Many younger men really appreciate a more mature (read: older) mentor in masturbation.
QUESTION: I’m in my 50s, but in shape, though there’s white in the middle of my beard. I love to bate on cam with guys all ages, and a lot of younger guys like me, maybe because I’m so nice? Some want to call me “Dad” or “Daddy” and ask me to call them “Son.” It’s not incest role-play, just friendly and warm. Is this okay?
RESPONSE: Sure! Truth is, in my Mindful Masturbation coaching I get similar requests quite often. It’s not something I suggest or ask for. I’m also not into role-playing, though I’m not judging that’s necessarily bad at all, it’s just not what I’m into. “Mindful” tends to mean being present in what’s actually going on, not pretending something else is going on.
Then again, I’m older than you, and technically in terms of years, I could be the grandfather of some of the young men I coach (always 18+ at least!). My interest in them is basically the same as with any man of any age. I sincerely want to encourage all the men I work with, including readers of these blog posts, to enjoy masturbation better than ever! And the requests you get are doubtless tied to a number of things: yes, being “nice,” though some people like bate buddies to at least pretend to be tough. Also being fit and bearded, may add to your appeal as a sort of ideal “daddy type” guy.
Though it really isn’t all about looks, by any means, in my experience an attitude of enthusiasm and appreciation for the power of the penis during devoted masturbation sessions makes any man more attractive, than if he’s jaded and just going through the motions.
My experience also tells me that many younger men really appreciate a more mature (read: older) mentor in masturbation. Older guys can both share arousal and perhaps offer some bits of insight, even suggestions based on longer experience, which can enhance masturbatory pleasure. In this sense, letting these younger guys call you by paternal endearments, and being willing to call them “Son” in a warm-hearted and encouraging way maintains a tone of caring, and sharing from your more experienced perspective.
Whatever fantasies these young men, or you yourself may actually harbor, is of course your own business and probably relates to personal history and psychology. Be aware that I feel every moment men spend actually bate camming one-on-one, (or possibly more at a time) in an encouraging, mutually stimulating and supportive way does its tiny bit to improve the human world!
Good for those guys for asking and good for you for cooperating!
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As older bator I”ve been getting those comments or requests as well. I gently let them know I’m not the dad type but I’m happy to chat and help guide/coach them (off) along as a mature, experienced masturbator and offer them tips & techniques. And to share the experience with them via skype.
Hi aopalmer5! I think it’s fine for us more “mature” bators to respond however we’re comfortable with, just so we’re kind and somewhat sensitive to how we may affect the feelings of the younger guy. As I”ve said, I’m not really into role play… but it seems harmless to me to indulge in how someone likes to label me or be labelled, as long as those terms don’t make ME uncomfortable! Peace, Bruce
I wonder if one of the reasons that younger men want to bate with me sometimes is safety – that sharing the bate is what we’re doing and not a preliminary to other possible sexual activities or relationships, which can be safely off the table.
Yes, Brother fullmoonma: This is another things to consider. Truth is, I do get “propositions” pretty often from guys of various ages, myself. I’m flattered, and I know it’s partly just my “notoriety” in this kind of community, that I’m so “out there” about sharing my photos and videos. In most cases it’s probably not all that serious, and as you mention maybe fells “safer” to younger guys, considering my age and who I am. Peace, Bruce