Ask The Batemaster: I Need Human Touch Again

Millions of men in the world are in pretty much the same situation as you at present…you need to be as realistic as you can about the dangers of COVID-19.

QUESTION: I’m sick and tired of all this social isolation stuff. Used to hook up with guys a lot. I masturbate to porn a lot and cam pretty often too.  But it’s not enough for me; I really have this hunger for human touch. I also don’t want to get sick. What do you suggest?

RESPONSE: Millions of men in the world are in pretty much the same situation as you at present. The best thing I can suggest now is that you work on your own attitude, as much as possible. Your strong desire for human contact is part of a natural and healthy human need for touch. Humans do need touch, and touch deprivation can have serious consequences. If you are not in lockdown with someone you can at least hug and touch and caress casually, it’s a difficult situation to deal with.

At the same time, you need to be as realistic as you can about the dangers of COVID-19. We continue to learn about this virus, while a great deal remains unknown. That unknown element is really worth being aware of and being very careful about. The matters of how the infection transmits, how serious any given case will be, possible permanent damage to organ systems, all remain genuine concerns. 

Another aspect of this challenging issue is that if you allow frustration of touch and more intimate contact to endanger your safety, there are other viruses and forms of STD around also. There is no reason for paranoia, merely caution, care and awareness.

My best suggestion in the current circumstances as the summer of 2020 moves toward autumn is that you take the opportunity to try to be honest with yourself about your practice of masturbation. Have you considered that it could be made a lot more rewarding to you, if you deliberately seek to improve the intensity and duration of your masturbatory pleasure?

Try to be honest with yourself about whether or not you might be in a rut, doing pretty much the same limited routines over and over. I suggest that you video record some of your masturbation sessions, even if it’s just with a phone. Watch them, let them arouse you, but also observe yourself. Can you practice in a more creative and varied manner? This is a major theme in the work I’ve done with men over the last 20 year. 

Have you truly developed and refined your edging skills, considering that if you ejaculate less often you might enjoy a lot more pleasure in the process? Have you incorporated anal stimulation? If not, that’s something to try! Caress other parts of your body with one hand while the other strokes your penis. Have you considered avoiding porn during some sessions, to focus on just your own mental fantasies, or even looking in a mirror instead? Variety is a major key!

There are actually numberless ways you may increase your enjoyment of masturbation. To explore these and other options during this time when it may be a lot safer than seeking another partner in-person, is a really excellent opportunity!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.