to contact with any questions you may have!