QUESTION: Love to bate on cam with my Phallic Brothers, as you call us! Really nice how many guys tell me they love my penis, how beautiful it is! It’s not huge, only it has a nice defined head. But so many guys go right into, “I wanna suck it for you!” or, “Please fuck me?” I’m really not into fantasy or role-play—just wanna bate together. It’s an annoying distraction. How do I keep them on-subject?
RESPONSE: A couple of things to keep in mind: The flattery about your penis is sincere, and you can allow that to contribute to your own arousal. As you enjoy being seen erect and masturbating, so fully enjoy that confidence. Second: don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. This means, things may not be perfect, but appreciate the good part of the situation. You turn guys on, which turns you on in return, right?
I often have similar experiences. Over the years, thousands of guys have seen my erect penis on cam, and witnessed me masturbating, as I witnessed them. Quite a few guys praise my penis, which I feel is partly because I’m so shameless, even brazen about sharing it. I also have quite a few guys, as you do, who suggest other things they want to do with mine besides bating together on cam. In some cases, this does get seriously distracting from the matters at hand (pun fully intended).
Still, to resort to another cliché, I tend to count my blessings. As a well-known masturbation coach, I’ve also learned to gently and kindly guide attention back from fantasizing about something else, to return the focus to what we’re actually doing. I’ll offer sincere praise of the other guy’s penis in return. That tends to help his arousal and keep the session on topic.
There’s nothing wrong with fantasy or role-playing, I’m sure, but it’s just not what I’m after when I masturbate with fellows on cam online, either. In my case, it’s most often a matter of professional masturbation coaching, but I definitely enjoy the masturbation itself!
Never hesitate to tell the guy or the guys you are camming with, if you’d rather not fantasize or pretend about doing other stuff—only let them know as nicely as possible. You could say, “That’s really nice, but just for now, I’d like to focus on what we’re actually doing, okay?” Or, “Do you mind if we just bate together? Looking at your penis makes me so hot, it’s all I need!”
Make sure you’re comfortable with everything in the situation—even turned on, not only by what you’re seeing, but the activity itself. Most of us don’t look like a porn model, but your attitude and what you are doing are hot stuff! That ought to be enough bate fuel for both of you.
If not, let them find someone else who wants to play their way. Play with the guys who want to play your way.
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Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
I massage my friends sometimes when they need it. I would LOVE to give the perfect lengthy PENIS massage. I wish there was a breakdown of the various areas of pleasure of the PENIS so that i could extensively focus on each particular and distinct area of the PENIS in ways that bring maximum pleasure without my friends experiencing orgasm, or holding off on orgasm as long as possible. Do you have any recommended resources?