Ask The Batemaster: I Think I’m Gay…

QUESTION: I’m 26 and live outside the USA in a different culture, so I’m not embarrassed to admit I’m still a virgin. I am a member of BW and love to see the penises, erections, guys stroking, but I’m worried this means I’m gay. Is there anything I can do to change this?

RESPONSE: There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age, though it also means you are less likely to be sure about your sexuality. Experience helps you to know what kind of sexuality actually works best for you. The truth is, even experience may not make such things clear until you are older.

One major issue here is that you seem anxious to avoid the label of being “gay.” Perhaps in your culture that is considered a negative label, while being a virgin is not, or it’s even a virtue if unmarried. Often people claim they are a virgin because they want to save themselves for marriage. That’s definitely a two-edged sword, as to be a virgin may satisfy someone else’s expectations, but on a personal level it may leave you unaware of what is actually involved in sexual relations. It may leave you feeling awkward and inadequate, especially when faced with sexual experience with someone else.

If you are “worried” it means that you are gay, you must consider “gay” a negative label, at least in the eyes of others. However, in today’s world it is healthy and wise to break free from such simplistic labels. Because male bodies and masturbatory activity turn you on simply means you are much like many humans. Lacking actual experience with partners of either sex, it’s best not to make assumptions about yourself.

My honest opinion is that most human males (in fact most human beings) have some degree of genuine bisexuality, which is the potential to be attracted to and experience erotic connection with people of either primary gender, female or male. Much of how we label ourselves may be for the sake of how we think others should see us. Your opinion of yourself is far more important.

Make no apology for being a virgin. Also, don’t try to determine your sexual identity before you have more actual experience. If you turn out to be same sex attracted, it’s best to accept and embrace that as a gift, not a problem. Some other people in your environment may not approve, but most important is to approve of yourself, within you.

Meanwhile, enjoy your masturbation and enjoy everything on the site that stimulates you with bate fuel. It’s best not to try to change yourself, instead explore who you truly are, and don’t make assumptions ahead of time.

Humans are complex, and life is a mysterious adventure.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.