If he’s really such a good friend, hopefully he can understand your preference.
QUESTION: My best friend since high school and I still love to bate together. We have evenings of watching porn together and get into mutual stroking of each other’s penises, plus some nice kissing. Only thing is, I really get what you say about semen retention, way beyond edging. I don’t want to shoot very often, but my buddy thinks it’s funny to force me over the edge. I don’t think it’s funny! How can I convince him not to do this?
RESPONSE: You really need to communicate to him honestly. What you guys share as Phallic Brothers sounds really special and hot. If he’s really such a good friend, hopefully he can be made to understand your preference. Or if he’s not persuadable, you may have to either resign yourself to sometimes ejaculating when you share these wonderful evenings or consider doing it less often if it really is important to you to keep your semen in your body.
Many guys have trouble understanding why some other guys get so intensely into retaining semen and work hard not to go over the edge very often. This is an issue for me, also, though most of my masturbation buddies are online. Often, they are coaching students who I am teaching Mindful Masturbation to. I never insist guys work on edging without ejaculating any longer than they want to, but I do encourage every guy to explore this as an option.
Instead of the focus on racing to the finish line to shoot your wad, even if you’ve done quite a few laps around the field to get there, choose to spend longer periods in really high states. You might even learn to remain for long intervals close to the edge, or learn to trigger dry orgasms, and/or multiple dry orgasms. This is the gourmet option for many male masturbators.
Another benefit, which you might try to explain to your friend, is that when you choose not to ejaculate every time you masturbate, then when you resume it’s easy to get an erection again, even really soon after the last session. Plus, the way your body and brain work, it’s like you hit the reset button. Very quickly you find yourself again at the high states of pure penis pleasure you were at during the previous session.
Though I do not take all of the ancient Chinese Taoist teachings and the Tantra from India literally, both traditions of what we could call “sacred sexuality” also contain a lot of truth. The most important thing they offer is awareness that men are capable of experiencing extremely intense, prolonged, profound periods of erotic ecstasy, which are highly beneficial. In the Far East, these are spiritual traditions, and they are not just ideas, they truly work.
You don’t need to call it “spiritual” to enjoy semen retention tremendously and to benefit from ejaculating less often.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
Amen to all of the above. Keep on keepin it ON.