Ask The Batemaster: My Uncle Taught Me

There are numerous benefits to encouraging open and honest information and attitudes about male masturbation

QUESTION: We’re not supposed to talk about family stuff like this on BW, I guess. But let me tell you, on a camping trip growing up I asked my uncle about jacking off, and he told me the truth. He described how he did it and how often. It was at my request, so I don’t feel ashamed. I loved it and he loved sharing. Why is this supposed to be so wrong?

RESPONSE: This general topic keeps rearing its head (pun fully intended) among those guys who ask me questions. Because many men confide their personal stories in me, I know that such experiences are more common than people usually care to admit in a public context.

Rather than struggle with the specific right or wrong about your situation (in your case, it was apparently not exploitive) what I definitely advocate is greater openness and education for young people concerning the benefits and simple fun of masturbation. There are numerous benefits to encouraging open and honest information and attitudes about male masturbation:

1. It is natural, healthy fun and feels incredibly good, so long as you get past any irrational shame or guilt about it;
2. Full enjoyment of masturbation is good for your self-esteem;
3. It’s a great way to reduce the spread of STDs and unwanted pregnancies;
4. To encourage guys to masturbate and to masturbate with other guys just for the physical pleasure is a great way to take unwanted sexual pressure off of girls and young women;
5. Male masturbation generates blissful brain chemicals and also beneficial hormones.

Aside from the legalities concerning age and blood relations (which are well known), for younger and less experienced guys to guys to be mentored and taught the finer points of self-pleasure by older, more experienced guys in legal and sensible ways, benefits the upcoming generations. When age-ism is not a barrier—as it need not be—this kind of sharing can also enhance the lives of the older guys. In practice, it is a tradition that can prove beneficial both ways, and the tradition has existed in many cultures.

I encourage all men to consider the benefits of not only masturbating freely and as much as you wish, but also sharing in true phallic brotherhood with fellow human males. More than ever, all the evidence points to the fact that most guys tend to be turned on by penises and almost anything to do with masturbation. The latest scientific studies that track where men actually look reveal that so-called straight guys watching so-called straight porn are often focused a lot upon the penises of the male models.

This is natural, normal, and inevitable. The entire labeling of humans according to “gay, bisexual, or straight” is an artificial and simplistic system. Most guys love to masturbate—though many could use specific pointers on developing their self-pleasure skills. The majority of fellows also have some interest in seeing the penises of other fellows.

What we need to get past is limiting labels and conditioning that may still undervalue masturbation, to suggest that it’s a substitute for something else. Male masturbation, solo, mutual or in a group, is one of life’s greatest pleasure and should be honored and treasured for its own sake.

However, you learned the finer points of it, share what works best for you and pass it on.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your body or sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.