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Ask The Batemaster: Restroom Jerk-Off

Hopefully someday employers may actually encourage men in offices and other kinds of workplaces to take a masturbation break now and then.

QUESTION: At work, the only way I can keep my focus on anything but that horny throb between my legs is to go into the MENS room and jerk-off. That’s inspired me to make similar stops in other restrooms, where I sometimes read stuff on the walls that gets me even hotter. This is probably pretty common, right? Do you think it’s normal and safe?

RESPONSE: You’re far from alone in this, Brother, both the at-work relief and the masturbating in other restrooms. Hopefully someday employers may actually encourage men in offices and other kinds of workplaces to take a masturbation break now and then. This would enhance morale and improve performance of guys distracted by what you call “that horny throb between my legs.”

That further adventuring in other restrooms already has quite a history. Men have often haunted places where guys “use the facilities” as places to masturbate, sometimes to see other guys masturbating and/or to be seen doing the same, as well as for hooking up in other ways with fellow men. It’s a recourse men have taken for longer than anyone knows. Aside from the fact that sometimes there can be legal issues, such as entrapment by law officers posing as potential contact in such places, it can be not only harmless, but exciting fun.

Problems can arise from the fact that your activities in such a context may very well be considered both “indecent exposure,” which can have serious legal consequences, and/or “public lewdness” which is taken even more seriously. If you are simply spying on guys from a toilet stall or looking at the penis of the guys at the next urinal, this may prove innocent fun, so long as none of the guys you are spying on take offense. That’s possible too—so I suggest some caution. It’s still possible to get a homophobic reaction.

Many guys do this kind of “lurking” and quite often it’s mainly for the purpose of stimulating your own arousal level. Because of the “semi-tabooed” nature of such lurking, this may raise the excitement level for you, possibly for others involved. It may also cause a few guys to take it too seriously. In the past such haunting of restrooms by horny guys has often been more of an active hunt or stalking of prospective sexual partners. If you really don’t take it into that territory, so long as you’re not exposing yourself to anyone in an intrusive way, or invading anyone’s privacy, you may encounter no problems and have fun. Problems may come with getting caught by the wrong person.

As I’ve written of in other blogs concerning a young man caught by a security cam masturbating on a city bus late at night, and the Central Park flasher guy, unfortunately the legal consequences of getting caught, or the wrong person reacting to you can be quite serious.

During those adventures away from your work location, you must accept responsibility for any possible consequences. But when taking such a break at work, more power to you!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. Generally I don’t think its worth the risk to bate in the workplace. Yet for some its the risk that gives ’em a boost in the arousal dept. As a devoted morning bator I always got my ‘urges’ out of the way before going to work.

    Yet I have skyped off with some who were at their workplace, usually they bate in the bathroom stall and it was over in a matter of minutes. In a 1 person bathroom its surely safer & easier to do it in than the larger, group style bathroom.