Ask The Batemaster: The Voyeur Bator

Possibly he suspects this, and it actually stimulates him further.

QUESTION: My tiny apartment is on the second floor and overlooks a small courtyard. On the other side downstairs lives a really hot athletic guy who works out and rides his bike a lot. In the evenings, quite often I can watch him in his kitchen leaning back in a chair and masturbating at his laptop. It’s a spectacular sight, and he often goes on a long time. I can’t help watching him as my regular bate fuel and secretly joining in. Is it wrong to watch him like this? Should I try to contact him and see if we could do it together?

RESPONSE: It sounds like you have a good view, and he is either unaware, or may not care if anyone watches him. Possibly he suspects this, and it actually stimulates him further. You are not exactly a “Peeping Tom” in the ordinary sense, of sneaking close to his windows and deliberately spying upon him against his will. Plus, it’s unrealistic to think you should not watch him and get off on it, especially if he never knows.

If you have no social contact with this man, it is not a good idea to try to contact him on this matter directly, without testing the waters in other ways. You don’t mention if you also have a bike and might be able to “conveniently” go out riding when you see him coming or going. Then you would have a chance to strike up a conversation and introduce yourself. This might be a way to start to get acquainted and move in the direction you suggest… just crack the ice a little before you try to break the ice.

However, there are still many unknowns! He might be totally unaware that you can see him from your higher window, feel violated, and feel that his privacy has been abused. He could think he’s totally straight and be horrified. Still, clearly, he doesn’t bother to close the curtains or window shades, or even darken his lighting enough to conceal what he is doing. It sounds as if he may be quite casual about being seen at this delicious activity.

At this point you enjoy a quite frequent “show.” If you seek more than this voyeuristic delight, you may lose that enjoyment and live bate fuel. Then again, there is a real chance he would love company during his bate sessions.

Sometimes anticipation and imagination turn out to seem more rewarding than actual experience, but overall, what really happens and what you actually do matters a lot more. Once you decide that your vicarious pleasure has gone on long enough, why not carefully, respectfully pursue the option of actually meeting him? It could even be just a nice new friendship without those kinds of benefits you hope for, which should also be nice. Maybe someone to ride with.

Otherwise you’ll never know what you might be missing.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.