QUESTION: I am a physician, an M.D. in my 30s who has long been a fan of your teachings. I work in an Emergency Room, which is very stressful and the hours long. I’m single, so your kind of masturbation really helps more than I can tell you. I read your columns here. Could you present a simple summary of a few of the most important points on how to Masturbate Mindfully?
RESPONSE: The first six suggestions on how to masturbate mindfully involve many specific practices that can enhance your practice: 1.) breathing deeply; 2.) keeping relaxed; 3.) keeping the focus on yourself; 4.) varying your strokes; 5.) taking care of yourself; and 6.) refining your practice. As you actually enact and put together these techniques in this order, you may begin to access more intense pure penis pleasure for longer periods than ever before! From here on, part of the process involves that awareness of paying full attention, along with an open-minded attitude.
7. Surrender: At this point, nothing can get in the way of you experiencing higher levels of erotic ecstasy than ever—except you. It helps to truly “get out of your own way.” Any lingering traces of guilt or shame about masturbation and your penis, can be overcome best by total surrender to how incredibly good this kind of masturbation feels! You can only get so far using logic or your rational mind, but the blissful electro-chemical sensations that begin to flood through your body and brain when you surrender in this way become transformational.
This is where the power of Mindful Masturbation begins to offer you unexpected gifts, both within you and around you. Within your, you may become aware of a kind of ancestral energy, a deeper connection with all those male ancestors encoded in your DNA. They loved the sensations of the aroused penis, and their pleasure ended up being your own legacy. Your penis, your male sexuality are direct gifts from all of those internal men. Beyond your body, the sensations and states of expanded awareness this practice brings can help you feel increasingly connected with Nature itself, the biome that produced your body, that contains and sustains you.
8. Limitless Bliss: You may wish to explore the farthest frontiers of “edging” or semen retention by ejaculating less often and ending sessions more often without ejaculation. A.) You can simply relax in the aftermath, take time to deeply relish the afterglow, and consciously absorb the blissful energy of the session so it becomes part of you. Don’t rush to get up, check your phone or email; keep relaxed. B.) Or you can do a Big Draw. Put simply, this means that after a fairly long session (at least 1/2 hour) with deep breathing, take three deep breaths. Hold the third breath IN and tighten all the muscles in your body you can, including your anus, for about 10 or 12 seconds. Then release your breath, relax all muscles. You may experience a full body orgasm, which may seem like mildly floating, or may include fairly dramatic sensations. Take time.
9. One With All Things: Some deeper and higher aspects of Mindful Masturbation have become available to you. What is it all for? What is it all about? Simple pleasure is enough. Also, you discover that there seems to be unlimited bliss in the Universe; perhaps only you come and go from it, but it is there all the time! You no longer cling to pleasure so much or push away pain. Let everything flow through you. Mindful Masturbation helps you to feel fully, intensely, profoundly alive! On deeper and higher levels, nothing is separate from anything else. You are One with everything that exists!
Please enjoy yourself!
Click here for Part 1 & Part 2 of the Mindful Masturbation Series
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
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