As human lifespans have increased, more and more men share many of these concerns while living longer.
QUESTION: Now that I’m over 80 years old, though I still think about sex a lot, my erections don’t get very hard and they don’t last more than a few minutes. It’s really difficult to come at all! I still want to enjoy all this, at least masturbation, but I can’t take E.D. meds because of other meds. What can I do?
RESPONSE: As human lifespans have increased, more and more men share many of these concerns while living longer. In response to similar questions before, I have suggested such practices as anal breathing, to exercise the perineum, to strengthen erections and help sustain erections longer: breathe IN while you contract the anus; breathe OUT while you relax the anus. I’ve often pointed out that stimulating a soft penis with plenty of lubrication can result in powerful pleasure as well.
Erotic pleasure does register in your mind, as a byproduct of brain activity, and it gets activated in the brain two basic ways. The first way is through stimulation of pleasure receptor nerves, on the penis and other sensitive regions, such as nipples and lips. The second way is through arousing thoughts or processing erotic images such as looking at porn or enjoying explicit fantasies of a mental nature. Thus, these two basic causes are physical stimulation, and mental or emotional stimulation.
Another approach to increase your range of pleasure as you grow older and some of the physical functions may become less rewarding, is to explore other sensory options, which you may not have considered as masturbatory pleasures, but that you can add. Consider stimulating less obvious parts of your body: sensitive zones such as behind your knees, inner elbows, armpits, your neck below your jawline, between your toes. Explore these areas with delicate, mindful touch, which simply means take your time and pay full attention.
Consider caressing yourself all over in a bathtub or hot tub underwater. Spend time naked outdoors in nature, somewhat would places where you have sufficient privacy to do so without getting into trouble. If possible, sunbathe naked in places where you have never been before.
The truth of human sexuality is that “thinking about sex a lot” is always a large part of what’s going on. This is not to say that it’s “all in your mind,” as that’s not the entire story either. Still, if you seek to broaden the parameters of what you may consider your masturbatory pleasure, include the rest of your body beyond your genitals. Allow your enjoyment to extend into a variety of sensual and sensory pleasures: marvelous sights, sounds, smells, tastes, textures. Deep appreciation of all these may enhance your enjoyment of life.
Many men who are aging begin to get nostalgic for the intensity of erections and sensation they enjoyed in younger years, but this focus of regret can also become a distraction from enjoying fully what functions you still have, as well as exploring a wider range of enjoyable options.
Never give up on your quest for pleasure but keep your focus on what you really can enjoy.
This article will also help you further your masturbation without a full erection.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
Good for this guy. I want to still be masturbating if I reach 80
I’m 79 and masturbate regularly, having learned the “art” of edging, thanks to Bruce and others. I wish I’d learned about this when younger, but it’s “never too late,” I’ve found!
I’ve been very limited in my m2m experiences, but have enjoyed the ones I’ve been fortunate to have. I’ve been married for 55 years, but my wife and I no longer are physically sexual. Masturbation used to be though of, even by me, as a poor substitute for “real” sex, but in my 30s I learned, mainly from Shere Hite’s study on male sexuality, that it’s common amongst all men, even married ones. Doing this artfully and patiently is sometimes tricky, but …
Bate away, brothers! And give God thanks daily for Bruce et al!
At 66 I’m still a daily masturbator, I enjoy doing it very much. But I no long get erect like I used to but the pleasure is still there and of course I do enjoy it still. So changes do happen ‘down there’ my loads aren’t what they used to be, don’t really pre much, nor do I ejaculate like I used to. As long as its still pleasureful I’ll keep masturbating.
Regarding the 80 year old who still wants to masturbate and to older men in general. I am 71 and found out 4 years ago that I had a low testosterone level. I had lost interest in sex and incorrectly thought that it was something that came with age. Boy, was I wrong! Started testosterone injection therapy and within weeks became hornier that I had been since I was a teenager. I masturbate daily and can come two or three times a day! Had thought that my sex life was over but the therapy changed that. It’s the best thing that I ever did for myself! So guys, if your an older man who has lost interest in sex, do yourself a favor and go see an Urologist and get your T-level checked. It just might renew your interest in man’s favorite sport!